Chest ruining my life

peachesandcream

im completley feed up with my chest. im pretty slim but in the last two years my chest just hasent stopped growing. i feel like a freak!sick sick sick of people staring at it, making comments, getting the wrong atention from the wrong guys, clothes not fitting or looking stupid. just dont want to spend the rest of my life feeling like this. love to have the money for a reduction but cant see that happening anytime soon. has anyone else had these feelings? what they do?

peachesandcream

typical. this is what im talking about

LegacyUser

peachesandcream wrote:

typical. this is what im talking about

Have you investigate the possibility of getting on some sort of "list" via your doctor to get it done for free?

PowerHouseDan

There is always going to be guys looking at your chest and maybe your interested in you because of your chest. That Guys for you. But alot of guys look at girls in different aspects not just chest i Will put my hand up and say i would look at a girl with a big chest, Nice looking in general but wouldnt make me more attracted to her. A Big Chest isent going to make you get on with the girl, Prefer a Nice girl that isent up herself cause she has a big chest and get a big head like yourself. What do to with the situation is a different matter than i dont have a clue but i am sure boards will give you some advice..

Best of Luck Either Way.

Draupnir

ShreddedHumans is on fire today. Good work asshole.

OP: I wouldnt let it bother you too much, its not like the people making these comments or making you feel uncomfortable are particularly important to you. Let it pass you by without caring and just enjoy being yourself and having fun irrespective of other peoples ideas.

peachesandcream

i wish i could but i just cant help feeling uncomfortable. might be ok for a few weeks then some gropus of lads will shout something at me or something and i just feel bad again. going on holidays in september. absolutly dreading it.

PowerHouseDan

Your Young dont get yourself hung up about it. Have you talked to your Parents about it?

flogen

if it's something that is truely upsetting you, you could always look into a reduction, if they're that big they could become a health problem in later life too, so perhaps getting it done early is a good idea.
Saying that, any kind of cosmetic operation should be thought about at length before any action is taken.
As for guys staring at you, there's little you can do. Just figure the best way to politely tell them where to go, try and enjoy yourself when you're out and try and focus on any positive attention you may recieve (eg, people who aren't leering at your chest). Men are men, and generally they like boobs. Some are clever enough to not stare, but many are far too stupid for that.

AARRRGH

Relax!

The problem I see here is: why do other peoples opinions affect you so much?

Seriously now, I am sure you have a fantatic body - slim and big boobs. You should be happy about this (unless clothes don't fit you - minor tbh - and your back is hurting.) Your "assets" will come in very handy some day.

Just ignore the retards who shout at you. They're just retards, aren't they? And they'd do anything to have the chest you have/be able to touch the chest you have.

...

A friend of mine got a breat reduction. While it does look good, she will be scarred for the rest of her life, and her nipples will never have sensation in them again. So it is not quite a simple solution!

Really, don't let this get you down. DON'T LET OTHER PEOPLE GET YOU DOWN. It's really a "minor" problem, and as a 27 year old guy who has seen it all/done it all, I assure you your chest will be a great weapon for you some day!

cregser

As a man I can tell you we find it really hard to resist looking at boobs. Sorry, but that's the way it is. Especially with young guys that are suddenly finding all these attractive features appearing on girls they've probably known since junior infants. The guys that shout at you are just having fun and some think they're actually complementing you. They have never considered what it's like for you. If anything, they want to be you so they can play with your boobs all day! It's more to do with the testostrone in their blood stream than you. You SHOULD NOT take it to heart.

I'm turning 21 and only now realising that some girls actually resent their appearance (even the good looking ones) because of the attention they get. It can effect their personality and they become, on the outside at least... bitches. On the other side of the coin other girls realise this new power they have over men with these new tools of manipulation. But if a guy is willing to do anything for you when you simply stick your chest out, he's not really worth your time. You have to find the right balance and eventually learn how to ignore the a***oles and find out who the good guys are.

But as a guy I have no idea how easy/hard that is. Some women cover their cleavage with sweatshirts and wear baseball caps to avoid eye contact when their really not in the mood for attention. But I think you should embrace what you are.

neadla

Well I'd prefer to be like that than have nothing to show off..

I'm sure you are exaggerating a little

they can't be that big...no?

Ciao bella!

PowerHouseDan

There is always a Happy Medium.

neadla wrote:

Well I'd prefer to be like that than have nothing to show off..

I'm sure you are exaggerating a little

they can't be that big...no?

Ciao bella!

The Clown Man

I agree with dublindude.

Don't worry about what other people shout or whatever. Certainly no reason to feel bad. In a few years when you are all settled with a bf they will be your pride and joy.

And his most likely.

CathyMoran

I too was paranoid about my chest, I used to wear loose tops to disguise them which made me look fat. In the end I realised that I should be pleased about what I have, girls are getting surgery to get what I have so I should be pleased with them. There are ways to make them less noticeable (the best being halterneck tops and bicinis), but in the end I am glad that I have mine.

WhiteWashMan

GuyNo4 wrote:

don't worry about that prick I'm messaging one of the mods about getting that ****er banned

banned for personal abuse.

Webmonkey

I would suggest reviewing ShreddedHumans posts WWM.

cordelia

There are ways to help reduce the overall appearance of your breasts.

The most important advice is to make sure that you are fitted with the right bra. One that is supportive and the right style. Really, bras can go a long way towards diminishing or enhancing one's shape. It would be a good idea to go into a good department store and have someone who's been trained actually measure you and make recommendations. This can go a long way towards making things look more in proportion. Large breasts can have long term health effects on the back. The right bra can help reduce those effects.

As well, the type of clothing you wear can also change the way you look. Solid colour tops and bottoms, straight lines are always good. I'm sure you already know what NOT to wear. Think about a more classic style of dressing. Think chic and sophisticated rather than teenager hip.

Don't hide behind baggy clothes or be ashamed. Attitude is everything. I have a friend who's well endowed but slim. She knows that fellas are looking at her breasts and accepted that this was inevitable. However, she's intelligent (Medical Intern) and is confident and has self-respect. She walks with her head held high. Most fellas don't bother with the comments because it's obvious that she isn't about to be intimidated or easily impressed. She gets treated with respect instead. They might be thinking things but they keep their mouths shut. The rest of the yobs are pretty unavoidable.

It's hard when your body changes so suddenly. But things will settle down and you will eventually get used to what you see in the mirror. Most of all, though, is to remember that attitude and style are everything.

Gordon

Webmonkey wrote:

I would suggest reviewing ShreddedHumans posts WWM.

(he was banned earlier)

bug

how old are you if you dont mind me asking?
Is this like a medical thing, have you recently gone on the pill or had some other type of hormonal change?

The reason Im asking is that if its a supplemental hormonal thing, you can change it by changing the pill for example. I've known of other girls who had similar issue under these circumstances.
If its naturally happening then I suggest you visit your gp (either way) or consult a "female friendly" clinic, like the ifpa to discuss the fact that you are not at all comfortable with the size of your chest.

The other side of the story is that perhaps surgery is a final option for you?
If you see it as at all possible to think of yourself as feminine and voluptuous and beautiful, perhaps, and im just saying perhaps, you should look at *yourself* in the mirror naked and see what *you* think, rather than what others do.

WhiteWashMan

Webmonkey wrote:

I would suggest reviewing ShreddedHumans posts WWM.

your suggestion has been noted.
thanks.

Webmonkey

WhiteWashMan wrote:

your suggestion has been noted.
thanks.

Cheers man

dudara

OP,

Am i right in saying that you're a teenager, cause this sounds exactly like what I went through myself when I was about 16.

I'm barely 5"1, and have a 36D bust. i was so utterly self-concious as a teenager, and until I was about 18 that i did all the usual fashion mistakes of baggy t-shirts, plaid shirts (thank god for grunge), etc to cover up the lads. I hated them and I hated their size.

However, things change as you'll grow up. you realise that they're just part of you, and you've got to make the best of them. Now, this doesn't mean stripper tasseled suede tops, but you do learn to dress in such a way as to emphasise yet not show them off, if you get me. Fitted t-shirts and tops are the way to go, in solid colours (Trust me, patterns don't work here).

If you also walk well, carrying yourself tall and confidently, then your breasts somehow don't seem as big, they just seem right on you.

cuckoo

I cannot over emphasise the difference a properly fitting bra makes. If you're in Dublin i find the staff in the lingerie departments of Clerys and Arnotts fantastic, go in some morning/afternoon during the week when it's quieter and they'll happily spend hours showing you different bras. Yup, they're more expensive than the the 34a/b bras that my less endowed friends can buy in Penneys, etc, but they make a world of difference to how clothes fit.

Also, doing something like yoga can help with posture, which makes the 'walk tall and proud' advice easier to follow.

Remember, if you're talking to a guy and he's staring at your chest a gentle reminder of 'you know, they won't talk back to you, so how about looking up and talking to ME' can work.

Khannie

cuckoo wrote:

I cannot over emphasise the difference a properly fitting bra makes.

I was just about to suggest this. My mate goes out with a girl that has very big boobs. You can get bras to make them look less noticable (she does), but you really need to have ones that fit properly. If they're even slightly too small (the bras) or ill fitting then your boobs are going to look gigantic.

Medium term, I'd seriously consider a boob reduction job (once it wont affect breastfeeding, etc.).

Hopeless

dublindude wrote:

Relax!

The problem I see here is: why do other peoples opinions affect you so much?

Seriously now, I am sure you have a fantatic body - slim and big boobs. You should be happy about this (unless clothes don't fit you - minor tbh - and your back is hurting.) Your "assets" will come in very handy some day.

Just ignore the retards who shout at you. They're just retards, aren't they? And they'd do anything to have the chest you have/be able to touch the chest you have.

...

A friend of mine got a breat reduction. While it does look good, she will be scarred for the rest of her life, and her nipples will never have sensation in them again. So it is not quite a simple solution!

Really, don't let this get you down. DON'T LET OTHER PEOPLE GET YOU DOWN. It's really a "minor" problem, and as a 27 year old guy who has seen it all/done it all, I assure you your chest will be a great weapon for you some day!

Yeah, completely agreed.

Also as a guy, I can say that yes, the eyes tend to wonder that way, but it's not the only thing we see in a girl, honest.

And as people have mentioned, hormones play a big part, if you speak with your doctor, you might be able to get some sort of medication even, I know girls who's bodies did funny things when they went on the pill, maybe it can work for the best for you?

Be proud of what you have by the way, just look at all the girls who feel self-concious about having small breasts!

ADUB?

OP
Personally I think you should be proud of who you are.
Be that Big Breast/Small Breast etc, thats part of you as a person. Breasts do not define a person!!
Men will always look at women, we are highly visual, and not tactful or discreet to be honest.
Anyone that cant give you the respect you deserve as a woman and is only 'into' your breasts so to speak is not worth knowing.

Guys will look cant change that but you can change you reaction to them
Simply ignore those knuckle scrappers!

If you changed your breasts and then guys looked at your butt (which they probably do) would you then have to change your butt?

peachesandcream

just a short message to thanks everyone for their advice with my "issue". it helped alot. out last night in town and got usual comments etc but as one person said they are "knuckledraggers" and i wont let them get to me anymore (i hope!). i think i may even do some bikini shopping tomorrow and not buy a granny one as usual!

scojones

Good on ya girl!

peachesandcream

forget about what i said before. im back to square one. inccident last (dont ask). cant just brush off comments etc im not strong enough

Beruthiel

comments from missing links should never affect you
seriously
they are taking up vital oxygen and when I rule the world they will be the first to go

have you ever turned around and asked one of these people how long it took them to think up that comment, that you are totally blown away by such a stunning intellect

galwaydude

peachesandcream im sorry you have been treated like that, like ruth said you should say something back when you get a pervy comment afterall its your body there learing at, keep the faith you should be proud of what you got and dont let mindless morons ruin it for you.

peachesandcream

i always say to myself i will say something back but when i comes to it i just get upset and walk away as quick as i can

The Clown Man

If it makes you feel any better I have found all pretty girls I've ever known get the same rap. My girlfriend got accosted on the bus, followed to work, whistled at from a shop by 3 laughing lads and had lude comments made to her by 2 kids on the luas. And that was only yesterday. It still bothers her a bit, otherwise she wouldn't be telling me about it, but she has pretty much accepted it as a fact of life.

There are always monkeys around. And to be honest they aren't taking the piss out of you. They aren't trying in some wierd way to attract you. They just lack the required intelligence to keep their mouths shut when they see someone they think is attractive.

Seriously, you'll accept it over time. Just remember anyone who shouts anything is simply too stupid to do otherwise. They can't help that they are socially retarded.

MiamiDancer

Hi!
I know exactly what your going through it is really hard to have a big chest and to have guys oogling at you all the time and making comments all the time. For years i felt the same way as you do i know exactly how you feel it’s easy to let the comments and the stares get you down but you really have to just ignore them. im not sure what age you are but when i was about 15 my body stopped growing and my chest kept growing and growing...... but the time i was 16 it was huge and it made me so depressed I tried everything i tried bandaging it so that it didn’t look so big I wore baggy clothes so it people couldn’t see how big it was i hated the way no nice tops would fit me I even had to wear a boys school shirt because the girls ones were pulled too tight.

When i started to go out with my friends it was a nightmare EVERY teenage boy is obsessed with "big TITS" I stopped going out for a while i was absolutely miserable. Your not alone peachesandcream there are a lot of girls out there in the same boat!!
I went and got measured for a bra and i had been wearing completely the wrong size i invested in a GOOD bra that was the proper size and you really wouldn’t believe the difference it made! My chest was supported properly (i wasn’t bouncing around!) it didn’t seem so big and my back pain disappeared in a few weeks. Your always going to come across stupid boys that will make comments about the size of your chest but you should hold your head high and be proud of your body. Nobody is happy with their body and there is always something people want to change girls with a small chest want a big one girls with a big chest want a small one. Girls are paying serious money to try get a figure like yours you should be proud of yours. Don’t get insulted by the stupid immature comments don’t even respond to them just ignore them i know that it may seem now that you’ll never be able to ignore them but take it from me your confidence will grow. If im walking down the street now and some stupid boy says anything i just look at them think what sad stupid lives they lead and stay walking with my head held high!!

Sleepy

The line: "it's comments like those that'll make sure you'll never get your hands near a pair this nice!" should be the first in your arsenal. Be proud of your figure, lots of women spend thousands for what you've been given naturally. Once someone realises (or even thinks) that you're proud of what you have they won't be long in leaving you alone.

Nevyn

They are either jealous or envious.

Comment on your attributes is the closest they will ever get to them or you.
They get mesmerised and uncomfortible with the effect your chest has on them.
So they lash out, esp when it becomes clear they have a better chance of
getting blow job off thier mother then getting to touch you.

So they state the galring obivious 'hey big tits', I used to answer that with
'oh so thats all you can think of to say then the blood rushes away from the head on your sholders.' or 'yes they are big and they are mine and no you cant touch them' or 'what needledick ? '

You need to find the self confidence to wear what you want and let it be
thier problem. You know you are more then your mamories and if that is all
they can comment on well then arent they sad little people with sad little
lives and a lack of imagination.

Chin up.

Dizzyblabla

MiamiDancer wrote:

When i started to go out with my friends it was a nightmare EVERY teenage boy is obsessed with "big TITS"

wow, I've met some very old teenagers in my time then!!
OP, if you got 'em, flaunt 'em! that's my moto anyway, I have a key-ring given to me years ago and on it, it says, "I may not be brilliant, but I have great breasts"
ok, it's only a joke, but it's going to happen for the rest of your life, so go out and get the figure hugging tops that fit well, low cut(ish), but not tacky, there's a very thin line, so be careful, you'll get more bad attention if you look trashy...

THEZAPPA

ive got big ones,but instead of moaning i just use them to get what i want!
but ive always been a good runner but with these getting bigger as the days go by,im afraid to run incase i give myself a black eye!

ow i wish they were a little smaller...........

Nevyn

Get fitted for a really good and secure sports bra.

THEZAPPA

Thaed wrote:

Get fitted for a really good and secure sports bra.

thanks,but ive already tried they are so so heavy(zappa starts to cry as she knows she will never run well again)

peachesandcream

is there any way i can tell if a guy likes me only cause of my chest? any suggestions would be good. i dont want to be used.

Bottle_of_Smoke

How do you define being used? I mean lotsa guys have a thing for girls with big chests, would you class a guy who thought this way to be a user?

peachesandcream

someone who isnt interetsed in me just my body someone who just wants to get me in bed and not interested in having a relationship with me cause he likes me for me

Bottle_of_Smoke

Well those guys just want to get someone(something even) into bed, It's not your breasts so stop blaming them!

You really sound like you've been hurt before but believe me it happens to everyone(men too!)I'd say your best bet is go for someone you just really connect well with and take your chances when ya can. I can't promise ya it's gonna work out but in the end all's fair in love and ice cream

And just cos you get into bed with someone and it doesnt work out, you shouldn't feel like you were used, you're getting laid too ya know!

is_that_so

Sometimes when we perceive something physically wrong with us we imagine that everyone else sees it as well, thinks less of us and that makes us feel even worse. I think that there have been some very good suggestions in the thread to help you resolve the physical part of the problem.
As regards relationships there is always a risk with someone we like, that it may not work out or we'll be hurt. Being comfortable in ourselves puts us in the right mind for it. IMHO this is probably of more importance to you at the moment.

Sleepy

peachesandcream wrote:

someone who isnt interetsed in me just my body someone who just wants to get me in bed and not interested in having a relationship with me cause he likes me for me

It may sound like advice from your mother, but just hold out on guys if you don't trust them. If all a guy's interested in is sex, he'll get bored in a week or two if he's not getting it...

(I feel like a traitor to my sex giving this advice )

Beruthiel

Sleepy wrote:

(I feel like a traitor to my sex giving this advice )

it's nothing we all don't know already sleepy

peachesandcream

dress up like a slapper and the reaction of guy is the same!

Victor

THEZAPPA wrote:

ive got big ones,but instead of moaning i just use them to get what i want!

Do you realise how much damage that does to women's goodwill?

Sleepy

TBH, Victor, the only thing a comment like that does damage to is other's perception of the one making the comment...

newgrange

peachesandcream wrote:

is there any way i can tell if a guy likes me only cause of my chest? any suggestions would be good. i dont want to be used.

Peaches, what you are (and what they want) is a million dollars.

MAKE THEM WORK FOR IT!!!

Nobody can 'use' you if you do not let them.

You have beautiful breasts, no matter what size they are, so do not let any losers who only slag what they know they would never have a chance of getting near bother you.

I think, from reading this thread, it's more a self-esteem issue with you. As others have said, you can get a really well-fitting bra which will deal with any support problems you are having. I'm sure the ladies in Arnotts (or wherever) would have suggestions about clothing types too, but most of all, think a bit about how you see yourself. Once you work a bit on your self-esteem comments by losers will not faze you at all, which is the way it should be.