Women!!

Panjo1982

What is it with women!!
Today i booked a nice weekend away for myself and the girlfriend as a surprise because we are together 5 years soon. I left her a voicemail to let her know the dates and name of the hotel we were going thinking it would be a nice surprise for her...

Low and behold i get a voicemail back a while ago and shes having a go at me saying i should have talked to her first before i booked amd that there was nothing to do in the place we were going...

After my inital shock that she could be so unappreciative i decided i'd stick a vote up here to see what you all think..

So that said should i have organised with her the dates and location of the trip or was i being a gent by organising the whole thing..

Kinetic^

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Dump her,how ungrateful can they be!!!!!!!!

Dinner

Its a catch 22, you cant win. You do a nice gesture, you get shouted at for not consulting her. You dont do it, she calls you unthoughtful, you consult her about it then somewhere down the line it'll be brought up in an arguement over how indecisive you are.

Gazza22

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Ah hell that was MEAN :eek: ...
Nah, you were a gent, spontaneous in other words...but maybe she just isn't that type, doesn't like surprises.

Hum nothing to do in the place? lol thats the biggest brushoff i have ever seen...what was she planning on doing on a romantic holiday?

So what was her big problem? Was there something important she had to do during those dates?

tinkerbell

I'm a woman, She was right to moan about it.

My god, that's one ignorant girlfriend you got there!

Feck sake, you go out and surprise her with a lovely trip away, and she gets pissed off at you! Totally ungrateful, she is!

Not all women are like that!

Dizzyblabla

I'm a woman, She was right to moan about it.

ooh my god!! what a silly cow!! - should she not be just happy that you get to spend some quality time together? (and I'm sure on a w/e away like that you could provide your own entertainment!!)

*sigh* I want a guy to bring me away for a w/e....

netwhizkid

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Originally posted by Panjo1982
I left her a voicemail to let her know the dates and name of the hotel we were going thinking it would be a nice surprise for her...

That isn't exactly the best way to a woman anything why didn't you just say call me back. Anyway women are so unpredicatble, isn't this the sort of lovey dovey crap their supposed to like. I asked a babe one time did she wanna make out after chatting for like 2 hrs and i got me drink all over me ! Women tell them they look handsome even when they look like a truck, and well :rolleyes:

Regards netwhizkid

Daelus

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

I think that's a great, spontaneous, romantic thing you did and she sounds a
bit ungrateful..

But what do I know, I'm a guy.

Gazza22

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Yeah agree on that one...that was not the way to do it man...voicemail!!? You should have sat down with her on a nice evening when you can tell shes not in a pissy humour or bring her out for a meal....but from what she did? She doesn't deserve it!

Dizzyblabla

I'm a woman, She was right to moan about it.

netwhizkid wrote:

That isn't exactly the best way to a woman anything why didn't you just say call me back. Anyway women are so unpredicatble, isn't this the sort of lovey dovey crap their supposed to like. I asked a babe one time did she wanna make out after chatting for like 2 hrs and i got me drink all over me ! Women tell them they look handsome even when they look like a truck, and well :rolleyes:

Regards netwhizkid

AAARRRGGGHHHH???!!!! YOU DON'T ASK!!! god boys are sooo bloody stoopid, and each day they prove it even further....
(sorry to go off the point, but It'll dirve me nuts otherwise) - if you talked to her for 2 hours, why didn't you just lean forward and go for the kiss, why the hell did you have to ask??

Silverfish

I think you did a good thing, and she's mental.

On the other hand, I'd be pretty infuriated to find out by voicemail - hard to make a romantic gesture in such an impersonal way....eh, can't quite explain it but it's annoying.

BUT!!! She could have said 'Did you have to do it by voicemail??' not moaned about where you were taking her.

That was a nice gesture, but phone her this time and say you're bringing someone else who'll appreciate it. The personal touch that means so much, and so on.

grimloch

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

you reckon shed be a little more grateful after you going to the trouble of booking a nice trip for her, id have loved a surprise trip myself tbh

she'll probably give out now that youve discussed the issue over the internet next

Mr.Nice Guy

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Your girlfriend acted like a Nazi. She's not like that all the time is she?

Boston

Go with your best mate instead.

Panjo1982

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Silverfish wrote:

I think you did a good thing, and she's mental.

On the other hand, I'd be pretty infuriated to find out by voicemail - hard to make a romantic gesture in such an impersonal way....eh, can't quite explain it but it's annoying.

BUT!!! She could have said 'Did you have to do it by voicemail??' not moaned about where you were taking her.

That was a nice gesture, but phone her this time and say you're bringing someone else who'll appreciate it. The personal touch that means so much, and so on.

No no the voicemail was not the problem, i tried ringing her a couple of times and i wanted it to be surprise because i wont see her all this week. How in gods name does a voicmail give her an excuse to moan about the trip?

Oh and by the way if she reads this tomorrow there will probably be murder,
So anyone (Female) want to join me for a short break in a luxury suite in july??

Sorry misses..

Silverfish

Okay, so the voicemail wasn't the problem.
You want opinions, I was just saying it wouldn't be my ideal way of finding out.

Panjo1982

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

Your girlfriend acted like a Nazi. She's not like that all the time is she?

No shes not usually like this..
Shes like most woman she has her moments but never like this..
She'll get over it when she realises that its a suite in a 4 star hotel..

Dizzyblabla

I'm a woman, She was right to moan about it.

how old is she? Is she one of those people who hate the countryside and doesn't give something a chance purely because they don't like the unknown? she still sounds like an unappreciative cow to me...

what exactly did she say about there not being anything to do there? Did she say thanks at all??

Panjo1982

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Silverfish wrote:

Okay, so the voicemail wasn't the problem.
You want opinions, I was just saying it wouldn't be my ideal way of finding out.

Ah come on now!
I was after organising a nice break away, putting in the effort, and i was on my break from work i tried to ring her and i just got her voicemail after everything i had done surely a trivial thing like a voicemail shouldnt annoy somebody..

Panjo1982

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Dizzyblabla wrote:

how old is she? Is she one of those people who hate the countryside and doesn't give something a chance purely because they don't like the unknown? she still sounds like an unappreciative cow to me...

what exactly did she say about there not being anything to do there? Did she say thanks at all??

When i rang her she managed to force out a thank you at the end..

Shes the same age as me 23.. No she likes the countryside like myself..
Its in tullamore, now i know its not exactly new york city or anything but surely there are a few pubs and things!!

Silverfish

Eh, listen, I already said it was a good thing and a nice gesture.

Can't ask for opinions then argue with people who differ even slightly!!
I just said that I personally would not like to find out by voicemail, and you won't change my opinion on that.

I never said she was completely right, I said she was mental. You said the issue was not with the voicemail, so leaving that out, I'm backing you up.

Victor

Dizzyblabla wrote:

why the hell did you have to ask??

So we don't get a drink in our faces ....

WOMEN!!!! :rolleyes:

Silverfish

Then DON'T ASK!!

MEN!!!!!

jesus_thats_gre

I choose both wrong... But the lions share lies with her..

I personally would have told her I booked it while not actually booking it..

Depending on her reaction (she might have something on over the dates you arranged that just cannot be missed) whent old, I would either decide to book or not book it straight after you break it to her.

I am so bad at explaining myself!!!

OY

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

I think that it was pretty selfish reaction. i mean even if it is not New York as you said, it is still a weekend away.
I do nto blame you for being angry about this. I would!

Squall

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Typical. Women complain men aren't considerate. We try to do something considerate and they turn around and act like it was inconsiderate. You cant win.

Dizzyblabla

I'm a woman, She was right to moan about it.

what I would do is google the area, the hotel, email her pics, if she doesn't do email, then print them out, do an inventory of things that you can do... if she still moans, DUMP HER! soo not worth your effort at all!

Silverfish

There's a 4 star hotel in Tullamore?? WTF? GTF!!!


Plenty to do in Tullamore. I think most of it has to do with drink, but still. Hey, is the Harriers still open?? I still have my membership card from 10 years ago.

Third_Echelon

She needs to be taught a lesson..

Get a refund on the weekend and hotel etc and buy her an xbox as an anniversary present.....

that'll show her....

0utshined

LiouVille wrote:

Go with your best mate instead.

+1

Third_Echelon

or you could bring her sister and typedef her all weekend...

jesus_thats_gre

Silverfish wrote:

There's a 4 star hotel in Tullamore?? WTF? GTF!!!

Spent the night in a fairly bling hotel in Tullamore about 6 months ago for a work thing.. Wasn't sure if it was 4 star but I suppose it could be the one alright..

jesus_thats_gre

Panjo1982 wrote:

Its in tullamore, now i know its not exactly new york city or anything but surely there are a few pubs and things!!

You are going to be shocked, that is all I can say!! Scary place!!

funk-you

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

if i'd gotten that reaction for doing that she'd never be going anywhere with me again and me and a mate would be getting very pissed in tullamore. actually come to think of it she'd never get anything off me again, not even bus fare. i'm glad my gf is appreciative.

Kernel

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

Women.... cant live with them...... ehh something something.

BloodBath

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

I live in Tullamore and tbh it is a bit of a **** hole but i've lived here most of my life so i'm bound to say that. Is it the bridge house hotel? If so that's a great hotel, really is top notch.

http://www.bridgehouse.com/index.html

Your a couple anyway, i'm sure ye can find plenty of things to keep you busy. If your going out i'd recomend pubs - de bruns, #1. Restaurants; Chinese - paddy field, Italian - mezzo or senior rico's, Thai - Shishir. If your looking for a proper restaurant the Anatolia is nice, the #1 restaurant isn't bad either but can be noisy at night as it's above the pub.

jesus_thats_gre

Whats the name of the club that is above a bar that is goes really really far back?

pred racer

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

leave her another voicemail saying sorry about booking the weekend without consulting with you, it wont be a problem in future as Im going to feic off and find a girl who might appreciate a surprise weekend!!

MrScruff

Maybe she just doesn't like suprises.

petes

netwhizkid wrote:

That isn't exactly the best way to a woman anything why didn't you just say call me back. Anyway women are so unpredicatble, isn't this the sort of lovey dovey crap their supposed to like. I asked a babe one time did she wanna make out after chatting for like 2 hrs and i got me drink all over me ! Women tell them they look handsome even when they look like a truck, and well :rolleyes:

Regards netwhizkid

Are you an american. "Do you wanna make out" now thats romantic.

*Sassy*

I'm a woman, She was right to moan about it.

That was a really sweet thing to do, I would be chuffed if my boyfriend did that for me.

I'm sure (well I hope) she'll apologise later for her initial reaction, which was pretty b1tchy and ungrateful I have to say!! But she probably just heard 'Tullamore' and thought WTF did he book there for when he could have booked anywhere in the country!!

Anyway, once she thinks about it (ie. you, her, luxury hotel room etc etc) she'll be thanking her lucky stars.

If not, get rid. I would jump at the chance to go anywhere any time with boyf for a break. It's not like she has to take time off work or anything. Maybe she had something else planned for that weekend?

lorraine78

I'm a woman, She was right to moan about it.

Hey,
Tell her to pull her head in. Alright Tullamore is not the most happening spot on the planet but there are plenty of good pubs and restaurants there. And if you are staying at either the Bridge House or the Tullamore Court...tell her to bring a cossie....as have a nice relaxing swim...They both have fairly good leisure facilities.
And I think the name of the club you are thinking of is No.1's
Enjoy

Trojan

This is dumping territory for me. Not due to the one specific incident, but I wouldn't put up with someone flying off the handling over such an issue.

Forget the joking, do actually go and find someone who really would appreciate it, because that girl sure as hell doesn't.

fintan

Maybe she has been dropping hints for the last year about somewhere she would love to go / do for a weekend, and she just flipped out when you did book a weekend away but got it arse ways?

I know that is no excuse for her reaction, but it might explain the situation.

Megatron

Panjo1982 wrote:

When i rang her she managed to force out a thank you at the end..

Shes the same age as me 23.. No she likes the countryside like myself..
Its in tullamore, now i know its not exactly new york city or anything but surely there are a few pubs and things!!

is it the pheonix Arms ?

Hugh Hefner

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

fintan wrote:

Maybe she has been dropping hints for the last year about somewhere she would love to go / do for a weekend, and she just flipped out when you did book a weekend away but got it arse ways?

I was thinking that too. Perhaps she was thinking, "5 years! I can't wait until he swoops me away to New York or Paris!" And then she hear Tullamore. Anyway, that's beside the point. She's still a self-involved ****.

BaZmO*

Trojan wrote:

This is dumping territory for me. Not due to the one specific incident, but I wouldn't put up with someone flying off the handling over such an issue.

LOL. Ya gotta laugh at some of the advice handed out around here sometimes.
Guy going out with a girl for "5" years, has an argument with her, and is immediately told to dump her. :rolleyes:

B.

Tar.Aldarion

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

BaZmO* wrote:

LOL. Ya gotta laugh at some of the advice handed out around here sometimes.
Guy going out with a girl for "5" years, has an argument with her, and is immediately told to dump her. :rolleyes:

B.

he should dump her! ah wait no that' ridiculous,she was a bit ungrateful she should say thanks a bunch and then give out

koneko

Panjo1982 wrote:

Its in tullamore, now i know its not exactly new york city or anything but surely there are a few pubs and things!!

That sounds like a riot, going all the way to some other place just to drink in a different pub

Despite that though, she sounds ungrateful and most likely regrets having a go at you. Tell her it upset you and she was way too harsh and see what she says. She shouldn't have reacted the way she did.

Trojan

BaZmO* wrote:

Guy going out with a girl for "5" years, has an argument with her, and is immediately told to dump her

If this girl is the type of person who flies into a rage at being told she's being taken to a hotel for a weekend break as a surprise 5 year anniversary present, then she is most certainly the kind of person I don't want to be going out with.

I stand by my comment.

benkenobi

I'm a man, She was right to moan about it.

how ungreatfull is that bint!!!!
lol although i feel youre pain i did something similar a while back my gf was living in england for a year and i booked flights over to see her, arived over to surprise her and got an earfull lol