Reaching Climax Multiple Times

Motley Crue

Me and my girlfriend were havin sex last week in a public toliet, because we wanted to experience having sex in public, and when all was said and done, she had come 5 times, but not in a row! Im just wondering if this is a hormone inbalance on her part. I mean, i wasnt that worried about it, but she had said that it was more times then she'd ever come before and she looked really worried, so i was hoping someone would have some advice. we were using condoms, durex extra safe, and we were going to try ribbed ones later this week. do u think this problem will continue?

i know this might not sound like a problem from a mans point of view, but to her it means she cant enjoy sex with me as much as she should be able to!

Gordon

I don't get it, she came 5 times, at the same time?

cordelia

She may feel overwhelmed at the sensations. Having multiple orgasms like that is a GOOD thing. Have 5 straight in a row may cause an aneurysm (but then again, whatta way to go...)

She was probably just really turned on by the situation, or physically because of the deeper penetration (depending on the position used).
Just tell her to relax and ENJOY!
BTW - you gotta brother?

Victor

Gordon wrote:

I don't get it, she came 5 times, at the same time?

Is 5 too much or too little?

And just how much time did the two of you occupy the toilet for?

cordelia

Is 5 too much or too little?

Yes, I'm a little curious as to what's upset her. Sounds like a rip roaring good time to me!

Gordon

I was seeing this quote:

Motley Crue wrote:

she had come 5 times, but not in a row!

In parallel?

Dreamer 7

Hey sometimes I think im a freak
With my fiance 5 yrs , 2 kids and no orgasam!!
When i help out i have one if you see what i mean but the handsfree option has never worked any advice??? :mad:

KlodaX

Dreamer 7 wrote:

Hey sometimes I think im a freak
With my fiance 5 yrs , 2 kids and no orgasam!!
When i help out i have one if you see what i mean but the handsfree option has never worked any advice??? :mad:

do you mean your hands or your fiances? if you mean yours just explain to him what you are doing and get him to do it for you! If you mean you want from penetration, try finding your gspot. Obviously the positions you are trying now aren't working for you. Read up on the gsport and try to get your fiance to find yours. Probably best just to try as many positions as possible to find the right ones.

For the origional poster, is the problem that your girl is coming way to fast? is it a problem that its quantity over quality?

Besprechen

please explain again this 5 times bit, in one cubicle and not in a row? how long between if not in a row?
didje leave and go back 30 mins later at 30 min intervals 5 times or what?

Bard

Am I the only one who thinks he's a bit of a knacker for having sex in a public toilet?

As for the five times thing, he probably means she said "Oh God!" five times.

nesf

Dreamer 7 wrote:

Hey sometimes I think im a freak
With my fiance 5 yrs , 2 kids and no orgasam!!
When i help out i have one if you see what i mean but the handsfree option has never worked any advice??? :mad:

Some women have a lot of trouble reaching orgasism through penetration, some can't come at all. It's generally a psychological issue, usually happens with a person who can't "leave themselves go". If someone is always really tense when having sex, it can be quite hard for them to climax.

I have a good friend who has never managed to climax with a guy, and she's old enough and has been in enough relationships to rule out the possibility that it was just because of a particular guy. She doesn't really enjoy sex though and looks at it as a requirement of being in a relationship rather than a pleasureable activity (the poor thing!).

Bard wrote:

As for the five times thing, he probably means she said "Oh God!" five times.

Brilliant

Blisterman

Are you just bragging that you made your girlfriend come 5 times?

Sleepy

nyeh, put an ice cube in your mouth and you'll top 5

echomadman

Is this not a thinly veiled "I had sex with a real girl guys and i'm so great she came 5 times" thread.
whats the personal issue here?

LegacyUser

nesf wrote:

Some women have a lot of trouble reaching orgasism through penetration, some can't come at all.
It's generally a psychological issue, usually happens with a person who can't "leave themselves go".

BS. Its because women need clitoral stimulation to become aroused and to eventually climax. During sex it can become awkward to stimulate this area. Aswell, maybe more men could educate themselves on the g-spot and where its located, instead of proclaiming that women don't climax because they have psychological issues.

nesf wrote:

I have a good friend who has never managed to climax with a guy, and she's old enough and has been in enough relationships to rule out the possibility that it was just because of a particular guy. She doesn't really enjoy sex though and looks at it as a requirement of being in a relationship rather than a pleasureable activity (the poor thing!).

I'd advise you to tell her to try masturbation, or else get a decent bloke who cares about her needs.

Victor

OK, chill folks.

mad m

As the women in that film (harry met sally) said ill have what she is having...

Bottle_of_Smoke

Aswell, maybe more men could educate themselves on the g-spot and where its located, instead of proclaiming that women don't climax because they have psychological issues.

Nah, reeks of effort, I've had my fun - and that's all that matters.


you make a good point all the same

KlodaX

Quote:
Originally Posted by nesf
Some women have a lot of trouble reaching orgasism through penetration, some can't come at all.
It's generally a psychological issue, usually happens with a person who can't "leave themselves go".

BS. Its because women need clitoral stimulation to become aroused and to eventually climax. During sex it can become awkward to stimulate this area. Aswell, maybe more men could educate themselves on the g-spot and where its located, instead of proclaiming that women don't climax because they have psychological issues.

LMAO ... brilliant.

joejoem

Motley Crue wrote:

and when all was said and done, she had come 5 times, but not in a row!

i know this might not sound like a problem from a mans point of view, but to her it means she cant enjoy sex with me as much as she should be able to!

What do you mean not in a row? And I thought this would be better for the woman. We need to know the problem before we could offer a solution...

pickarooney

moochy wrote:

BS. Its because women need clitoral stimulation to become aroused and to eventually climax. During sex it can become awkward to stimulate this area. Aswell, maybe more men could educate themselves on the g-spot and where its located, instead of proclaiming that women don't climax because they have psychological issues.


I'd advise you to tell her to try masturbation, or else get a decent bloke who cares about her needs.

The man needs to educate himself on where to locate the g-spot and the woman needs to be told to try masturbation. I love it!

Who were you giving relationship advice to anyway, the woman who has 5 non-consecutive, non-simultaneous orgams or the woman with two children and a five-year relationship?

*Page*

It took me 6 years and a few different partners to climax even once!!!
now its great. its nothing to be worried about. all it means was your where hitting it on the nail!!

fair play and do it again!!!

pretty-in-pink

This looks like a troll.........but I'll reply anyway, just in case its not

Now if she had ejaculated, I can see the problem (embarassment), but I fail to see how 5 orgasms is a bad thing. And if they were not in a row, what were they? All at once? That would be one orgasm. Methinks the OP doesn't fully comprehend how women and sex work........

Does she have issues that she came in public prehaps? That she feels dirty and slutty? (A public bathroom! :eek: That can't be very comfortable)

If a woman has...issues...it can block orgasms, repression would be an example, as would a rape victim, or incest victim- any kind of forced sexual contact can put you off for years(or turn you kinda slutty)

As for woman-with-kids-but-no-orgasm, buy a vibrator, and get playing. Soon enough you should be having orgasms with your man....Assuming you are completely happy with him and your life, its just a matter of fine-tuning your body, and his skills.

I can't imagine not having an orgasm of some description TBH, but I know plenty of people who havn't had one ever, so I guess its a common problem. Just forget about chasing one down....pressure to come makes you not come, as you're to stressed out. Strange how really trying to get something like an orgasm makes you unable to get one at all.

Sleepy

moochy wrote:

BS. Its because women need clitoral stimulation to become aroused and to eventually climax. During sex it can become awkward to stimulate this area. Aswell, maybe more men could educate themselves on the g-spot and where its located, instead of proclaiming that women don't climax because they have psychological issues.

Way to make things worse for the girls that do have the whole thing in their heads. Quite a few women seem to have trouble with letting go enough to allow themselves orgasm, making them feel like freaks for their fears isn't the best way to go about helping tbh.

True, there are probably loads of (younger?) guys out there who haven't much of a clue what they're doing but it takes two to tango and if your partner's not doing something right it's as much your fault for not showing them how you like it done than theirs for not instinctively knowing.

nesf

moochy wrote:

BS. Its because women need clitoral stimulation to become aroused and to eventually climax. During sex it can become awkward to stimulate this area. Aswell, maybe more men could educate themselves on the g-spot and where its located, instead of proclaiming that women don't climax because they have psychological issues.

Ok, where to start...

First off, get off your high horse and quit the BS about me proclaiming that women don't climax because of psychological issues because I need an education on on where the g-spot. I have no trouble in bed with a woman, but I really don't see that as being of any relevance to this topic. Attacking me personally doesn't make your points correct, as much as you'd like that.

Right now from a purely objective point of view.

Psychological issues are the one of the biggest factors in sexual dysfunction. Impotence in men and premature ejaculation are both easily the result of psychological factors. So psychological factors are not something uncommon in sex problems to start off.

Now to quote an MD

Because many females are unable reach climax at all with vaginal intercourse (no matter how prolonged), this situation may actually represent delayed orgasm for the female partner rather than simply PE for the male; the problem can be either or both, depending on the point of view. This highlights the importance of obtaining a thorough sexual history from the patient (and preferably from the couple).

Source: http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic643.htm

From the above, you can see that females unable to reach climax with vaginal intercourse, is medically recognised. Yes, alot of these women can reach climax through masturbation or oral sex, but for them vaginal sex is not going to result in climax for her.

Now from a study commissioned by a diabetes group:

The researchers concluded that in this study there was evidence of sexual dysfunction being related to general psychological factors in both women with diabetes and control women.

Our attempt to find significant predictors of sexual dysfunction showed only depression to be a significant predictor of sexual dysfunction. This suggests that, in both women with diabetes and control women, sexual dysfunction seems to be related to psychological rather than other factors.

from here: http://www.ezeediabetes.co.za/skyhighfemalesexualproblems.asp

Again, sexual dysfunction and psychological factors being linked together.

From the same site, suggestions that sexual dysfunction is quite widespread:

Recent research suggests that possibly as many as 40% of women may be affected by some sexual dysfunction. Such women, for example, may have never felt sexually excited or even had an orgasm.

and more, agreeing with your points and mine (they are not mutually exclusive btw)

Female Orgasmic Disorder: One of the most frequently used sexual myths is that all women experience orgasm with penile penetration and thrusting. In fact, research has indicated that only 25% of women regularly achieve orgasm in this manner, leaving a greater majority of 75% of women who need additional clitoral stimulation.

It is estimated that 12% of women are anorgasmic (never reach a climax). Many women enjoy pleasurable sex and feel close and loving towards their partner during lovemaking without achieving orgasm.

And finally, from a BBC article:

Women differ from men in that orgasm is a learned, not automatic, response. About five to ten percent of women never have an orgasm through any type of sexual activity - a condition called anorgasmia.

Anorgasmia is most often the result of sexual inexperience, performance anxiety, or past experiences, such as sexual trauma or a strict upbringing, that have led to an inhibition of sexual response.

Source: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/medical_notes/486081.stm


Point proved?

Or are you still going to try and flame me?

Keyzer

I find it quite odd that the op hasn't responded to any of the replies (unless I'm doing a stevie wonder on this thread)...

Anyhoo, I'm amazed that no one else has hinted at the the fact that maybe she hit the jackpot 5 times because it was a fantasy be acted out, and the fact that you could have been caught??? People who are into public sex say its the fact that they could be caught that makes them do it, so maybe this is why she had such a reaction...

Secondly, having sex in a public toilet is disgusting (unless you cleaned it beforehand with domestos or something), try somewhere different next time somewhere where you don't have the chance of catching god knows what...

*Page*

"Now if she had ejaculated, I can see the problem (embarassment), "

god no it shouldn't be embarassing! its great feels great (a bit messy) but f£$k it!

Keyzer

*Page* wrote:

"Now if she had ejaculated, I can see the problem (embarassment), "

god no it shouldn't be embarassing! its great feels great (a bit messy) but f£$k it!

Describe please, you have me curious...

Sleepy

One of the biggest compliments a guy can get in bed I reckon.

Strangely an ex of mine was able to ejaculate but completely unable to orgasm no matter what we tried. She never seemed that bothered by it though and it certainly didn't effect her (somewhat rampant) sex-drive.

Iago

moochy wrote:

BS. Its because women need clitoral stimulation to become aroused and to eventually climax. During sex it can become awkward to stimulate this area. Aswell, maybe more men could educate themselves on the g-spot and where its located, instead of proclaiming that women don't climax because they have psychological issues.


I'd advise you to tell her to try masturbation, or else get a decent bloke who cares about her needs.

True and yet false at the same time. It's a well known fact that people of both sexes can have trouble orgasming if they have psychological or mental blocks towards physical intimacy for whatever reason. It happens all the time, even in short periods where the mood isn't right or something else is on their mind and although their partner knows how to turn them on and bring them to orgasm it just doesn't happen.

I agree that for the most part men don't pay enough attention to their partners needs, particularily a short-term partner, rather than when in a committed relationship, and that foreplay is equated with playing golf with the lads on a Saturday! but even when you push all the right buttons sometimes it just doesn't happen..for both sexes.

Masturbation is normally a good way to work your way around these issues, get to know your own body and what turns you on but unfortunately a lot of the time there is a negative association with anything sexual and masturbation won't help address this.

If you are having trouble orgasming change the surroundings, change the mood, try and establish a good atmosphere. You could have a nice dinner, a bottle of wine, some relaxing music and chat, get very tactile without being overtly sexual, playing with hair, stroking arms, massaging shoulders and back. Even when you begin sexual contact don't concentrate on the established areas, stroke and kiss the arms, back, legs. Move all over the body gently and slowly, take your time and watch for indications that your partner is enjoying something in particular, it might be their neck or their forearm, their back, or their thighs..the whole body can be an errogenous zone if treated correctly. Set out with the sole aim of pleasing your partner and you won't go far wrong

pretty-in-pink

*Page* wrote:

"Now if she had ejaculated, I can see the problem (embarassment), "

god no it shouldn't be embarassing! its great feels great (a bit messy) but f£$k it!

it embarasses the crap out of me. God, it just coming out, and the wetness. o i blush like i dunno what. The actual feeling of it is fantastic,

but the ....uh....mess shall we say...is not so fine.

*Page*

Its a climax, but as you climax you also ejaculate liquid. its been proven to be real. woman for years where getting operations to prevent urinating themselves during sex. when the liquid was analised they found it was the same that you get from a male prostate ejaculation!

it takes some woman a lot to do this or some not much at all!!

*Page*

the mess it easily fixed! go get a beach towel fold it in four and place it under you it catches most of it(all depending if you get me!~)

pretty-in-pink

That would work, but anytime its happened to me its been a surprise....

My fella likes it though, I guess you eventually get over the embarassement stage.

irlirishkev

naughty_girl wrote:

it embarasses the crap out of me. God, it just coming out, and the wetness. o i blush like i dunno what. The actual feeling of it is fantastic,
but the ....uh....mess shall we say...is not so fine.

Think how us guys feel.. every single time. Splurt..

pretty-in-pink

yeah but yours has a home- be it a condom or a person./ ours just flows/gushes out.

Sleepy

It's like the "sexperts" always say: messy sex means you're having good sex

Altheus

Yeah... female ejaculation is so messy, especially on black satin sheets. Great feeling of "I did that" at the end of the day though

pretty-in-pink

Ah yes, dear sweet Abi Titmuss........where would the world be if we didn't have your tips
(though not much of them are new, its funny to read them )

pretty-in-pink

Altheus wrote:

Yeah... female ejaculation is so messy, especially on black satin sheets. Great feeling of "I did that" at the end of the day though

for me its more like, "o good lord, what have i done", blush blush blush.

Thenget rid of the damage, and have some more fun...or a shower. Ahhhh couple showers.....

*Page*

I love it, ha ha first time it happened though(my bfs mothers bed!!!!!!) i thought i pee'd myself.. but my guy thought it was great! its fun... i really feel that nothing about sex should be embarassing. getting naked or anything at all. its all natural and fun!

i've done the out door thing and ye toilets aren't great. ours wasnt planned though drunken night and all.

Keyzer

Holy crap, loads of you are doing this... sounds great....
Does this usually happen from oral or intercourse?

*Page*

Mainly intercourse(you need a lot of pressure on the g spot! )but my guy is working on oral on doing it oraly!!

Sleepy

Tell him to use his fingers at the same time *Page*

pretty-in-pink

*Page* wrote:

I love it, ha ha first time it happened though(my bfs mothers bed!!!!!!) i thought i pee'd myself.. but my guy thought it was great! its fun... i really feel that nothing about sex should be embarassing. getting naked or anything at all. its all natural and fun!

i've done the out door thing and ye toilets aren't great. ours wasnt planned though drunken night and all.

I thought the same first time, tis the only thing that has embarassed me. Sex should be fun and exciting and a little wild at times.

Keyzer, anytime i've had it happen its been through some build-up (e.g no sex for a week, or lotsa flirting), some foreplay(mostly my doing, i like being in charge, sometimes), and dirty talk accompanied by regular sex.

Positoning varies, but doggy seems to be the best IMO. and some ones i don't know the name of.

Oral not needed(though hey add it in, casue its nice), .

Keyzer

Interesting, very interesting....

pretty-in-pink

indeed

dearg_doom

Sleepy wrote:

Way to make things worse for the girls that do have the whole thing in their heads. Quite a few women seem to have trouble with letting go enough to allow themselves orgasm, making them feel like freaks for their fears isn't the best way to go about helping tbh.

True, there are probably loads of (younger?) guys out there who haven't much of a clue what they're doing but it takes two to tango and if your partner's not doing something right it's as much your fault for not showing them how you like it done than theirs for not instinctively knowing.

+1

That is one of my biggest issues with (some) girls, ye know the ones who moan about how useless guys are in bed, but haven't told them what they want(yet they can't wait to tell me!![as if I give a ****;)])



GIRLS: we don't have vaginas or boobs but we like to play with them, whether we're doing something you like/hate, tell us!!

If you are too embarrassed to talk about sex with the guy you're ****ing, then why the hell are you shagging him??


*lol* on reading the rest of this thread, some ofn you guys need to get some quick, this is neither new nor exceptional... it's just normal SEX!!!!
/end rant:p

mycroft

Motley Crue wrote:

Me and my girlfriend were havin sex last week in a public toliet, because we wanted to experience having sex in public, and when all was said and done, she had come 5 times, but not in a row! Im just wondering if this is a hormone inbalance on her part. I mean, i wasnt that worried about it, but she had said that it was more times then she'd ever come before and she looked really worried, so i was hoping someone would have some advice. we were using condoms, durex extra safe, and we were going to try ribbed ones later this week. do u think this problem will continue?

i know this might not sound like a problem from a mans point of view, but to her it means she cant enjoy sex with me as much as she should be able to!

hang on a few months back you were whinging about not having friends a girlfriend constantly, now it's she's coming five times in one session (incidently who want to have sex in a public toilet, "god yes the stale scent of urine mixed with urinal cakes, is such a turn on")

I suspect you are just a troll. When my girlfriend has multipile orgasms theres no way the expression on her face could be described as "worried", the only person who's worried is me, cause I think this time she's burst one of my ear drums.

pickarooney

Do people really worry about germs and the smell of wee in the throes of passion?

mycroft

pickarooney wrote:

Do people really worry about germs and the smell of wee in the throes of passion?

No but when was the last time you were in a public toilet and thought to yourself "this place has the exact ambiance I'm looking for to take my lady friend"

The dude said he and his girlfriend

Me and my girlfriend were havin sex last week in a public toliet, because we wanted to experience having sex in public,

alledgly made the conscious descision to shag in a public decision it wasn't a "heat of the moment, can't not help ourselves"