Chatting up the local shop attendant?

Rossonero

I've posted about a diff girl here before, I'm still at a loss to what's happening with that
But, I decided I need to get that out of my head.

There's a shop near where I stay, and there's a real beautiful girl working there. I've never started a conversation with her, only smile and say hi.
She always says hi and smiles.
I notice that she doesn't to other customers but maybe, that's just because I'm a regular.
Anytime I'm at the end of the queue, she looks up and smiles when she sees me.

I'm not good at starting conversations, and the fact that I've been going in there for so long without saying anything makes it more difficult.
I don't know what I would say.

Any tips would be appreciated?

logic1

Long hard baguette filled with hot juicy sausage, dripping mayo and extra cheese please.

.logic.

mike65

As the only job here is to guage the level of interest in you, just go for the obvious like a comment on the state of the nation er I mean weather or a simple "are you well?" If she takes you up in conversation (make sure its quiet at the check out!) then you can feel hopeful depending on whether her reaction is to engage you with a follow up question/comment or not. Dont force the issue.

Mike.

Rossonero

logic1 wrote:

Long hard baguette filled with hot juicy sausage, dripping mayo and extra cheese please.

.logic.

....and she replies "Yes, please!"

Santa Claus

What type of shop is it ? (genuine question)

Rossonero

mike65 wrote:

just go for the obvious like a comment on the state of the nation er I mean weather or a simple "are you well?"

Cheers.
Maybe I could start one on the rugby game, thinking of it, as she wears rugby shirts sometimes.

Thinking back she also put in a "how u doin?" comment. I stupidly just said ok and nothing more.

Rossonero

Santa Claus wrote:

What type of shop is it ? (genuine question)

grocery store

Kingsize

happened to me a couple of years ago in the local offy.
i used to get this vibe from the chick who worked there, i said it to my mates
& they thought i was joking ,until they seen it too & then they agrred with me
never acted on it-dammit
now all ive got are my memories & a beer bellY!!

WhiteWashMan

Rossonero wrote:

I've posted about a diff girl here before, I'm still at a loss to what's happening with that
But, I decided I need to get that out of my head.

There's a shop near where I stay, and there's a real beautiful girl working there. I've never started a conversation with her, only smile and say hi.
She always says hi and smiles.
I notice that she doesn't to other customers but maybe, that's just because I'm a regular.
Anytime I'm at the end of the queue, she looks up and smiles when she sees me.

I'm not good at starting conversations, and the fact that I've been going in there for so long without saying anything makes it more difficult.
I don't know what I would say.

Any tips would be appreciated?

looks like you got over the last girl pretty fast. i guess you didnt have depression after all.

so, lets do this again....

she smiled at you.
wow!
the girl has customer services skills....

i saw a chick on cheerleading team once, and she was smiling. how i make it known to her that im available?

logic1

WhiteWashMan wrote:

i saw a chick on cheerleading team once, and she was smiling. how i make it known to her that im available?

Removing the wedding ring is a good start.

.logic.

Squirrel

Do you only know her from working in the shop? Or do you see her in other places aswell?

Gordon

Ask her how she's doing.

After that it's up to you and her to decide on verbiage-wise.

The_B_Man

just whip it out, if she does the dirty then game on! but if she calls the guards, then it was never meant to be!

MizzKattt

mike65 wrote:

Dont force the issue.
Mike.

Hey! You do leave Motors. And I said it couldn't be done.

*on topic
I can't speak for the girl, but I know I like when a guy asks a question and genuinely seems interested in my response. Ask her about her day, how she's doing, what her customers have been like today. Give her your name and tell her you'll see her the next time you're in. Good luck!

zAbbo

Seeking advise on the internet, so you're obviously a loser.

Have you tried holding the shop up, nothing says im a fun loving guy like a double barrel crudely pointed from under a duffel coat?

Oriel

Start by asking her simple advice about something regarding something they have in the store.
Maybe say you're going on a diet of something like that... just anything to start talking really.

S.

Gordon

bazH wrote:

Seeking advise on the internet, so you're obviously a loser.

Have you tried holding the shop up, nothing says im a fun loving guy like a double barrel crudely pointed from under a duffel coat?

giving out crap advice on the internet huh?

bazH

bazH wrote:

Seeking advise on the internet, so you're obviously a loser.

Have you tried holding the shop up, nothing says im a fun loving guy like a double barrel crudely pointed from under a duffel coat?

clearly you don't understand how the Personal Issues forum works.

BCB

logic1 wrote:

Long hard baguette filled with hot juicy sausage, dripping mayo and extra cheese please.

.logic.

Blitzkrieger

Whatever happened to that 'awkward silence' thread?.......

pickarooney

Order the same thing every time you go in, until such time as she automatically says it when she sees you. Or just use a quirky catchprase and see will she say it back to after a few goes. Oh wait, this might have been The Fast Show... but hey everyone loved the Fast Show, so it's good advice.

LegacyUser

Just be forward and ask her straight out, something like:

Said in a cheeky tone and with a smile

"ehh, i know this might be a little wierd getting asked this in work, but would you fancy hooking up for a drink sometime?"

Worst she can say is no, and if she does, don't go back to that shop again.

Go for it, lifes too short!

bacon?

are you ugly? if not ask her out.

Beruthiel

bacon?
did you read the charter?
the part where it says, if you have nothing helpful to say, then refrain from commenting at all.
B

Santa Claus

Rossonero wrote:

There's a shop near where I stay

Am I correct in thinking from the above that you're not from the area ?

If so, then why not just ask her something casual along the lines of "listen, you're from round these parts, where's a nice pub / club to go to?"

Chances are if she likes you then she'll say something along the lines of "Well such and such is a nice place, I usually go there myself" and then there you have it, you can then try and bump in to her outside her work !

chump

I'm not one to side with wwman, but I think he's hit the nail on the head here...

pretty girl, smiles at you?

and now you're a bit infatuated?


come on outa that

Tobias Greeshman

Ya your picking up signals that may not be there. But try to engage her in chat a bit more, see where that leads, but I wouldn't ask her out like someone suggested.

Rossonero

Squirrel wrote:

Do you only know her from working in the shop? Or do you see her in other places aswell?

Only from the shop.

Rossonero

WhiteWashMan wrote:

looks like you got over the last girl pretty fast

No, I'm not. I'm just thinking if I get to know someone else it might get my mind of her. I'll never like girl at shop as much as other girl.

Rossonero

Santa Claus wrote:

Am I correct in thinking from the above that you're not from the area ?

If so, then why not just ask her something casual along the lines of "listen, you're from round these parts, where's a nice pub / club to go to?"

Chances are if she likes you then she'll say something along the lines of "Well such and such is a nice place, I usually go there myself" and then there you have it, you can then try and bump in to her outside her work !

right, I'm not from the area.

The_B_Man

how old is she? i know a bloke who was mad about this girl in the local Gala, he was 21/22 and found out later that she was only 16. coulda been a sticky situation.

bacon?

he could always have asked her when she turned 17

The_B_Man wrote:

how old is she? i know a bloke who was mad about this girl in the local Gala, he was 21/22 and found out later that she was only 16. coulda been a sticky situation.

CyberGhost

dress like this and buy turtles

Thorbar

Funny story something along the same lines, when I was living in Boston a few years ago I used to go to the Starbucks around the corner every morning for a coffee to drink on the T into work. Anyway there was this cute girl working behide the counter and I'd always say hello and so on, didn't really take a blind bit of notice of her to be honest as I thought she was out of my league. Anyway completely out of the blue one day she says "Oh hey I saw you in Avalon (big club in Boston) last Friday" I nearly spill my coffee on myself say something alone the lines of that's great and leave. Anyway next day after a bit of careful consideration I go into starbucks ready for some flirting. I'm so preoccupied with what I'm trying to say that I start saying it to the wrong girl. She reckons I'm a completely ****ing stacker at first and then figures out what's after happening. She looks vaguely like the other girl as in same hair colour and number of eyes. Anyway after that I decided to buy my coffee in Dunkin Doughnuts, much better value and coffee.

Moral of the story make sure you're talking to the right girl.

Zillah

Go in to the shop pretty late on a weekend night. When you see her, just ask "Do you always work this late?" She'll probably answer "Yes/no but I'm off in an hour etc" The you say, "oh...well me and a few friends were planning to head into town in about hour, wanna join us etc"

Of course these are guidlines, don't go printing it out or anything...

Squirrel

My advice is just ask her, it mightn't turn out the best, but if she turns you down you will then know that it wasn't meant to happen, better than constantly thinking about it. Oh yeah, I'm talking from experience on the asking, I didn't have a clue if she liked me, but it worked. This is just my advice so take it if you wish, and good luck

The_B_Man

OR, accidentally leave ur fone on the counter, then ring it bout 2 mins later and when she answers u can get her to come and meet you to return it!

Slutmonkey57b

Talk about some complex schemes. Why not just tell the guy to fake his own death and then wait to see if she shows up at the funeral crying?

Seriously, just talk to the girl when the shop is quiet and see what happens.

Is this a shop on the northside? If so, just walk up to the counter, when she asks you what you want, say
"20 Bensons and a roide missus".
You're in there.

Zillah

The_B_Man wrote:

OR, accidentally leave ur fone on the counter, then ring it bout 2 mins later and when she answers u can get her to come and meet you to return it!

Ooh cunning

Skank

silly excuses are the worst way to go about women just ask her stright up when it quit would she like to meet up for a drink some time talk to her a bit its not hard just be confident ish .

and i do no how hard it is but ya dont ask ya dont get my new quote

Rossonero

The_B_Man wrote:

how old is she?

I'd guess same as myself, 20

The Corinthian

Flirt, have fun, chat. Don't worry about it and certainly don't plan on asking her out. If she does like you, the dialogue will progress and eventually you will ask her out; not because you've syked yourself to do it, but because it's seems the natural thing to do in he conversation.

Altheus

Nothing says I want you more than a tub of Vaseline and a big smile.

Third_Echelon

Altheus wrote:

Nothing says I want you more than a tub of Vaseline and a big smile.

@ Altheus

... just strike up a conversation some day, dont go in with the intention of asking her out or anything. If she knows you a bit better you have a better chance of her saying yes to your 'asking out' request in the future..

if you cold call, you're bound to get knocked back...

Bri

Third_Echelon wrote:

@ Altheus

... just strike up a conversation some day, dont go in with the intention of asking her out or anything. If she knows you a bit better you have a better chance of her saying yes to your 'asking out' request in the future..

if you cold call, you're bound to get knocked back...

Good advice.

Also, if you feel a bit awkward making conversation out of the blue, cause some fuss/reason to chat first of all...Nothing loud just ask her for particular change for the bus, or use a credit card - that way you can fill the extra few seconds and turn the pause into a quick word. Simple really

P.S. I wouldn't recommend 'forgetting' your credit card pin or something like that - your likely to fluster the poor girl!

Red Alert

i think the more complex the scheme the more it can go wrong! best thing is to have a few words with her every day. if this is a local shop, she probably lives nearby hence probably goes to the local pub - try bringing the price of drink there or something into the conversation! No need to even bring the asking out into it - if she says where she goes often you could just happen to be there.

One comic word of advice, I wouldn't advise telling her over the store's PA System!

Best of luck!
R>A>

mp3guy

The_B_Man wrote:

OR, accidentally leave ur fone on the counter, then ring it bout 2 mins later and when she answers u can get her to come and meet you to return it!

no offence, but what kind of retard would take out and put their phone down on the shop counter...?

You're probably just being to optimistic, seeing what you want to see. Unless you survey the shop 24/7 and always see how she acts with OTHER regulars, her own age, you don't know anything. Alternatively, look for another post by a girl asking for advice about a customer in the shop she works.

RedRules5

Rossonero, am in the exact same position at the moment, that is to say I have not progressed to asking her out, although I do know she knows I exist.

I understand the advice about not asking her out straight off the bat but to build up to it naturally through conversation. My problem with this is that she works shifts so I am lucky to see her even once a week. Recently she appears to have reduced her hours as well which doesn't help. Then there is the danger that one day she will no longer be there. And also, like you, I have been seeing her quite a while without having the nerve to make conversation. Unfortunately it is a busy shop and 9.99 times out of 10 there are other people in the queue which doesn't allow for much conversation.

So maybe being blunt and getting it over and done with might be the answer.
Go ahead and do it, but be sure to report back here and let me know how it went.

Coney Island

Rossonero wrote:

I've posted about a diff girl here before, I'm still at a loss to what's happening with that
But, I decided I need to get that out of my head.

There's a shop near where I stay, and there's a real beautiful girl working there. I've never started a conversation with her, only smile and say hi.
She always says hi and smiles.
I notice that she doesn't to other customers but maybe, that's just because I'm a regular.
Anytime I'm at the end of the queue, she looks up and smiles when she sees me.

I'm not good at starting conversations, and the fact that I've been going in there for so long without saying anything makes it more difficult.
I don't know what I would say.

Any tips would be appreciated?

Nice girls don't go with losers....try wearing a Black and White jersey next time and she will chat you up and ask you out in no time!!

FORZA JUVE!

goin'_to_the_PS

maybe pick a time when the shop is not busy to start talking to her

billy the squid

look just ask her out

you walked into the shop with nothing
if she says no you leave the shop with nothing
what did you loose nothing

just ask her the worst she can do is say no