Threesomes??

LegacyUser

Hi all,

I wanted to get your opinions and advice on a matter.....the guy that im seeing wants to have a threesome.... we've discussed at length and im quite keen on the idea. im actually quite curious about it, and i would regard myself as quite adventurous anyway. thats not to say that i am not a little nervous tho...while i think it could be a fun experience, i realise that it could also be a bad one. we decided that we would have it with someone neither of us knew, as involving a friend or acquaintance (even if they were up for it!!) would be a messy idea.

which brings me onto my next question...how on earth would you go about it? how could you find out if a random stranger was up for a threesome without either of us getting a slap?!!

so basically im looking for your own personal experiences (or those of your friends) with threesomes, and then how did you go about it?

thanks!!

pickarooney

Are you looking for another man or another woman?

I'm not offering, just... well, actually...

Dub13

you could allways try some of the Irish Adult sites,or take pickarooney up on the offer.

Static M.e.

Just make sure its not a friend or anyone you know otherwise things get messy after the fact, jealousy and awkwardness and the fact that your other friends find out years later and wont stop slagging you about it, "hey have you meet **** you know he had a threesome with my wife !?"

How would you go about it, hmm try going to a different town for a weekend or something, hit a pub / club and both of you chat up some girls, alot of girls get curious and adventurous and given the right situation and a little wine will give it a go, no need to speak about guys really. Just say to people that you are down from where ever looking to have some fun, people will be interested or not

Bring toys !

And Good luck

Altheus

The 3some scene is a flood with creepy men, try irishswingers.com or faceparty.com or adultfriendfinder.com

There's plenty of people on there, they'll discuss it with you and usually are just there for no-strings sex.

LegacyUser

there are some pubs in town that are notorious for such shenanigans, they shall remain nameless although they are around the whole Dame Street/Aungier Street/Georges Street area..

failing that you could use adultfriendfinder.com or something similar to arrange to meet with someone...

D

Just make sure that you are both totally comfortable with it and when it does happen make sure that everyone get a suitable amount of attention.

MrVestek

I have a sneaking suspicion that i know who our guest is, but i'm saying nothing. Basically if you're looking for another guy that is, all you have to do is pm me, ask me for my phone number... and then well all you have to do is ask... me stuff like... erhm...

iMax

Tell your guy that yes you'd love to do it, it's something you've always wanted to try. Then insist on having another guy first. See how quickly he backtracks

LegacyUser

DONT DO IT! seriously i did and it ended in a disaster , we called the relationship the trust issue was gone etc ...


Seriously hon the only way you can have a threesome without trouble is if your the guest star...

karlh

i'd say go to a gay/gay friendly bar.

at least you will meet openminded people, bi guys and girls (depending on what you want) and you can see them and talk to them?

LegacyUser

www.alternativeireland.com is the most common irish website for such things. There's a forum, and a chatroom aswell.. You'll find what you're looking for there :-)

MrVestek

Am I totally weird in the fact that I wouldn't mind having a threesome with a girl and another guy? Always find it facinating when a guy backs away when another guy is involved... of course i'd prefer another girl but whaddya gonna do?

Iago

No I don't think so, but I don't think it would be first choice for most guys at the same time.

Threesomes are great in theory but tend to be terrible in practice, it will inevitably lead to arguments and suspicion, jealousy and grief. Leave it in your mind would be my advice

irlirishkev

I heard the Front Lounge has a bit of a rep for attracting swingers. You could try going there. If nothing else, it's a cool bar, and you'll probably have a good night either way

K.

MrVestek

Ahh i dunno the pr0n stars seem to have a good time at them ;-)
It *can* lead to complications tho, especially if the guy or girl starts paying more attention to the third party instead of them all participating at the same time.

D

Unreg so far what have you and your boyfriend suggested girl or boy or does it matter. What about another couple 2 men and 2 women?

karlh

irlirishkev wrote:

I heard the Front Lounge has a bit of a rep for attracting swingers. You could try going there. If nothing else, it's a cool bar, and you'll probably have a good night either way

K.

just when you're there, don't stand by the piano. i can't stress that enough.

JoJo69

im unreg???...i decided to log in under this as i wanted to get more involved in the thread (unregistered posters have to wait for validation i think?)

anyway, we're looking for a girl. i take the suggestion about another couple, but i dont think it's what we want. its definately a girl methinks.

even if we were to go to the front lounge, how would we go about it? does anyone have any experience of having a threesome with someone they just met? and also did they sort of "discuss" what was going to happen, or just go right ahead?

karlh

*plink plink fizz*

but seriously, never beenin the situation myself, you lucky lucky backsteward but since you are basically looking for a bi girl, and you have a girlfriend, just go somewhere like that and get talking to girls. if one of them likes you and yer partner then you can see where it goes.

just be honest with eachother and the person you are involving.

JoJo69

karlh..im a girl!!!

irlirishkev

JoJo69 wrote:

karlh..im a girl!!!

<kevin shakes head in dismay>
Karlh.. you'd be no good in a threesome
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Mazikeen

I would assume that you are either bi-sexual or bi-curious and that you would want the other woman to be likewise, otherwise it becomes a rather silly exercise of a man taking turns with each of you with the non-participating party simply watching.

Be certain that the man knows that this is a threesome and not just an excuse for him to try on another woman - that means that he must remember that he is not just with one woman but two and must multi-task accordingly. In fact, the only time that you’re likely to have a 1-on-1 in that situation is during the male refractory period.

Also, if you’re in any way insecure about your relationship, then don’t do it. Otherwise, go for it - it’s a lot of fun.

As for Web sites, other than the ones that have to that been mentioned, the only two I’ve heard of are www.swingerseurope.com and www.irishswinging.com . Be certain to post any advert you post with ‘No Single Men’ - otherwise you’re going to get inundated with a lot of creepy offers.

karlh

JoJo69 wrote:

karlh..im a girl!!!

lol

he's even luckier then i thought, you're doing the research!!

sorry bout that.

go to a gay bar and chat to girls. steer clear of the ones with beards or KD Lang t-shirts and you can't go too wrong. avoid piano. it's going to be about whether you find them attractive so all up to you.

irlirishkev wrote:

<kevin shakes head in dismay>
Karlh.. you'd be no good in a threesome
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I don't even know what IT does. i just kinda point it at stuff and use it to pee. anyways.....

JoJo69

mmm...good advice. we've decided to go out of town anyway for the weekend.....it would probably make me more comfortable to be in strange surroundings.....

It depends on a lot of things. I would use a friend personally. No shyness, straight out, "Are you busy Fri/Sat" etc.
You wouldn't be embarrassed, as if you could trust them with your secrets, why not your man?
I can't see all this hoo-haa about "destroying a good friendship" etc.

My 2c.

irlirishkev

karlh wrote:

lol

he's even luckier then i thought, you're doing the research!!

sorry bout that.

go to a gay bar and chat to girls. steer clear of the ones with beards or KD Lang t-shirts and you can't go too wrong. avoid piano. it's going to be about whether you find them attractive so all up to you.

I don't even know what IT does. i just kinda point it at stuff and use it to pee. anyways.....

That's the second time you've mentioned the piano.. I've never seen anything strange going on around the piano in The Front Lounge, am I missing something?

JoJo69

yeah i was just thinking that...have only been to the front lounge once or twice, but have not seen anything overly strange happening at the piano??

irlirishkev

Spill the beans Karlh.. what have you been getting up to at the piano!!??

StandnDeliver

send the girl out fishing yup and go out of town and enjoy,Threesomes are also better if your at a party and your not attached to anyone its not messy then.Good luck

DapperGent

I'm scared now. I spent a night drinking by the piano. Did I do wrong?

billy the squid

JoJo69 wrote:

yeah i was just thinking that...have only been to the front lounge once or twice, but have not seen anything overly strange happening at the piano??

that is why he is telling you to avoid it, nothing happens there

avoid piano

skywalker

DapperGent wrote:

I'm scared now. I spent a night drinking by the piano. Did I do wrong?

did you wake up with an ichy bum?

karlh

lol

the piano....ahhhh the piano.

not as bad as you may expect. the front lounge is an odd but great place. it's not really a full on gay bar but attracts all sorts of alternative types, including swingers.

apparently, if you are any way inclined to, shall i say.......multitask......then it's supposed to be where you'll meet like minded people.

swingers, catflaps, lesbefriends, left luggage, boys looking a whole lot of meat and no veg.......

if you're standing by the piano you may as well stick your house keys in the bowl provided!

JoJo69

Do any of you guys know where would be good to go out of dublin? ???? any suggestions on where would be the best place to go for this purpose??!

Iago

if you're serious and don't want any complications and don't want any awkwardness etc why not just hire an escort for the night...

galactus

Achilles wrote:

Am I totally weird in the fact that I wouldn't mind having a threesome with a girl and another guy? Always find it facinating when a guy backs away when another guy is involved... of course i'd prefer another girl but whaddya gonna do?

Yeah, you're weird.

Then again, if the 3rd person was David Hasselhoff...

LegacyUser

karlh wrote:

just when you're there, don't stand by the piano. i can't stress that enough.

What Piano? That went ages ago.

ChRoMe

"if you're serious and don't want any complications and don't want any awkwardness etc why not just hire an escort for the night..."

Best suggestion so far on this thread.

Failing that a lucky bastard of a mate of mine his girlfriend is always into 3somes. The way they do it is go to a club/pub and she goes out chatting up the girls. Every night they go looking they ALWAYS get a girl back.

Just to ditto on the whole dont do it with somebody you know. No friendship can be uneffected by something like group sex.

LegacyUser

I once had a stranger come up to me at a bar when I was getting a drink and strike up a conversation with me by saying "Myself and my girlfriend and trying to convience her *points at girl behind bar* to have a threesome with us this evening... what do you think our chances are?" .... I took a look at the girl behind the bar and replied "there is no harm in asking". He asked me where I was from got into casual conversation *all while I was waiting on my drink* ... by the time I had got my drink he was inviting me to have the threesome. I'm not entirely sure if he had intended the whole thing to work like that but if you are looking for a way to ask someone that you take a fancy to in a bar .... I recommend that.

No I didn't go for the threesome by the way. Was tempted ... but in a strange place and my friends wouldn't let me I was talking about it to my boyfriend recently who has already had one ... and he is not up for the idea.

Sometimes its nice to share people. Sometimes it isn't. Do you really want to share him/her?

Mazikeen

ChRoMe wrote:

Failing that a lucky bastard of a mate of mine his girlfriend is always into 3somes. The way they do it is go to a club/pub and she goes out chatting up the girls. Every night they go looking they ALWAYS get a girl back.

Just to ditto on the whole dont do it with somebody you know. No friendship can be uneffected by something like group sex.

That's a myth. How affected is the relationship between your 'lucky bastard of a mate' and his girlfriend?

Some are affected regardless and some are not; depends on your maturity and how you see sex.

pickarooney

/me needs new, open-minded girlfriend

gubby

well, you know what the care bears say.. "Sharing is Caring"
have fun.. dont die wondering. if you want to give it a try. just dont be put of by people telling ****!! only advice i give you is only do it if YOU want to do.. dont do it just for him.

JoJo69

thanks gubby. thats good advice. i do want to definately...otherwise ill be thinking what if??? (which could also happen if i do it!!)

WhiteWashMan

god im all excited now.

tell us what you get up to.

kleefarr

WhiteWashMan wrote:

god im all excited now.

tell us what you get up to.

:rolleyes: I think that'll be pretty obvious won't it WWM?

JoJo69

dont worry...ill keep you all posted. it prob wont be for a few weeks, but i will definately keep you all up to speed!

Dub13

If you do go ahead with it dont forger to report back on how you got on ,I am sure there are a few people here who would be intrested in how you get on.

mobile04

imagine you walk in to the birds gaf . and shes all in stockings etc . and waiting for action.
all of a sudden this guy jumps out of the wardrobe. and she says this is mark . i fancy a threesome . boots on the other foot now... ehh lads .. id be off a boner as quick as you could say the words .no thanks ...

irlirishkev

JoJo69 wrote:

dont worry...ill keep you all posted. it prob wont be for a few weeks, but i will definately keep you all up to speed!

And photos. Don't forget we'll need photos too..

K.

Beruthiel

I shall be binning this thread if people can't keep on the topic at hand
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