I got girl problems

The Fitz

I just cannot seem to get girls to like me, I act casual, uncasual(if thats even a word) i wear glasses which seems to be a problem. but Im in good shape, reasonably smart,have good hobbies(soccer, hangin with mates etc.) and I'm 14. But nowadays Girls only seem to go for looks, I tend to go for a balance of god looks and a good personality but whenever I approach a girl in this way it's always the same reply and I quote many here: " Sorry, I don't like you in that way, I'd rather us as friends." but they always ignore me after that and I never hear from them. any advice?

AllStar

ur 14 mate it will all come in time, dont try and grow up be4 ur time chill and be urself, no point trying to be someone else. the right one will come along at the right time. (or so im told)
:cool:

The Fitz

The hormones are kickin' in dude, its easier said than done

Dub13

Yea good advice from Allstar.....you have loads of time just relax and dont get worked up about it.

The Fitz

As I said, the hormones, especially when everyone seems to be scoring except me

Shrimp

your 14.. and i'm guessing the girls your askin are too. at that age everyone is quiet fickle when it comes to boy-girl relationships. Try not to worry about it too much, and a little bit of advise, only ask the girl after a while of hanging with her, like a few weeks etc.. and make sure your gettin the right signals of her too..

Lol.. Scoring.. your only 14 mate..

Dub13

fitzer666 wrote:

As I said, the hormones, especially when everyone seems to be scoring except me

On another note....don't believe everything your mates tell you they are up to,young teenage boys tend to spuff alot

The Fitz

Sorry for the confusion, scoring in my eyes (at my innocent age of course) is gettin a "bird"

Shrimp

I understood what you meant.. Look, I think your gettin to hung over the fact that you got rejected a few times.. I mean it happens, nothin big. Eh, If you dont wanna get reejected, and wanna feel good, in some sick way.. just bail in on some ugly wrecker at the end of whatever you go to.. baby wes? or whatever..

The Fitz

Coincidently, Wes is on next fri and I'm considerin goin for the first time, I don't like "settlin", jus gives people another reason to slag me

po0k

Flick you tongue like a lizard.

Shrimp

settlin? what you mean?

The Fitz

it means just taking people who are supposedly "mingers", it gives peeps another reason to slag me, apart from the fact that i have glasses, my big gob****e of a mouth gets me into all sorts of trouble, kingswood are after me for gods sakes

Shrimp

SyxPak wrote:

Flick you tongue like a lizard.

classic.. I think a lizard is good but a giraff would be better..

Shrimp

yeah man.. Like do you have mates.. like guys? serious question

Amz

fitzer666 wrote:

it means just taking people who are supposedly "mingers", it gives peeps another reason to slag me, apart from the fact that i have glasses, my big gob****e of a mouth gets me into all sorts of trouble, kingswood are after me for gods sakes

Your first mistake is worrying about all these people who slag you for the most rediculous of reasons. They're not worth bothering with and believe me they have their own problems and insecurities.

I've worn glasses for over 14 years and never once been slagged about it. If people are stupid enough to give you grief over it or if "birds" won't "score you" because of your glasses then why the hell are you bothered with them?

Why in God's name would you want to be around people like that?

A thing that you need to learn early on in life is not to worry about other people and their small minded crap, do what makes you happy.

At 14 you should be concentrating on your Junior Cert. or just playing soccer or hanging out with your mates. If you come accross as desperate to girls they won't want you.

It's all about confidence.

Now, go study for your Junior Cert.

fade2black

Best advice.....be funny and don't show you care. Just treat all girls like they're your mates...have a laugh with them, more importantly, make them laugh. You don't have to impress them but if they enjoy your company and you do indeed make them laugh then the next phase will not be far away. Seriously, number one for a womanis a guy with a sense of humour...I'm telling ya! Although it would be reassuring if some females could back me up on this.

Amz

fade2black wrote:

Seriously, number one for a womanis a guy with a sense of humour...I'm telling ya!

I bet you have a lot of female friends, but I also bet you're single.

Shrimp

Yeah.. the females are looking for someone who can make them laugh.. 100% true

fade2black

Amz wrote:

I bet you have a lot of female friends, but I also bet you're single.

I can understand why you're saying that (apart from trying to be funny yourself) but I haven't been single since I was 12.

Amz

Uh huh ...

fade2black

You're a professional masturbator aren't you ms Dangerous when wet?...

Aquos76

Shrimp, there is not much of a difference between 14 and 17, and from reading back over some of Fitzer's posts, he comes across as been more mature than you.

So, I dont think you are qualified enough to be handing out advise considering you spend every spare hour you have, here annoying people. Maybe you should spend less time on here and go out and try and get a girlfriend yourself.

Dub13

Leonard wrote:

Maybe you should spend less time on here and go out and try and get a girlfriend yourself.

Maybe he is fine with his blow up doll

Victor

fitzer666 wrote:

As I said, the hormones, especially when everyone seems to be scoring except me

There is likely to be gross over-statement as to how far they are getting.

fitzer666 wrote:

Coincidently, Wes is on next fri and I'm considerin goin for the first time, I don't like "settlin", jus gives people another reason to slag me

It's not quite "settlin", consider it practice.

Victor

Less of the trash talk.

Aquos76

Victor wrote:

Less of the trash talk.

What trash talk would that be now Victor?

Shrimp

I have a gf..

Anyway.. It's between those ages 14-17 when ppl change the most in that area.. girls become less stuck up.. etc..

Aquos76

Shrimp wrote:

I have a gf..

Anyway.. It's between those ages 14-17 when ppl change the most in that area.. girls become less stuck up.. etc..

You have a lot to learn Shrimp, I glad to hear you have a gf thought as I thought this was you life.

Iago

fitzer666 wrote:

it means just taking people who are supposedly "mingers", it gives peeps another reason to slag me, apart from the fact that i have glasses, my big gob****e of a mouth gets me into all sorts of trouble, kingswood are after me for gods sakes

Ok a few points that need to be considered..

Firstly you're 14 not 34, you have loads of time and as stated before there are other things that are more important.

Secondly if you're feeling this way then you're probably coming across as a little desperate, this is never attractive. Be yourself and be friendly, talk to the girl, get to know her, find out what she's interested in. If you act and talk to her like a friend then that will increase your chances of it moving past that stage. As I said though you're in no real rush, just enjoy your life.


As for people who are supposedly "mingers" I'd be very careful about terms that you bandy about, lest they come back to haunt you. Every girl has an attractive quality about them if you look closely enough, if you treat them with more respect then maybe you'll be a step further on your path. Just because you're not overly interested in a particular girl is no reason not to chat with them if the opportunity presents itself, and if you're more worried about what your friends think of potential girlfriends then you are about getting one or getting to know one, then I'm afraid you're already doomed to failure.

btw whatever your friends say they're up to, a good rule of thumb is to divide their numbers by 3 to get a real number

Shrimp

and you dont have alot to learn, oh all knowing one..?? tosser..

Gordon

Leonard wrote:

What trash talk would that be now Victor?

I think he was referring to some of your verbiage wrt: Shrimp. I see it as trolling.

Shrimp - don't feed the trolls and do not make personal insults such as "tosser" for example, please.

Shrimp

ok, it's just that it was coming to him, he started personally insulting me.. and i'm not doing anything to him..

i wont in future

crazy angel

Shrimp wrote:

Yeah.. the females are looking for someone who can make them laugh.. 100% true

but shrimp, i thought it was impossible to make girls laugh (according to your other thread) lol!

Shrimp

Never said that.. I said girls have a very different sense of humour.. comparing to mens...

crazy angel

ok, put that in your other thread and you might not get so much sh1t for it!

Steoob

ok man, im 15, i used to be exactly like you, i wore glasses and i never got any attention from girls and i was really really shy around them....

ok, im not saying that you should pretend to be someone youre not, all im saying is that a little change can go a looooong way, you should lose the glasses, glasses are the instant repeller, instant, its a thing in the brain that makes girls completely non interested so i suggest yous hould get contact lenses....

now you have to treat girls like they are your friends dont just chat up the ones you like and leave all the rest alone... when you make female friends you will have tons of confidence when it comes to talking to woman then you'll get to know their friends and if you like one of them then ask her friends if she likes you, all ways do indirect asking out it just works better and its less harsh coz its not a rejection..

but do be flirtatious... and i dont have any difference talking to guys and girls now... they're all mates whats the difference really? its just when you have special interests in a woman you kinda do stuff like makin her laugh and say really sweet things haha that works

my life changd when i got into music... i got a whole nuch of new friends and then they all knew girls then i got to know them and now i have a girlfriend and shes great and im pretty damn happy.. this can happen to you too man

for some reason when ever i post an opinion on this thing people always tell me to shut the f**k up, y? is it coz im from tralee? coz i'd say the same probably goddamn i hate this place

crazy angel

just readin bout the whole glasses thing, and girls are really evil!

PurpleFistMixer

Unless you yourself actually hate your glasses, I wouldn't get rid of them.
If girls are going to be put off but your glasses then why the hell would you want to be with them in the first place? If someone can be so superficial as that... *shakes head*

However if your glasses are absolutely hideous and you acknowledge that fact, then just get different ones. I personally like glasses on a guy. (of course this is coming from someone who spends most of her time online, but hey I'm still female damnit)

Steoob

ok well yea you say that if a girl doesn't like you coz you wear galasses then y would you like them... but you have to ask yourself if a girl has glasses do you like her? and if not then theres no problem and you should go for the girl who doesn't like glasses, then you'll have soemthing in common haha

Crucifix

steoob wrote:

you should lose the glasses, glasses are the instant repeller

I can't believe I'm only finding this out now.
And could I ask what a 'Wes' is?

Aquos76

Shrimp wrote:

ok, it's just that it was coming to him, he started personally insulting me.. and i'm not doing anything to him..

i wont in future

So it was coming to me... Explain, and how did I insult you.

marvin2k

MMMM you sounded like me when I was 14 , the most important thing to do s to have faith , take it as it comes , plenty of time bucko, but if your desperate to act differently just to gob some hair strainghtener , oompa loompa fake tan wanker bitch head then Act like you dont give a **** man, girls just want what they cant have , if you go up and pull a dawsons creek theyl think its too easy and theirs no mystery,no challenge , pretend your not interested , laugh at them when they **** up , be a collin farrell not a dawson . ooze confidence . youl definitely score loads but iul never last a proper relationship cause all this will just be a facade that you wont be able to keep up indefinitely , best be honest to yourself and let the right person fall into your life than acting like a shallow **** to pull the same shallow bitches , dont sell out for girls .

*adele*

im 13 and yeah i agree that at around my age girls can be very shallow but dont worry everyone starts at different times...i feel patronizing(sp sorry no idea how to spell it)giving you advice as your older than me but im just trying to help....:)

*adele*

the wez is a disco

Victor

Crucifix wrote:

And could I ask what a 'Wes' is?

The infamous "Wesley Disco" held in Old Wesley Rugby Club, Donnybrook. (In)Famous for "burds" dressed like they should know better, bush drinking and teenage behavior to the power of 64. Mummy will collect you in her 4x4 at 1am.

Friday night under 18s, Saturday over 18s, or some such.

fade2black

Yuck. I was DJing at an under 18s disco in Carlow last week and to see little 13 and 14 year olds in short skirts gettin fingered by little boys....well let's just say when I have kids they won't be going to within a mile of these places.

*adele*

yes i refuse to go to "suttonians" which is similar but theres the added bonus of getting to play chasing after getting fingered

embee

*adele* wrote:

theres the added bonus of getting to play chasing after getting fingered

Classy.

Steoob

i went to one disco in my life then i realised how gay they were, **** music with mostly ugly girls who wear too much make up and fake tan my sister tells me then "but you wont find any girls unless you go to discos", how stupid she is...

gigs rule its a great place to meet girls but then again thats just the kind of girl i like

Amz

steoob wrote:

you should lose the glasses, glasses are the instant repeller,

And here I was thinkin' it was my personality ...