Sexual question aimed at females

LegacyUser · 31-12-2004 1:00am #1

Me and My gf are both 20, boh virgins and are pretty much both in our first long term relationship, we've been going out for well over 4 months now, are crazy about eachother and have done a lot of sexual stuff with eachother, just not done the deed yet.
Anyway, we both know what eachother like, but there is one problem, she has told me that she wants to sleep with me, and soon, but the problem is this.

She hase never been in anyway sexually active with another guy, I am the first guy to do anything more than touch her breasts, and because of this she is very "thight" down there, and even when i use my fingure and go deep it hurts her.

i know that sex the first time almost always hurts girls anyway, but I was wondering if there is anyway to make it less sore?
I mean obviously lots of working up to it and so will help, but is there any way to make a hole the side of the avrage index fingure accept something quite a bit wider and not put her trough a lot of pain on what should be a memorbale night?

I know im going to get flamed here.

D!ve^Bomb! · 31-12-2004 10:45am

just make her relaxed(not gonna be easy)... possibly drink and drugs will help:D.. and definitely work your way up to it,, don't just dive in there,, take your time!! let her control the pace, she'll let ya know when she's ready;)

PS: If she can barely handle one finger, then it's probably best to start off there, and work your way up, hence 1 finger, then 2 etc etc

koneko · 31-12-2004 10:47am

Take it slow, and use lubrication.

WhiteWashMan · 31-12-2004 11:00am

get some KY jelly, or other lubricant to make sure that everything is nicely slippery and slidey.

make sure it wont interfere with the condom you are going to use though....

have a few drinks so you are both relaxed, but not so many that you will spoil the moment. nothing worse than losing your irginity whilst off your tits. allegedly.

D!ve^Bomb! · 31-12-2004 11:05am

WhiteWashMan wrote:

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make sure it wont interfere with the condom you are going to use though....
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oh yeah,,, MAKE SURE you use one aswell!!! don't do ANYTHING without one(that involves your rhythm stick and her lady garden anyway:D)

BE SMART :cool:

I am MAN · 31-12-2004 12:23pm

Yeah you cant do much more than lube and lots of foreplay...Get the durex PLAY lube available in boots and other places thats water based and wont damage a condom.

Nevyn · 31-12-2004 5:06pm

may be think about buying a toy, something that is size wise in between a finger and your own measurements and use that to accostomise her muscles.

and play safe and if it is to be your first time to maybe two condoms

have fun

oh and a hot bath may be good idea afterwards.

D!ve^Bomb! · 31-12-2004 5:15pm

Thaed wrote:

maybe two condoms

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are you serious?

The Corinthian · 31-12-2004 5:18pm

koneko wrote:

Take it slow, and use lubrication.

Specifically vodka. Lots of it.

I am MAN · 31-12-2004 6:48pm

Use two condoms...what a retard.

Stark · 31-12-2004 6:57pm

lol @ the thought of it.

Maybe she means have a spare ready in case you mess up the first one.

Gordon · 31-12-2004 7:07pm

Buy a whole bumber pack, don't just get one!

simu · 31-12-2004 7:12pm

That's probably a joke but condoms are not designed to be worn two at a time and such use would probably reduce efficacy.

I think you sould keep your penis well away from there to start out with and get her to open herself up (sorry, can't think of a nicer way to put that) starting with one finger (little finger maybe), then 2 and so on. It's easier for her to stop than for you if it gets too painful.

cajun_tiger · 31-12-2004 7:15pm

let her be on top its alot easier that way and if she says stop have a guess what.... it means not now not in two more minutes but five seconds ago!!!!

condoms yes (she should be on the pill too. two condoms??? i hope this was as mentioned above for one after not together)

best position is guy on his back girl on top... lube if she wants its not always very nice. em and dont go deep, that takes time with your fingers though try get two in(dont go deep with these) just to help get the opening flexible

Nevyn · 31-12-2004 10:41pm

K i was infact joking as the

was ment to show

two condoms together is not an idea but the comment it's self was a reference to a certain film.

her on top is the best way if you are going for full penatration first time out,
and not a lil ways in to see how it goes.

Specifically vodka. Lots of it.

nope not a good idea, unless you want to skip the trying to make the first time very special and just numb the pain and get it over with. And when she's healed a lil and gotten over the hang over try again and make the earth really move to make up for it.

Mutz · 01-01-2005 1:17pm

Thaed wrote:

may be think about buying a toy, something that is size wise in between a finger and your own measurements and use that to accostomise her muscles...SNIP...

....oh and a hot bath may be good idea afterwards.

First time = no toys. They come in later - don;t let her get distracted from your own equipment!

Explain the bath thing? I'm so innocent!

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 01-01-2005 4:33pm

going from experience,
use a condom. ( GOD DAM USE 1 )
use vaseline or jy jelly. and actually, ive found spit to be a great lube!
i know its kinda dirty, but it actually helps sooo much.
try it. and let us know how you get on!

Ms Beanbag · 01-01-2005 4:42pm

I thought you cant use oil based lubricants with condoms?
they must be water based!!

D!ve^Bomb! · 01-01-2005 4:43pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

use a condom. ( GOD DAM USE 1 )
use vaseline or jy jelly!

i don't think it's a good idea to use these lubricants as they interfere with the condom,,, someone correct me if i'm wrong

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 01-01-2005 4:46pm

well, i never had a problem... thats going from my own experience now..

D!ve^Bomb! · 01-01-2005 4:56pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

well, i never had a problem... thats going from my own experience now..

you probably won't know you have a problem until the gf is pregnant:)

MrPinK · 01-01-2005 5:47pm

Petroleum-based lubricants such as vaseline disolve latex. It's not a very good combination. I think they might even warn you not to do this in the instructions with the packet.

simu · 01-01-2005 5:57pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

well, i never had a problem... thats going from my own experience now..

Says the guy with the baby photo in his sig

Nevyn · 01-01-2005 7:23pm

Mutz wrote:

First time = no toys. They come in later - don;t let her get distracted from your own equipment!

Dont be silly if it is a slim toy and not one that required batteries it is a very good idea to get the muscles of the vagainal walls used to the intrusion.

Mutz wrote:

Explain the bath thing?

A bath beforehand will help her to relax and a bath afterwards help relax, to clean up and to ease any sore or bruised muscles external or other wise.

Water based lube is not as hard to find as it just to be, you dont even have to go to a chemist anymore, Dunnes Stores sells it in the shammooo section usually on one of the topshelves near the paracetmal tablets.

but if your gf getting aroused suffeicently you should not need lube.

neuro-praxis · 01-01-2005 9:28pm

Oral relaxes and lubes everything up. Plus it's fun for all.

Mutz · 02-01-2005 2:22am

KY Jelly is water based and is great! I think about €6 for a tube.

Go into Boots or somewhere where they're used to selling these things and buy in bulk. Its cheaper in the long run - although in saying that - choose a johnny that you like instead of buying in bulk and then finding out that they're crap.

Bon Manage!

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 02-01-2005 2:34pm

simu wrote:

Says the guy with the baby photo in his sig

ah the cheek :P
yeah my own fault...
but it wasnt from the condom being disolved from vaseline or anything.
it was worse than that. it ripped... i was temped to bring the other condom's in the pack down to the chemist and say here can i get a refund? they dont work...

D!ve^Bomb! · 02-01-2005 2:37pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

but it wasnt from the condom being disolved from vaseline or anything.
it was worse than that. it ripped...

have ya thought about how it might have ripped?

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 02-01-2005 2:41pm

D!ve^Bomb! wrote:

have ya thought about how it might have ripped?

over use... :P we passed a speed barrier that corrodes rubber. i was sore the next morning.

LegacyUser · 02-01-2005 3:53pm

Lol

D!ve^Bomb! · 02-01-2005 3:54pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

over use... :P we passed a speed barrier that corrodes rubber. i was sore the next morning.

friction burns eh?

Victor · 02-01-2005 7:59pm

Thaed wrote:

Water based lube is not as hard to find as it just to be, you dont even have to go to a chemist anymore, Dunnes Stores sells it in the shammooo section usually on one of the topshelves near the paracetmal tablets.

Tesco had it between the baby wipes and the cotton buds .... I was so "traumatised" I spent another 10 minutes looking for the cotton buds.

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 02-01-2005 8:08pm

D!ve^Bomb! wrote:

friction burns eh?

you cant even imagine... woke up thinking i had 11 testicles! but they were blisters.... :eek:

:mad:

pickarooney · 02-01-2005 11:30pm

I could be wrong, but I can't imagine seeing a bloke come out of the bathroom armed with a dildo and KY jelly is going to do much to loosen a virgin's inhibitions.

Third_Echelon · 02-01-2005 11:38pm

The poor girl would probably sh1t herself ^^^

elivsvonchiaing · 02-01-2005 11:53pm

cajun_tiger wrote:

let her be on top its alot easier that way and if she says stop have a guess what.... it means not now not in two more minutes but five seconds ago!!!!

condoms yes (she should be on the pill too. two condoms??? i hope this was as mentioned above for one after not together)

best position is guy on his back girl on top... lube if she wants its not always very nice. em and dont go deep, that takes time with your fingers though try get two in(dont go deep with these) just to help get the opening flexible

On top is the best way - put her in control is by far the best way. Hours of heavy petting in advance may also help. She may also have deep-set christian guilt about this sort of thing - discuss getting drunk with her as a prelude to this - this is to be avoided as you'll both have more fun with the sober route - it maybe what she needs though :eek:

OfflerCrocGod · 02-01-2005 11:55pm

There is always the option of virginity. Less hassle - at least that's my excuse.....

Talliesin · 03-01-2005 2:05pm

elivsvonchiaing wrote:

discuss getting drunk with her as a prelude to this - this is to be avoided as you'll both have more fun with the sober route - it maybe what she needs though :eek:

If she really needs to get drunk first I'd advise waiting longer.

D!ve^Bomb! · 03-01-2005 2:08pm

exactly, besides, if you get drunk there's more chance of her getting pregnant:D

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 03-01-2005 2:10pm

just give her a tounge bath.. use lube, and she wil be wet enough to be able to SLOWLY enter. take your time, dont rush it, and go inch by inch. first time always hurts...
it will get better for both of ye and it is well worth it.

keu · 03-01-2005 2:15pm

this sounds like its going to be one amazing loving experience.

Oeneus · 03-01-2005 2:20pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

just give her a tounge bath.. use lube, and she wil be wet enough to be able to SLOWLY enter. take your time, dont rush it, and go inch by inch. first time always hurts...
it will get better for both of ye and it is well worth it.

That's exactly what I was going to say. Specificly the tongue bath part. But above all just don't worry about it and enjoy yourself. It should go fine, and if it doesn't it's only going to make you want to try it again anyway.

eth0_ · 03-01-2005 2:38pm

simu wrote:

Says the guy with the baby photo in his sig

glad to see i'm not the only one who finds that a bit disturbing.

eth0_ · 03-01-2005 2:43pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

well, i never had a problem... thats going from my own experience now..

That's probably how you ended up with your son then, if you were using vaseline with condoms!

keu · 03-01-2005 2:46pm

shagging like a dog in heat helps tho.

btw I think alex is the cutest thing on boards.

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe · 03-01-2005 4:24pm

keu wrote:

shagging like a dog in heat helps tho.

btw I think alex is the cutest thing on boards.

aww thanks! i loves my little angel to bits. he's gettin so much bigger now. i cant wait till he's old enuf to go to the park and kick football and all.
but that was really nice of u to say!

eth0_ wrote:

That's probably how you ended up with your son then, if you were using vaseline with condoms!

as i pointed out earlier, the condom ripped... and i didnt use vaseline that time either... i used vaseline after she had alex. and since then she didnt get pregnant. :eek: :eek: thank god.

eth0_ · 03-01-2005 4:39pm

Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe wrote:

as i pointed out earlier, the condom ripped... and i didnt use vaseline that time either... i used vaseline after she had alex. and since then she didnt get pregnant. :eek: :eek: thank god.

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Sorry but this is really beyond a joke. Are you stupid, nasty or both? Why are you spreading false information here that could lead someone to catch an STD or get pregnant?!? Anyone with a degree of cop on knows you NEVER use oil based stuff with condoms!

I think you've just been LUCKY that your girlfriend hasn't become pregnant since.

http://www.google.ie/search?hl=en&q=vaseline+and+condoms&btnG=Google+Search&meta=

Victor · 03-01-2005 4:41pm

OK, leave mike alone eth0_, point has been made.

eth0_ · 03-01-2005 4:44pm

Victor wrote:

OK, leave mike alone eth0_, point has been made.

Actually I don't think it has. See my edited post above. I think he should remove the false information from his posts or someone should remove it for him. It's just dangerous.

D!ve^Bomb! · 03-01-2005 4:47pm

although i understand eth0's point, i don't think Da_cOmRaDe_MiKe realised that oil based lubes damages condoms.. so he couldn't help posting what he did, and if he does have any cop on, he won't be doin it again:D

eth0_ · 03-01-2005 4:51pm

I certainly hope so...the condom probably ripped because the vaseline started to eat through it like. Could have been a very dangerous mistake to make, good thing he's so happy he has a happy family now.

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