Do visitors look in your fridge?

Ted222

A friend of my son (early 20s) has a habit of looking in our fridge whenever he visits. He only does it when my wife and I are out somewhere.

He’s not looking for anything to eat or drink. He’s just having a nose.

I find it a bit intrusive but mostly I find it weird and bizarre.

He also walks straight into the house if the front door is unlocked (it’s closed but unlocked) without ringing the bell.

Should I be worried? Is he potentially unhinged?

Pauliedragon

I hope you have a lock on the knickers drawer.

Brussels Sprout

He should definitely be ringing the bell or knocking at the front door and only entering when someone has granted him entry. That's just basic manners.

Allinall

How do you know he looks in the fridge?

Ted222

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597451#Comment_122597451

My son observes him and has told him to stop, but to no avail.

Atlantic Dawn

Could you set the fridge up so that the milk is set to fall straight to the ground and make a mess when he opens it? Might make him realise what a nosey idiot he is being.

Fallout2022

I'd put the friendship on ice.

Pauliedragon

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597496#Comment_122597496

People might have but it was a silly decision and didn't end well

jacool

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597673#Comment_122597673

Why? Just to get him opening the freezer as well?

DopeTech

Start locking the front door. And Child proof lock on fridge!

Xander10

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597615#Comment_122597615

Your 20 year old son reported this to you?

Ted222

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597860#Comment_122597860

It annoys him too

Mickeroo

Elaine, George and Kramer were always doing that in Jerry's apartment in Seinfeld so I assume it's perfectly normal behaviour.

Ted222

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597429#Comment_122597429

okay. Now I’m worried

Ted222

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597897#Comment_122597897

Touch of Kramer about him now that you mention it……

event

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597615#Comment_122597615

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597893#Comment_122597893

Well then your son doesn't invite him around. Or grows a pair of balls and tells him to f@ck off.

kazamo

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597899#Comment_122597899

maybe lock the basement too……your dungeon of pleasure and pain might be too much for his young but very nosy mind 😆 😆

Any thoughts on realistic looking fake mouse or rat to leave in the fridge ?

Candlel

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597615#Comment_122597615

it wouldn’t bother me, but it’s just someone who seems to think it’s ok, why not ask him to stop.

AnnieinDundrum

sounds like a teenage thing and he is only just out of it

my brother always looks in my fridge, he’s 54… but he’s always hungry and also on the lookout for anything new or interesting

i wonder if he does it elsewhere, he does in our sisters’ houses.

odyssey06

Is he a Guard? Tell him he needs a warrant for that sort of thing.

Cluedo Monopoly

The young lad is comfortable in your home. Well done. Nothing to worry about.

Ted222

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597929#Comment_122597929

Brilliant! A fake severed head might be even better!

Ted222

He constantly tells him to f*** off but he’s shameless. He’s “one of the lads” so he doesn’t want to exclude him completely.

Ted222

I wouldn’t mind if he was taking my beer but just observing what we have is a bit creepy.

If we were there ourselves, we wouldn’t be slow to put him straight but it’s only ever when we’re out.

tamara25

coming into a house & not knocking beforehand is way out of order. Would not tolerate that

AllForIt

A census taker tried to look in my fridge once.

He ended up in it beside the fava beans.

celt262

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597429#Comment_122597429

No doubt he has had a poke in it.

chrissb8

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597615#Comment_122597615

Why do you talk so wooden…like you're really bad at being undercover as a Dad

Mild sprectrom issue or a tic, combined with looking for novelty and something interesting which is a bit immature for a 20 year old.

Its a bad habit he needs to control

Its very hard to get out of habits like that.

Look at it this way he feels comfortable enough in your house to do it which might be a compliment to your son.

Deebles McBeebles

Time to invest in a sword of Damocles type trap methinks.

JupiterKid

No they don't, and nor would I when visiting a friend, relation or family member.

It is extremely overfamiliar - and downright rude!

Ted222

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122608076#Comment_122608076

Any suggestions????

Raysin

The fridge is a personal space, I don't need the judgement of anyone on the quantity and quality of my snacks.

Badly Drunk Boy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122612934#Comment_122612934

You keep snacks in your fridge? Instead of proper, healthy food?!? Tut, tut… 😉

Raysin

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122613016#Comment_122613016

I keep them hidden, behind the proper, healthy food. Doesn't everyone?

Raichų

here lads if some little prick came into my gaff and started rooting through my fridge, not to mention just sauntering in, he’d be told he’s no longer welcome.

Your son asked him to stop and he refused but was allowed to continue hanging out?? Lads what is the world coming to.

iamstop

Relatively harmless in fairness

tom1ie

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058368244/do-visitors-look-in-your-fridge

Jesus man- you need to chill out.

YellowLead

I don’t get the issue. Like if he was taking stuff without being offered I could see people having an issue maybe - but just having a look? Who cares???!!!!! I think yourself and your son are the odder party in this 😁

Raichų

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122613177#Comment_122613177

Would you actually wander into someone’s gaff, in this case the parents of your friend and just head to the fridge to have a look?

everytime you visit?

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122613331#Comment_122613331

I don’t have a particular interest - but if I did I know my friends (nor any parents they might still have living) wouldn’t bat an eyelid if I did. They possibly might ask why but would be happy whatever I said.

I have a 20 year old son and it wouldn’t bother him or me if somebody looked in our fridge. I guess some folks are just built different 🤷🏻‍♀️

Raichų

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122613405#Comment_122613405

I guess so. I would definitely not be letting myself into a friends house (more so their parents house!) and then going to look in their fridge.

The fridge is one thing it’s coupled with the fact he just goes in without knocking if the front doors unlocked.

Ted222

Thanks for all the replies.

I know there are differences in opinion but it at least it confirms that I’m not alone in my outlook.

As I mentioned previously, I wouldn’t mind if he drank my beer or made himself a sandwich. It’s just like he’s snooping.

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122613440#Comment_122613440

Oh, somehow I missed that last bit of OPs post (letting himself into the house). That’s the bit I might have an issue with - unless he had informed my son he was calling over then grand - but letting himself in unannounced without prior warning is not cool.

Hamsterchops

First thing people do when they visit is to open our fridge, check the light is working, then check the use by dates on our Greek yogurts, then they leave!

advisemerite

I'd **** him out.

El_Duderino 09

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122613572#Comment_122613572

I doubt you'd actually be thrilled if ge helped himself to your beer. Sandwich, fair enough.

You haven't said anything about what his family is like. That would be helpful.

It sounds like he's being over-familiar (in the literally sense as he's treating your house as he would treat hus own family home).

Is he odd or entitled in general?

magicbastarder

Wheni was a kid (about 5 or 6) I used to drink milk like it was going out of fashion, and when I was in someone's house I'd go check out the fridge to see what milk they had and would decide arbitrarily whether I 'trusted' their milk or not.

beachhead

Odd behaviour with the fridge.Is he hungry? A few questions about the family situation needed.Why is the front door(or doors)left unlocked?

AndyBoBandy

I ‘officially’ moved out of my mothers house 12 years ago (spent 7 years prior to that working abroad, but in between assignments home was still home).

Anytime I visit my mother usually the 1st thing I’ll do is have a look in the fridge…… I don’t even know if I’m even looking for anything, it’s probably just force of habit…

Hande hoche!

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122597897#Comment_122597897

It did strike me as something you would see in Curb your enthusiasm.