People who constantly curse

Suit of Wolves

I think people who curse constantly would be the sort who'd use the excuse of saying "it's just the way I talk". I tend to be under the impression that it's either a sign of lack of self control, or that the person is trying to be cool.

With people like this there comes the inevitable moment when you'll make a mistake that causes them inconvenience, and when this happens if they start cursing, it can be hard to tell whether it's directed at you… or if it's just them talking to themselves. And if you confront them for cursing at you they've got deniability. The other problem with these people is that when they do actually want to show genuine frustration via expletives (that other people would chose selectively), people don't pick up on it because they're always cursing anyway.

I remember I once worked with a colleague, and one day he said "fcuking c*nt" to himself about a minute after I made a minor mistake. It was the sort of thing he'd say all the time anyway. I didn't say anything but I remember it really hurt me, and for days after I thought about the details of that situation, wondering if it could just have been something else he was complaining about, or would actually say that out loud in my presence.

Pauliedragon

I swear a lot but it's just a habit. Apparantly profanity can be a be a pain reliever.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/alisonescalante/2020/05/01/swearing-the-fastest-acting-pain-reliever-of-them-all/

Donald Trump

It's disgraceful. It is neither smart not necessary.

I can't stand the fucking cunts who do it.

Suit of Wolves

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490205#Comment_122490205

I see what you did there… you're so smart!

This is it

I swear a little in day to day conversation, but never in work or in front of kids.

I always laugh at parents who curse like a sailor and then scald their kids when they do the same.

Suit of Wolves

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490196#Comment_122490196

Well of course, if there's frustration. But a lot of these people curse when they aren't frustrated.

Charlo30

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058363886/people-who-constantly-curse

I'm my experience most Irish people use the F word like it's a noun. You may be over thinking things a little

SuperBowserWorld

As wealth increases the tendency to curse decreases. When you are are wealthy to can pay all those little people to do the **** **** jobs for you.

Dial Hard

There are people who deploy cursing like an art form, it can be a wonderful thing.

There are people for whom it's just habit.

And then there are people who curse because they lack the vocabulary to do much else.

The only time I'm ever really bothered by cursing is when people do it at their very young kids. It makes me both very sad and very angry.

Suit of Wolves

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490233#Comment_122490233

No, some do it more than others. Some have self control in the work environment and in front of kids, and some don't. I'd be less inclined to curse in front of women for example. Also, if I had to pull someone aside and give out to them at work for example, I'd make a point of not cursing in that moment. I've seen people get into trouble for cursing in the wrong way. Some people talk in the exact same manner as they would do on radio or TV… and it doesn't mean they're passive aggressive.

So you can forgot your typical condescending remark of "you're overthinking it".

wetlandsboy

An ex-girlfriend used to curse frequently. I’m no prude, but I found it to be very coarse - particularly coming from a woman.

Charlo30

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490251#Comment_122490251

I wasn't trying to be condescending. But I can see how it came across. My apologies.

herbalplants

Surprisingly, studies have shown that well-educated people with a wide range of words at their disposal are better at producing curse words than those with less verbal fluency. This suggests a correlation between language ability and intelligence.

Sardonicat

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490226#Comment_122490226

My father (who couldn't say anything without cursing) once famously admonished my foul teenaged mouth by saying "your f@(&ing language is absolf@!*inglutley f@*#ing atrocious!" 😃 I wonder did he ever stop and ask himself why?

dxhound2005

Is there any evidence that putting this language into writing has good medical outcomes? Like it does for speech. Given all the FFS, WTF and ****** we get here, some people must be getting positives out of it?

bluefivetwo23

For me cursing in day to day conversations is completely normal. It might be because of where I grew up but for me swear words are no different than actual words. Of course I wouldn't use them in a customer facing situation or anything like that but I would consider swearing part of my culture.

SuperBowserWorld

Sometimes the C word is just the most appropriate word for some people. It's also Cathartic describing them with the C word. So I think it does have mental health benefits.

Suit of Wolves

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490310#Comment_122490310

So Pat Kenny mustn't be very intelligent!

Norrie Rugger Head

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490349#Comment_122490349

Urgh "Catholic"

baxterooneydoody

People who curse more have been shown to be more honest and tell less lies than people who don't curse often. Make of that what you will

eightieschewbaccy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490364#Comment_122490364

James Joyce swore profusely, same for a lot of other literary figures. My logic is, it's expressive language and don't see anything hugely wrong with it. I don't tend to use it to abuse people. Most of my work colleagues tend to swear and we're in pretty respectable roles.

dxhound2005

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490500#Comment_122490500

Is that equal for women and men?

Galwayguy35

I'd drop a few f and c bombs when something annoys me but I'd imagine most Irish people would do the same.

I remember Colin Farrell used to drive the Americans mad cursing in interviews but I'm not sure what his reason for it was.

Dial Hard

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490633#Comment_122490633

He's still officially referred to as Colin Fụcking Farrell in my house.

In his case I suspect it was a minor habit, played up in a big way to suit his "slightly untamed Irishman" persona. And it worked, so more power to him.

greenpilot

A memorable quote from my sister many years ago:

Me: " so, how was the pregnancy?"

Her: "Cnutish"

I love this country.

con___manx1

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490500#Comment_122490500

Maybe because the cursing prople are being themselves and care little for what others think where as pretentious people who care what others think will not curse and will lie to make themselves look better to others. Bullshit artists.

I prefer real people not fake.

dxhound2005

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490649#Comment_122490649

The thread is about people who constantly curse. Their behaviour would lose any effect on those used to their company. Whereas one of your "pretentious" people who went out of character into some profanity, would register more strongly due to its rarity.

I read somewhere that people who curse are generally smart. People who are constantly self policing their thoughts and words lack creativity and are repressed in other areas of their life. It goes hand in hand with the proven fact that conservative people have much stronger reactions to images of feces and blood. They need their world to be clean and ordered.

con___manx1

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490666#Comment_122490666

I get what you mean but in general irish people swear alot... even some of the celebrities for example Colin Farell curse during interviews.

You can tell if curising is used in a derogatory way towards you pretty easily.

Unless maybe English is not your first language or you grew up in a different culture.

OscarMIlde

Theirs 'cursing' and then there's cursing. A lot of Irish people use curse words as adjectives, which makes us sound like a bunch of dockers to countries not used to that. It's not really cursing in the traditional sense however, it's not meant to cause offense or used in a malicious manner. Actually cursing at people or objects, meant to signal disapproval or threaten is probably on a par with other countries. And to be honest I'd rather someone came right out and said something like 'f*ckin b**** to me than some of the passive aggressive faux polite but actually incredibly hostile Karen/Ken type scenarios regularly posted from America. At least there's no denying what the former person intends.

silliussoddius

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490349#Comment_122490349

Sometimes it isn’t appropriate enough.

dxhound2005

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490670#Comment_122490670

The thread shows that cursing can be a sign of intelligence and the attaintment of a high level of language education. But I would need to see your evidence about those people who self police their profanity. And how that is linked to their repressed nature in other areas of life. Could you find the source where you read about that, and link it here?

dxhound2005

There's cursing and there's cursing. Also swearing, profanity, expletives, bad language, obscenities, foul mouths, and blasphemy.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490709#Comment_122490709

I would genuinely love to - but it was a passing article/paper from a few years ago so without a hook to search on its very unlikely I can re-find it.

This is sort of the thrust of it;

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/swearing-study-intelligent-intelligence-university-of-rochester-a7916516.html

Ezeoul

I think a lot of Irish people swear unconsciously - I used to be one of them.

Until I started working with more people from other countries and noticed very quickly that they don't do it. And are a bit shocked when the Irish do! So I made a conscious effort to try and retrain myself and clean it up a bit. Now, I'm no angel, and do still swear a bit, but not anything like I used to. But it took a conscious effort on my part.

I happened to catch an episode of "Kin" on TV the other night, and the level of the swearing in it was really awful. But I have encountered people who do talk like that. I turned it off, as I kept flinching at the cursing. It really does sound horrible.

The evidence says that swearing is a natural part of language and everyone does it - the real difference between people is how they control their language. In a life or death situation everyone swears.

NewbridgeIR

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490226#Comment_122490226

Reminds me of those smokers who would complain if their children / relatives starting smoking. Dickheads.

Suit of Wolves

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490670#Comment_122490670

Oh dear, I'm worried about myself now!

thereiver

I don't like people who curse. I also don't like people who post on forums who use the words fffing c word ,is it really necessary .I thinks it's understandable to curse if you are really stressed out eg say you get a parking ticket after going into a shop for 5 minutes.

I think it's incredibly rude to curse at someone at work you are there 5 days a week there's no excuse to curse at a coworker it's just rude and ignorant and you should at least try to be polite to people at work

If you don't know it causes offence then you are simply ignorant

I think using the c word on a forum is an insult to women did we not learn anything since the 90s it's ironic to use bad language on a thread about people cursing

I don't mind either way, and I think I curse a bit to much. Funny thing is when I curse casually people tend to mirror me and up their curse rate to match.

Mister Vain

Kurwa.

breezy1985

Some c*nts obviously live very privileged lives if this sht is all they have to fuking worry about.

Norrie Rugger Head

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490950#Comment_122490950

So we can call people Dicks, knobs, cocks, dickhead, or Langer but can't say (unt?

Nah, that's misandry so

baxterooneydoody

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122490630#Comment_122490630

I work for an American woman from time to time and it took a long time for her to understand our use of the word cnut, it's the ultimate insult to call someone that in America. She brought it up one day about our overuse of it thinking we were actually insulting each other or talking about someone we didn't like but I told her how it can be used as an expression of endearment as well as an expression of hatred

Jellybaby_1

I was brought up to believe that cursing is gutter language, only used by those who were uneducated in good manners. In fact I actually reached well into my 60's before I even heard some of the words many are referring to here. I once worked with someone who cursed all the time, and she didn't seem to have many other words to create a whole sentence. I personally don't mind if anyone uses the odd swear word in my presence but I do object to being blasted with nothing else except swearing. Throughout my life the men in my family never cursed in front of women. I find now that men and women of all ages will swear everywhere and anywhere. If parents prevent their children from cursing, but curse themselves, this is sending conflicting messages. It's not appropriate all the time.

breezy1985

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122491716#Comment_122491716

The way you were brought up sounds like a load of sht to be honest.

A load of stuck fuks walking around thinking they are better than everyone else and instilling this snobbery in their children because they didn't curse around women like the "gutter people" did.

Daisy78

It’s one of the things I hate about this country. Even occasional swearing I find a turn off. It’s particularly embarrassing when you are in the company of people who are not from here. I cannot understand why anyone would think it is in any way endearing or intelligent.

Pauliedragon

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122491765#Comment_122491765

I've never heard anyone suggest swearing is endearing or intelligent. It's just a habit and part of language. Who decided in the first place that certain words are offensive? I personally don't swear at work for example because I can't but on my days off i can speak how I want with my friends as being able to speak freely is part of my time away from work. None of my friends are insulted by how I speak because they speak the same way. It's nobodys business how I speak unlees they're listening on my conversation which to me is rude. It's just words.

Dial Hard

I hate the C word with a passion and never use it. Geebag, however, is one of the best, most descriptive insults ever.

I actually don't find Irish people are big users of the C bomb. That person's American boss lady has clearly never spent any time with Australians if she thinks we use it a lot.

Greyfox

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122491765#Comment_122491765

The fact is as an adverb the f word can be a really fantastic word that's better than the alternative. Like others have said though it's all about how it's used. A work colleague calling you a f***ing ar**hole is disgusting and deserves to be punished. But if a man is harassing a woman and she tells the man to f**k off that of course is more than fair.

Strumms

It’s not meant to be endearing or intelligent it’s just part of our vernacular. We are not the only country who curses.

Back when I was living in France, working in the office at a large worldwide multinational intergovernmental organisation and ‘putain’ and ‘merde’ were commonly expressed during the working day.

One of the most guilty was an approximately 27 year old female, very attractive, intelligent, kind, thoughtful , sound as fûck, a bit dramatic, impeccably dressed and very expressive…she was heard exclaiming at times… “ ohh mon dieu, putain de merde….! “…compared to most others she ..well she had the mouth of a sailor, yet a heart of gold… she was brilliant. 😅

my parents hate cursing, but I think are a little conditioned now by its prevalence in modern society…..it just wasn’t the done thing at home growing up in good catholic Ireland in the 50’s/60’s… certainly not ‘fúck’ anyway….