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In love with a married colleague

  • 23-06-2024 12:15PM
    #1
    Moody Bollocks
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14 ✭


    I'll keep it simple, I've fallen big time for a married co worker and I'm sure she feels the same. The don't have kids and I don't think she's particularly happy.

    Can anyone give me any thoughts or guidance? Anyone been in this boat?

    The thought of stealing another man's woman fills me with guilt but I've never felt like this for another woman before.

    Post edited by HildaOgdenx on


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  • #2
    Ivor_Guddon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 245 ✭✭Ivor_Guddon


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058356993/in-love-with-a-married-colleague

    infatuation or maybe the thrill of having what you can't have

    i'd be very wary



  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    I would agree. Love by biological design is there to make you lose all reason and behave irrationally. Had it happen a few times in my longish life and every time it amounted to nothing.



  • #4
    CramCycle
    Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 25,918 Mod ✭✭✭✭CramCycle


    As above, it seems like infatuation. I am presuming by the post, nothing has actually happened.

    Two choices, first, better off keeping it as is for both your job and reputation. I have seen it happen before, it normally ends like a fling, lasts for a while but eventually the rush goes. Second, go for it, but it most likely will end up with either a) a fling that eventually fizzles out or b)you misread a bit of flirting and you get rebuffed at the first hurdle.



  • #5
    Dymo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,567 ✭✭✭Dymo


    This is a situation that could lead to a lot of pain and damage—not just for you and her, but for her spouse, too. Pursuing someone who is married crosses ethical boundaries, no matter how unhappy you think she might be. That marriage is a commitment, and any issues within it are for her and her spouse to resolve, not for you to insert yourself into.

    The fact that you feel guilt shows you know this isn’t right. Lean into that. Your conscience is telling you something important.

    Think about what kind of person you want to be. Do you want to be someone who pursues another person’s partner, or someone who respects boundaries and waits for a relationship that is free of these complications.



  • #6
    HildaOgdenx
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 7,990 Mod ✭✭✭✭HildaOgdenx


    Mod - As the OP did not return to the thread since first posting, back in June, I will close it at this point.



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