Advice on gift for brother's wedding

Ginger83

We will be attending my brother's wedding as a family of 4 (2 kids)

We won't be staying over due to accessibility issues. The venue claim to be fully accessible but after a visit we realised it's a disaster however we will manage for the few hours.

How much would be acceptable to give as a gift?

Calahonda52

So you are not close?

Pauliedragon

You'll get a very broad set of answers here from a €100 to numbers that nearly have more zeros. My last wedding was my sisters and my parents advised me that €200 is enough so I went with that. I'm single though so maybe more for a couple.

Rows Grower

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058352146/advice-on-gift-for-brothers-wedding

Why does everyone think the gift must be money?

You could buy them an actual gift.

Ginger83

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122152565#Comment_122152565

Why would you think that?

Ginger83

I'm not sure. I thought it was the normal

freshpopcorn

Without being smart.

I think it really depends on what you can afford.

People can give their sibling any amount of cash up to €1000 but I think about €250 - €500 is common.

You could also look into giving a gift or voucher but it should be something they like and will be some way useful.

People Cam also just be overly helpful before, during ans after the wedding.

Don't get yourself into difficuly or debt tough discuss it with family all families are different.

Notmything

Why does accessibility impact the size of the gift?

When my brother got married I got them a voucher for a holiday break, €200.

They lived together so didn't need a toaster or that and I don't like giving money.

Ginger83

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122152636#Comment_122152636

What made you think it did?

I was just explaining the situation.

Jim2007

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122152602#Comment_122152602

Otherwise you'd have a good handle of the costs per person, the kind of numbers they are working with and how much cash they are expecting to get from guests to offset the costs….

Ginger83

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122152749#Comment_122152749

Would someone getting married discuss how much they expect from a guest with the guest?

gracemarie

Hi there,

I work in the wedding business and I suppose the average amount would be around €200 for a family. My brother is getting married soon and we'll give €250 but if we couldn't afford it, I'd give what I could. It depends on what you're able to give, you should never feel like you have to give a certain amount.

Cash is most definitely preferred by couples but if you don't want to give money, you could get a voucher for a place you know they enjoy going to.

gracemarie

No, that would not be the norm at all to discuss money they expect to receive from each guest

Ginger83

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122152903#Comment_122152903

I didn't think so. I don't discuss the financial part of their big day. I'm happy to share their day and even though it will be tough on us we will make the effort to attend

Jim2007

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122152783#Comment_122152783

No, but then again according to your first post:

We will be attending my brother's wedding as a family of 4 (2 kids)

So in this case yes they would.

Notmything

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122152648#Comment_122152648

Since you mentioned it in a discussion on how much of a gift to give, it would be fair to assume you were linking them. Otherwise why mention it.

Its your brother, give what you think is right, if you're v close then maybe give more than if you can't stand each other or don't.