The older I grow.....

Brief_Lives

the less I care...

It could be autism, but I am genuinely confused.

I still love comics and cars and mathematics, but i seem to not care about human stuff, like what happened in dublin, even the toy show. i used to love the toy show.

is it just age? i'm living in a half life, 42.

bassy

REALITY

silliussoddius

It’s the little things that count.

ottolwinner

Do you have autism?

gigantic09

Getting even more introverted.

Electric Sheep

You really should get over the toy show bullshit. Time to adult.

Airyfairy12

Sounds like depression

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121416128#Comment_121416128

I was just about to say the same thing!

spakman

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121416144#Comment_121416144

Its not necessarily depression if a 42 year old man isn't excited about the toy show ffs 😂

suvigirl

Why would you care about the toy show? What man in his 40s would?

Toys, kids, kids talking about toys....what's to be interested in??

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121416161#Comment_121416161

Yeah.. did you read the rest of it where they say they “don’t care about human stuff”, that can be a sign of depression.

It may be a sign of age indeed but if you’re losing interest in things you once liked for no apparent reason it’s probably more likely than autism to be fair.

Airyfairy12

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121416161#Comment_121416161

Its not about the toy show, He's losing interest in things that used to bring him joy even as an adult, you dont have to relate to what brings someone else joy but that doesnt mean you should belittle it either. Some adults watch cartoons or old movies they enjoyed as kids because it takes them back and makes them feel good. Generally when people cant reminisce or be nostalgic, its because theyre not happy in their current life, relating back to a happier time can be a painful experience. So yes, not being excited about the toy show when its something youve enjoyed for a very long time, could be a sign of depression.

freshpopcorn

Personally I think the older you get the less you care what others think and the more like you are do, wear enjoy, etc what you want.

I think it's a good think I look people sometimes and I feel it's such an act and effort they've to put on at times.

Strumms

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058324353/the-older-i-grow

I loved the toy show as a kid. I haven’t watched it in years. I’m not a parent, I’ve no interest in toys, so I’m just not that interested.

stuff happening in Dublin ? You can’t stop it, change it, influence it, so… you can have an opinion but no point in getting too emotionally invested in it… it’s not of your making…

im around your age and in this lifetime one of the best pieces of advice I ever received…. “ don’t worry, don’t stress too much, about stuff, things that you can’t control, influence or change..” when I didn’t take that advice I ended up in a bad situation…

focus on your own wellbeing, happiness and goals…. With maximum effort….

long term plans are good…. A holiday, a purchase you’ve always wanted even if it means waiting / saving…. It’s a goal…Stuff like that.

not caring too much actually is a quality…. I know some very caring people, worriers too… why care too much ? Care enough…

Maybe open up to new interests, explore what you like and becoming more involved…

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121416128#Comment_121416128

You can lose interest in things and it not be 'depression'.

Hotblack Desiato

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121416166#Comment_121416166

A father?

Brief_Lives

Lots of good answers, thanks folks

AllForIt

Sounds like you are maturing to me.

Some people are led by what they see on TV.

How can anyone really have the mental capacity to care about all the terrible things they see in the news every day.

And you don't have to always love the same things your whole life, maybe turn off the TV and try new things. Maybe your are yearning for something different.

suvigirl

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121419974#Comment_121419974

Surely forced to watch no?

Airyfairy12

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121419897#Comment_121419897

Of course you can, you can lose interest in lots of things for lots of reasons, I just gave my opinion on his post, didnt say it was a fact! Its for the OP to decide whats going on with him.

freshpopcorn

Another thing I'd say to you OP lots of people don't care about what's in the news.

There might be a murder, celebrity dying or some terrible disaster lot of people say that's awful and go on with their day.

Similar with the ins and outs of politics, wars, etc people a lot don't know what exactly is going on or give it much attention.

There's people on social media and in reality who do care but some people just say it.

ottolwinner

I give the news ten minutes a day regardless what’s in it. I can’t fix any of it so I don’t need to be burdened by it but don’t mind being informed with a time limit.

Grayson

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058324353/the-older-i-grow

Might be autism. Might just be getting bored with other stuff.

People here are saying depression and that might also be the case. Or all three could be true.

I'm 48 and I got my autism diagnosis this year.

Brief_Lives

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121422718#Comment_121422718

i think we might be very similar

Grayson

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121423655#Comment_121423655

Are you bald too? :D

Wanderer2010

The older i get the more i realise that practically nobody cares what you say or do, so you are best off just doing whatever makes you happy as long as you arent hurting anyone.

A great statement on this is:

When you are 20, you worry about what people think of you.

When you are 40, you dont care what people think of you

When you are 60, you discover people were never thinking of you all along.

Wise words.

506972617465

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058324353/the-older-i-grow

I'm similar. There's no money anyone could pay me to go for drinks in town anymore or socialise in any way. Christ, I don't even go to pubs anymore! Or cinema. Or shopping - I do most of my shopping online; better prices and no contact with people with fake smiles. I don't follow what's trendy and in fashion anymore. Music I used to listen to as a teenager is still good, but I'd rather play endless stream of ambient on YT, something to provide a background when I'm working. I have my own little bubble, I live inside that bubble and I rarely - if at all - go outside of it.

Brief_Lives

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121425048#Comment_121425048

How do you login on another computer.?

Fascinating username

kerryjack

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121425048#Comment_121425048

Same here happy in my own skin now, mid 50, do a lot of driving for work and radio not working in van and i don't even miss it,couldn't care less about news when I come home herself telling me all stuff going on in school and all bits going on locally all small everyday stuff boring stuff to me, stopped going to pub trying to make small talk to locals that never left the cowshite, not depressed but just not bothered to participate. I like working, to be productive to be creative to be positive as I get older have to be very organised and structured and have lost all my tolerance for bullshite.

Potential-Monke

I wouldn't worry about it OP, times were you were judged by your job, your income, your popularity, your ability to get into a marriage and family and all that expected crap. Times have changed. You do you. You do what makes you happy, as long as it's not affecting anyone else. It's hard to get out of the mentality of being "different" to the socially expected norms. I tried the social family work person, and I was more or less miserable. I now spend most my spare time (and without kids or a partner, there's a lot) doing what I love, playing games, watching anime/movies, playing D&D, and whatever else I enjoy. I'm 40. I've no interest in gossip, celebrities, sport (outside of the intercounty hurling and I only watch my county in that), socialising. I'm not even a fan of what most people watch on Netflix, etc. I prefer my entertainment to be unrealistic, because life is real enough. I work full time, I pay my share, I don't rely on anyone for anything and not entitled to anything anyway. I just rather spend my time doing what I enjoy instead of pretending to be someone I'm not in order to "fit in".

There's too many humans in the world to genuinely care, and even if I did care there's very little I can do to affect the world. Very few people genuinely care, they just have to pretend in order to fit in. Each to their own, and as kerryjack said above, I couldn't be bothered trying anymore. It's exhausting and time better spent doing what I enjoy.

And I've no doubt there would have been many like me 50/100 years ago if the technology existed.

SuperBowserWorld

It could be over exposure to STUFF and burnout. Our brain can only take in so much and after that it starts rejecting stuff that's not needed for survival

Might be a good idea to use the internet only for essential things or maybe take a long break and see where you want to take your life.

When you are stuck in the middle of STUFF you can't see the wood from the trees.

yagan

I tipping into my 50s during the pandemic and all it affirmed was that I enjoyed solitary pursuits more.

Voluntary and social activities were like a second job to me once, whereas now I couldn't care less. I prefer walking, reading history, and travel.