What would the world be like if everyone was single?

pgj2015

im talking about no one married or in relationships ever.

Would it be better or worse?

I think better but I suppose thats just because I prefer it myself.

But it would be strange wouldnt it, coupled up people would live very different lives, they would probably go out a lot more, hang out with friends a lot more, maybe more holidays and money to spend. less boring in my opinion, I think a lot of people become boring when part of a couple, they get old before their time.

people could date a different person every night or week etc, no messy divorces, would that make them happier or not?

Leg End Reject

A lot of people wouldn't know who their father was so we'd all be unwittingly riding our relatives.

We'd need a lot of housing too, but smaller houses and apartments would be more common.

Some people would be happier, some wouldn't.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004294#Comment_121004294

Could they not do paternity tests to see who their father is?

Leg End Reject

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004297#Comment_121004297

You could, but if there's no monogamy you might need a lot of men to be willing to get tested to determine which one is the father of a child.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004302#Comment_121004302

Or just use contraception?

Leg End Reject

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004307#Comment_121004307

Not everyone bothers in the heat of the moment, that will never change. No method is 100% either.

Actually, STDs would go through the roof.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004316#Comment_121004316

not 100% but if you use 2 methods together you will be pretty safe from pregnancy.

true on stds but I think they already are through the roof.

corner of hells

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004316#Comment_121004316

STDs don’t go through the roof , they go through your ……. oh , apologies.

Leg End Reject

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004347#Comment_121004347

I actually thought the same posting it! 😂

newmember2

Who's raising the kids?

taxAHcruel

Id be bored for sure :) Who would I cook for? :)

Jim_Hodge

I know it's not for everybody but I would find a life without a strong monogamous relationship, in a loving family unit, lonely and unfulfilled.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004454#Comment_121004454

I wonder what the majority would like though? Do most people couple up because its kind of a tradition or the thing you are "supposed" to do,

pgj2015

@newmember2 either parent or both of them but not part of a couple.

Jim_Hodge

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004471#Comment_121004471

I've no idea and can't speak for, or imagine what, the majority of people feel. As for the motivations of most others, none of us know.

kippy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058310081/what-would-the-world-be-like-if-everyone-was-single

The human race wouldn't exist within 100 years.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004500#Comment_121004500

it would, kids often get raised by single parents and in this scenario both parents could raise their kids if that is what they wanted.

some single people these days raise kids on their own or with other people who want kids but are not in a relationship.

taxAHcruel

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004454#Comment_121004454

I dunno. I think if that happened to me I would go with it. I could live the MGTOW life if my relationship broke down. I do not think at 44 that I have the energy to get back in the dating game. So if anything happened - I would totally MGTOW the rest of my life.

Looking unlikely though. I've been going out with the girls for over 15 years and have 4 kids with them and we have canines. It's the settled life for me!

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004548#Comment_121004548

you don't have energy at 44? 😯

TedBundysDriver

Divorce lawyers would have to work in Aldi instead

taxAHcruel

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004569#Comment_121004569

I have a lot of energy I think. I do capoeira and BJJ and archery and horse riding and running and other martial arts and I have a serious fetish for cookery which I spend hours doing.

But I think despite all that if I suddenly ended up single - I don't have the particular energy required to go back on the market. If I woke up single tomorrow I'd happily stay that way and just do the thing. I couldn't do the whole relationship building thing all over again from scratch. It feels like "been there done that" so I'd be looking at what else there is in life.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004587#Comment_121004587

Yes but why do you have to be in a relationship when the opposite sex come into it? you could just date and not get into a relationship.

taxAHcruel

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004596#Comment_121004596

I spend a lot of time with my friends. And I spend a hell of a lot of time training children. I think if my romantic/sexual relationship ever ended (unlikely at this point so this is all just conjecture and thinking out loud) I would just keep at those relationships. I would not invest in a romantic relationship again. I'd be done.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004603#Comment_121004603

yeah but a date is just a few hours, no big investment needed.

you could see mary tonight and susan next week etc

taxAHcruel

Agree. I just don't see the appeal. I'd prefer to spend a few hours on the mats breaking bones and choking throats :) And teaching kids to fight. Or give me a few hours alone with my oneida kestrel. I'd be happy out.

Not that I am not happy with the girls. I love being in a relationship. Especially a relationship that makes most guys drool. I just wouldn't ever be interested in another one. I could not do the whole "start from scratch" thing. I don't think I'd have the energy or head space for it. I've enough friends without doing "just drinks" with any gal just for the sake of it.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004616#Comment_121004616

So if you were single tomorrow, you would happily live until you die without sex?

taxAHcruel

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004619#Comment_121004619

I think so yes. Don't get me wrong. I love sex. A lot. Especially the sex I am getting most of the time. But it's never felt like a need. If i t went away tomorrow I would not miss it.

If my bow went away tomorrow - or I could never fight again - I think I would feel that more. If I go a week without a fight all my old anxieties and depressions and self doubt and self hatred start coming back. I need challenges and "controlled discomfort" to keep me sane.

Sex though I think I could live without. I think I would be more likely to miss basic human touch and affection before I would miss sex. The touch of a loved one - the gentle caress or the cuddle - would be a lot more important to me than sex.

Sex is great. It's just never been a life priority for me I think. Which is ironic given I get more of it than most people I think :)

kippy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004518#Comment_121004518

People are talking about not knowing who was related to who, potentially having sex with a relation, then stating that using contraception would reduce these chances above. The birthrate has to be above a certain level for the race to survive, I can't see how this would happen in scenario above.

I've never stated that single people cannot rear kids, am just going down the logical path based on things that are being suggested.

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taxAHcruel

It's a weird idea that if everyone was single - that parenting and procreation would somehow stop happening. I sincerely doubt that. I actually think the opposite would happen. It would become the embodiment of the concept that "it takes a village to raise a child". The concept of family would simply become more communal.

Not sure if anyone remembers the movie Kpax. Or the book (if you do not like kevin spacey anymore you might like the book more) but the society he claimed to come from in the book / movie is basically what life would look like if the OPs thesis came into effect. There would be just as many children. It would just be a totally different concept of family.

magicbastarder

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121004378#Comment_121004378

this. either the human race dies out because women aren't having kids or every single mother is a single mother.

Jim_Hodge

Single parent SW payments would cripple the country.