Why does the man in a couple always drive?

pgj2015 · 09-06-2023 12:37pm #1

When a couple is in the car, why does the man always drive? Just saw a couple switch seats at the airport, she got out of the drivers seat and he took over driving.

I see it with my own sister, very good competent driver who drives hundreds of miles each week, but iv never seen her drive when the husband is in the car.

It's usually men who are cocky bad drivers in my experience anyway.

Quitelife · 09-06-2023 12:40pm

Your dead right i must get onto my local Social Democrat councillor & organise a protest March in Dublin !

artanevilla · 09-06-2023 12:42pm

I'd say in general men enjoy driving more, woman probably see it as a way of getting from A to B so when it comes down to who drives I would say in most cases the man would put himself forward and say "I don't mind".

I remember they did a study a while back on why men are more likely to drive with one hand on the wheel that women. They theorized that when women drive they are more likely to see themselves as separate from the car they are driving and are simply operating it, whereas men were more likely to feel part of the car itself almost as if it was an extension of themselves which may feed into this.

These are wild generalizations mind but may be some truth in it.

Mister Vain · 09-06-2023 1:03pm

To save time on parking?

DownByTheGarden · 09-06-2023 1:28pm

I equally see the female of couples in cars driving.

Kaybaykwah · 09-06-2023 1:46pm

I usually, 95% of the time driving when with my wife. The other day, we went down to Sherbrooke, a city an hour and a half away from here to check out some garage/yard sales. I was about to cross a well engaged green light when I saw this woman drive very fast in the red. My wife would have been crushed if hit had I not anticipated it and done my bit of defensive driving.

Not so sure about women and driving skills. I see plenty drive without care and neglecting speed limits in special zones.

BrianD3 · 09-06-2023 1:56pm

Driving is a macho activity (you are in control of noisy dangerous machinery) a useful skill and cars are a display of wealth. It's therefore not surprising that men are more into cars/driving than women and that both the male and female partners in a couple prefer it if the man drives.

Also, IME, men who haven't learned to drive by about the age of 25 are seen as pussies by women. I would expect such men to struggle getting dates and partners, Most women do not want to be driving their partner around like they would their child.

mulbot · 09-06-2023 1:58pm

Cars are a display of wealth? WHATTTTTT?

AllForIt · 09-06-2023 2:00pm

Because nagging and driving at the same time is dangerous.

helimachoptor · 09-06-2023 2:09pm

I actually notice the opposite tbh, vast majority of times i see the woman driving.

BattleCorp · 09-06-2023 2:15pm

My missus gets me to drive so that I have to pay for the fuel. The tight b1tch. 😁

Notmything · 09-06-2023 2:25pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058300121/why-does-the-man-in-a-couple-always-drive

Who drives if it's a lesbian couple?

Greyfox · 09-06-2023 2:25pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120694902#Comment_120694902

Nonsense, I'm a 42 year old male and never bothered with driving and it's never been a problem with getting women. Although it does irritate my current girlfriend a little when I can drink and she can't but its not enough of a reason to get a car

tesla_newbie · 09-06-2023 2:32pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120695032#Comment_120695032

The “man “

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000 · 09-06-2023 2:33pm

So the alloy wheels don't get mangled.

touts · 09-06-2023 2:36pm

I asked my wife this and was told matter of factly that she wants to

Keep the milage down on her car.
Reduce the chances of dents in the doors from crowded carparks at weekends.

I don't know if her cold logic horrifies me or turns me on.

YellowLead · 09-06-2023 2:38pm

It’s often because men can’t help being back seat drivers and would drive their female partner mad with their commands and criticisms 😅

Lord Nikon · 09-06-2023 3:17pm

I don't trust my wife driving, and I get stressed out when she parks next to cars in carparks, I try to avoid parking next to any cars in carparks when possible.

AxelF84 · 09-06-2023 3:42pm

Quite the opposite with us, the wife does most of the driving as she seems to enjoy it more, I don't really mind who drives, she does feel sick from time to time as a passenger so it just makes sense to have her drive

09-06-2023 3:46pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120695032#Comment_120695032

Me

Avaya2020 · 09-06-2023 3:50pm

Probably 9 times out of 10 the man knows how to get there . Plus parking , I actually feel sick when my other half tries to back in to a space . Amount of times she has a panic attack when she can't then we have to switch seats 😕 then it's my fault because I wasn't looking at her to back in ..... too much drama

Thelonious Monk · 09-06-2023 5:26pm

Me and me moth share the burden if we go away for weekend etc.

I prefer being a passenger, seems I'm alone with this.

09-06-2023 5:37pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120694902#Comment_120694902

I dont know about that.

To this day, two of my brothers have never learned to drive (one age 40 the other mid fifties) and neither of them ever had a struggle getting dates.

And their partners drove

The day I bought my very first car another brother offered to reverse it into the driveway for me. He was showing off because he knew I was still learning. He reversed straight into an iron gate post and ripped a 12 inch hole in the passenger door. I never let him behind the wheel of any car I owned ever again.

thegame983 · 09-06-2023 5:42pm

Usually its the person who owns the car in my experience.

tesla_newbie · 09-06-2023 5:53pm

My wife is a good driver, my mother is the worst driver ever to get behind a wheel ( I’m in a state of terror if I ever sit in with her)

windowcills · 09-06-2023 5:59pm

I always try to drive her, wife does a lot of stuff that i couldnt do, (she is great with making sure kids have homework done correctly, and has play dates), so i am forever trying to return the favour

She is also better at navigating, so can tell me where to turn, i would not be able to help her

PsychoPete · 09-06-2023 5:59pm

I never let my missus drive, I value my own safety too much

iamstop · 09-06-2023 6:26pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120695785#Comment_120695785

That's how it is in my case. She drives us back if I had a couple of scoops but generally I drive. If she drove to pick me up then we don't bother switching.

NSAman · 09-06-2023 6:27pm

I'm in the Midwest, here it is the reverse. The woman drives!

Not me, prefer driving ..... not that herself is unsafe.

Always find it weird here

KathleenGrant · 09-06-2023 6:32pm

Because there are more opportunities to criticise the man if he is driving rather than just sitting there. I'd be pissed off if I hadn't enough opportunities to bitch about him.

Leg End Reject · 09-06-2023 6:36pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120694626#Comment_120694626

As a typical woman driver that hurt. 🤣🤣🤣

banie01 · 09-06-2023 6:41pm

I must not be a man anymore 😳 Jesus! Man card was revoked without me ever even noticing!

My Mrs probably does 80% of our driving. I've become quite accustomed to being chaffeured.

Nicks delight · 09-06-2023 6:47pm

Absolutely right. Maybe we should have another controlling law put in placed that dictates to the people that if you are a couple, 3.5 days of the week the man should drive and the other 3.5 days the Female should drive. Oh, but what if they are same-sex couples then they can only drive 3.5 days of the week and that is not fair. so maybe we need to make another law saying no people regardless of gender should be driving at all....the logic is flawed, but I believe there are some politicians out there thinking that would be a great idea...lol... Maybe the government and people should not interfere in Other people private life's at all and let couple decide for themselves of who should drive, who should cook, who to work, who to stay at home. Just Let people decide for them selves how they want to live their life and stop judging people for their own lifestyle choices. :)

Jim2007 · 09-06-2023 6:55pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058300121/why-does-the-man-in-a-couple-always-drive

You could just ask your wife or girlfriend….

gameoverdude · 09-06-2023 6:59pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120694902#Comment_120694902

Nope.

SuperBowserWorld · 09-06-2023 7:30pm

What about trouples ?

Furze99 · 09-06-2023 7:38pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120695736#Comment_120695736

Tut, tut.. I thought ye'd be on bikes :)

Furze99 · 09-06-2023 7:44pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120694854#Comment_120694854

I'm inclined to agree a bit, there's this idea that women are more averse to taking risk and therefore safer. There's a little truth in that when it comes to overtaking but most of the time when my wife or daughters drive, I'm waiting for it to come unstuck. Apart from not really concentrating, they just be going that 10mph quicker than they should be and when anything appears around a bend on narrow roads, puts the heart across you. Much safer when I drive of course!

Pauliedragon · 09-06-2023 8:22pm

I think people have this the wrong way. Some men feel they do the driving as that means they are in charge. It's the other way around IMO. The boss of the family doesn't do the work they get a subordinate to do it for them.

09-06-2023 8:24pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120696162#Comment_120696162

Extra back seat driver.

Larbre34 · 09-06-2023 8:42pm

I remember when I was young, if I saw a couple in a car, especially someone I knew and if the woman was driving, I'd just think it looked wrong.

An old friend of my mother's had a husband who never drove, she did it all. I used to think he was the biggest loser going.

I just don't think women generally enjoy driving as much, or are into a big adventure behind the wheel, like men tend to be.

My wife is a very good driver; experienced, competent, aware, never panics. But she doesn't enjoy it. We spent a month driving across South Africa years ago. Her contribution to the driving was one whole hour. I suspect she's quite typical of women, where driving is a necessity.

Deja Boo · 09-06-2023 8:45pm

lol, I was always driving the man around everywhere, even on long road trips.

Kaybaykwah · 09-06-2023 10:25pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120696209#Comment_120696209

Herself asks if she may drive, not too often as it goes, which suits me, and I suspect her. I don’t stir the pot in order to keep the status quo.

Thelonious Monk · 09-06-2023 11:17pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120696182#Comment_120696182

Usually! We both cycle to work but we rent or borrow a car sometimes, have avoided owning one yet.

She gets called in to work in the middle of the night sometimes so might have to bite the bullet and get one sooner or later, that's all my woke cycling credentials gone out the door.