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Men of, what do you do after work to pass the time?

  • 13-04-2023 9:48am
    Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭

    I'm a 27 year old male, I work your typical 9-5 office job and then do a bit of extra work on the weekends and stuff. One thing I've lacked is a hobby or stuff to do when I come home in the evenings. All my friends only do one thing and that is drink every night, whilst I also do go out a good bit I'm getting bored of it and getting fed up of just pissing away my money every night. I was wondering people around my age or have been in the same boat, what do yous do to pass the time?



  • Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,324 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot

    Video gaming??

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,550 ✭✭✭victor8600

    When I was your age, I spent most evenings playing World of Warcraft, going out drinking with friends once a week, and hillwalking/kayaking/playing sports on one of the weekend days.

  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    Personally I used to love it and spent my whole childhood at it. But lately I lack the concentration for it and get bored easily with it (mainly cause im **** at it and get annoyed) so I'd probably only play for a hour or two a week max. It's just like I dont like the games.

  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Arts Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 47,863 CMod ✭✭✭✭magicbastarder

    a decade or two older - cycling, woodwork (mainly woodturning), bit of gardening.

    obviously you need space for the latter two...

  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    Thats one game I've never played or got into, but when I was younger I would have done the same when I was about 18 years of age or so. Thats another thing I used to play sports and go to the gym but lately I don't think I'd feel comfortable because I dont feel I'd be good enough to play sports or fit enough. I've looked at getting into golf or playing darts which don't depend on a team.

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  • Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,324 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot

    Well why not join a gaming community for the games you do enjoy, its great craic sitting chatting away to people while gaming together.

  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    When it comes to cycling the roads aren't partially suited for it here, theres no cycle lanes etc, however I have gone to the greenway a few times during covid which I did enjoy.

  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    Do you mean a gaming community for online games in person or do you mean the table top games like DnD and magic the gathering?

  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Home & Garden Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 22,259 CMod ✭✭✭✭Pawwed Rig

    Women or the lack thereof were my biggest concerns at that age.

  • Registered Users Posts: 18,259 ✭✭✭✭kippy

    Try find a group that play soccer once a week, indoor or outdoor. Tag rugby season is about to start in a few parts of the country, tis a good activity that ticks a few boxes once or twice a week.

    At that age would have played a fair bit of tag rugby, played guitar, did a few jobs around the house, went to the cinema, concerts etc. All depending on the time of year and where I lived at the time

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  • Registered Users Posts: 16,486 ✭✭✭✭osarusan

    Playing/watching sports, reading, cycling, chess, gym.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,377 ✭✭✭RedXIV

    If I could go back in time and tell younger RedXIV what to do for this topic, it would start with, "Don't get up out of one chair you've been in for 8 hours, to go sit in another chair for another 5 or 6 hours".

    I played a lot of games growing up and also liked to tinker on technical projects so I spent a lot of time at a computer screen during and after work and the things that really stood out over the last 20 years or so would be when I did an evening course to become a masseuse, literally just to get me away from a desk, which I really enjoyed and the brief stints I got into going to the gym or climbing walls or martial arts.

    You'll feel better if you're doing something that makes your body move but that's very easy to say on a soapbox, the number 1 thing is that you need to enjoy it. But I'm coming around on the thoughts of the woodworking like @magicbastarder says. There is something incredibly satisfying in building a physical object, especially when there is time and effort put into the finish.

  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    Tag rugby is an interesting one, I've never heard of that or that there was a season and everything for it, so I may check that out now and see.

  • Registered Users Posts: 786 ✭✭✭rustynutz

    I'm in my forties and have a few hobbies, some are weather dependent so it's important to have others that aren't for when the weather is crap. I fly Powered paragliders when the weather allows, I am into motorbikes too and enjoy tinkering with these as well as riding them. I do some mountain biking with my son when I get time, and I've been training krav maga for the past few years, which involves a class once or twice a week and some strength and fitness training another couple of evenings a week.

    It's easy to slip into the few pints every evening trap, so you are right to be looking for alternatives.

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,735 ✭✭✭FortuneChip

    Definitely went through that phase of multiple nights out a week, over time it will gradually shift to once a week, and then once a fortnight etc as everyone gets older, so start your replacement hobbies now and you'll be in good shape.

    Reading. It's simple, it's effective, enjoyable and good for the head

    Gym - it's good for the body, it's good for the mind. If you've never been a gym-goer, start with a few PT sessions to help develop good habits and elminate bad habits.

    ANY club - any form of social club around an activity you enjoy. Could be games, sport, arts, music, whatever. Don't do one for the sake of it, make it something you've always had an interest in and you'll be enriching your life.

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,781 ✭✭✭Iseedeadpixels

    If you have a good enough PC you could play online Role play games.

  • Registered Users Posts: 6,997 ✭✭✭HalloweenJack

    Gym, reading, writing, cycling, watching telly, playing computer games.

    Depends on what you're interested in but at your age you must have an idea of what captures your interest. Just dedicate more time to it.

    If not, try a few different things and see which you might like. It's never too late. I didn't learn to ride a bike until I was 34 and now I love it.

  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    Unfortunately I don't I just have a laptop for work/college which I play the occasional game on but I mainly play Xbox.

  • Registered Users Posts: 14,172 ✭✭✭✭ednwireland

    at your age I was racing mountain bikes , took more spare time than I had. Still cycle , lot slower than I was. otherwise it's house and garden.

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,748 ✭✭✭Hooked

    Male 44

    Soccer Tue/Thur evenings and Sunday mornings...

    DIY most evenings as we're renovating room by room.

    When it's not DIY I'm in the garage converting a van to camper!

    Or dog walking, gardening, etc...

    But all of this is becaise of where I live, the work needed to be done and the garage in which to do it...

    I hate to be idle.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    I watch alot of sports and I mean I basically watch everything and anything from baseball to hockey to golf and snooker, I just dont play them because in my head I'm not good enough and then feel like im letting the team down. I do read and watch a bit of netflix/disney plus but it feels unproductive if that makes sense?

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,550 ✭✭✭victor8600

    It does not matter if you "good enough" or not. For amateur team sports, the important thing is to come to the games (and be on time), pull your weight and most importantly, have fun. Forget about "letting the team down". If you are bad at your chosen sport, but if you make an effort and are positive, your teammates will love you for your efforts even if not for your outstanding abilities.

  • Registered Users Posts: 16,248 ✭✭✭✭banie01

    I'm 43 and retired so lots of time to fill. I went back to Uni and I'm in the final year of a criminal justice degree that is deferred on medical grounds. That did take up quite a bit of my time early on. A lot of reading and summation along with writing case notes. It was a part of the course I enjoyed, I've always been a voracious reader so it was a help.

    I do watch quite a bit of sport. I also collect model aircraft, primarily military of all types. I have 2 main splits in the collection, diecast & kit builds.

    I share some aspects of the collecting hobby with my son. Comics and action figures, he is big into his Marvel and DC, whereas while I'm a fan of those my own tastes are very much more 2000ad and in particular Judge Dredd.

    We are lucky enough to have a fairly big Mancave where can display, work on stuff and with a very comfy home cinema set up out there. To give a bit of privacy and keep us out from under my wife's feet.

    On top of that, I do have a couple of close friends and we make time to see each other on a regular basis for anything from coffee, through to watching sports, playing video games and occasional pints.

  • Registered Users Posts: 6,126 ✭✭✭SuperBowserWorld

    All good advice above.

    If you can travel then do that while you can. Especially if you can work your chosen career and travel. Just go.

    If you are sick of drinking ... etc... spend the money you might waste on alcohol on concerts, movies, meals out, training/skills you enjoy. Learn a language.

    Don't go down the video game route if your day job is screen work, sitting on your ass. You can do that anytime/any age/when kids/other issues tie you down. Get out and about while you can, meet people.

    And don't get married until you really are certain.

  • Registered Users Posts: 16,248 ✭✭✭✭banie01

     I fly Powered paragliders when the weather allows,

    I'd love to hear more about this? What licensing and equipment is needed in particular? I've long wondered about getting into paragliding but never actually followed up on it apart from a couple of tandem flights when I lived abroad.

  • Registered Users Posts: 436 ✭✭Girl Geraldine

    Jesus christ. It is not as bad as drinking but it is a bad thing to be into. It is unhealthy and unsocial.

    Take up a sport, get into drama or something social. Unless you are a talented artist, it is rare for anything good to come out of solitary activities.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭rje66

    I got into kitesurfing, bee keeping and home brewing, was a rugby referee too, now I have no spare time.....

    The odd evening class was good. Mostly cookery based.

    As others have said, just be active. You dont have to be good at hobbies to enjoy yourself.

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,493 ✭✭✭Furze99

    Yeah but you don't need to do team sports. I'd watch team sports happily but for actual activity have always tended more towards individual pursuits. Depending on where you live, there could be many or fewer options. Think of the various racquet sports for instance. Golf is for businessmen and old fuddy duddies! If you like the outdoors then hillwalking, rockclimbing, canoeing apart from obvious like cycling. Hobbies? I was into photography a lot at one stage, less now as so much stuff posted. You could try brewing your own booze. Then there's volunteering if there's somewhere local that could do with a bit of a dig out. Like a pint as well but too easy to get a little fond of it and it kills the old brain cells! So you're right to keep an eye on it.

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,781 ✭✭✭Iseedeadpixels

    What a **** take! Lmao most online games are played with friends, I've been gaming over 30 years now and am mentally and physically healthy.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 122 ✭✭CWMMC

    Well unfortunately with the golf situation I work in the Accounting industry so its mainly my clients. I used to go walking most evenings along the trails and stuff but with the winter weather and the rain we've been having for the last few months I didn't bother going. Exactly I was/am getting too fond of it for my liking.