Growing conflict with bud

j2 · 21-03-2023 10:23am #1

So I have been hanging out with a new group of lads via a chess club I joined recently. Good group, made friends with them quickly and a few of them also go to my gym so we've been hanging out a lot recently. I'm a funny guy to talk to, in fact I once had Dara O'Briain in person basically telling me that I am like a comic. When I arrived on the scene everybody quickly recognised me as one of those good humoured types, always telling jokes or stories etc, but not in an annoying way, I know how to read the room and I don't impose it on people in the wrong situation. There's one guy, who I assume was in the "funniest guy" role before I showed up. We got along great at first, and basically still do, but I noticed he's the only one who never likes any of my zingers on twitter, and never replies to them. I tweeted at least 4 or 5 solid zingers at the weekend and his absence was conspicuous, almost like he was avoiding them. Is there now a resentment because I'm potentially squeezing him out of his former role as funny guy?

xabi · 21-03-2023 10:32am

Whats a zinger

j2 · 21-03-2023 10:34am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382477#Comment_120382477

Like a witticism basically.

the_amazing_raisin · 21-03-2023 11:11am

I think you're reading too much into it, he went a weekend without checking Twitter, maybe he was busy or just having a no social media weekend

I've known people who will literally go several days before replying to a message because they're just not in the mood (yes, I'm one of them)

If you're concerned that you're stealing his thunder somewhat, then just back off the jokes a bit and give him some space to speak

ManOfMystery · 21-03-2023 11:16am

Maybe he just didn't find them funny? Humour is very subjective. I also find - within my circle at least - that people who are naturally funny don't always find other humour funny like the rest of us do.

Also, assuming that the absence of a 'like' or 'reply' on social media is some form of attack on you is a very passive aggressive way of looking at things. It feels like you need some kind of affirmation and attention and when you don't get it, you suspect you're not liked. The world doesn't work like that - some people just get on with life and don't spend their time making sure everyone they like knows it.

akelly02 · 21-03-2023 11:22am

you sound like a fella who really wants to be liked and for everyone to think you are funny.

Stop trying so hard would be my advice.

Humour is subjective.

j2 · 21-03-2023 11:42am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382613#Comment_120382613

Right but if I'm putting out zingers left and right and everyone else is laughing and liking them it's likely some pretty good stuff, so I'm left thinking "what gives"? Where's the like?

21-03-2023 11:48am

One; either he doesn't think they're "zingers" or two; he doesn't live life off social media and gave them a little 'ha' and moved on. He isnt obliged to like anything.

Explosive_Cornflake · 21-03-2023 11:52am

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382701#Comment_120382701

Not everyone has the exact same type of sense of humor. It'd be fairly boring if they did.

xabi · 21-03-2023 11:52am

You have little to be worried about

SteM · 21-03-2023 11:53am

OP, you're overthinking every single aspect of this relationship and your interaction with these people. It must be draining, just try to relax and life will be much easier.

Hannibal_Smith · 21-03-2023 12:01pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382701#Comment_120382701

Why are you putting so much importance on one guy's opinion? Humours differ, maybe he doesn't think they're funny, or maybe he's not even seeing them? Either way I wouldn't take it too personally. If you all get on well and have good banter between you all that's all that matters.

cml387 · 21-03-2023 12:13pm

There is an epsiode of Frasier ("The Focus Group") in which Frasier's radio program is reviewed by a focus group. Everybody is highly praiseworthy of the show except for one person who expresses some mild criticism.

Needless to say Frasier obsesses about this one guy, to the extent that he (illegally) gets details of where the man lives, relentlessly stalks him in an effort to change his mind and eventually accidentally burns down his news stand and ruins his business.

Just relax and chill and don't be like Frasier.

Curse These Metal Hands · 21-03-2023 12:13pm

I wouldn't place much weight on what Dara O' Briain says about comedy.

fullstop · 21-03-2023 12:22pm

Seems like a serious thread, this.

Dslatt · 21-03-2023 12:24pm

I probably wouldnt like your posts on twitter either

GavPJ · 21-03-2023 12:28pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382734#Comment_120382734

Exactly. And if someone I know was constantly using the term "zinger" and basing real life around social media

I would avoid them.

j2 · 21-03-2023 12:32pm

We were having pizza and beers watching the boxing and I was reeling off limericks and one liners and he was busting a gut, but nothing on the twitter machine. And he definitely saw a few of them because he was tweeting about the golf around the same time as I was on a roll.

rob316 · 21-03-2023 12:38pm

Get a life lad, this is hardly a serious issue?

This is like my buddy always giving out that one of the lads never texts him back and leaves his messages on read, I'm like one hes dyslexic and two, he has 4 **** small kids. He's lucky he gets to take a **** in the morning with 4 kids never mind texting you about the football minute by minute.

fullstop · 21-03-2023 12:43pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382884#Comment_120382884

Bruh, he sounds like a loser and you sound like a legend.

Give ya a few of the one liners so we can bask in your glow.

akelly02 · 21-03-2023 12:47pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382884#Comment_120382884

you are clearly taking the piss now .

get a life.

TheadoreT · 21-03-2023 1:04pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120382930#Comment_120382930

Yeah ignore the haterz OP and link your twitter while you're at it. We could all do with a massive laugh or two on a quiet Tuesday afternoon.

JamBur · 21-03-2023 1:11pm

This is a spoof, it absolutely has to be.....

fullstop · 21-03-2023 1:13pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120383003#Comment_120383003

Yeah bruh, don’t leave bruhs hanging.

Pauliedragon · 21-03-2023 1:20pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120383028#Comment_120383028

was just thinking the same. Seems to be a lot more spoofing going on here lately.

Gunner5 · 21-03-2023 1:22pm

If this is true.. then to be honest you are trying too hard and some people are likely put off by it. Are you really being yourself when you are busting out these zingers? cos the fact you seem to be so self aware about it I'd wonder. Do you talk about anything he might be interested in? I would suggest stop being so hung up on entertaining through Twitter. He might have hundreds of accounts that he follows that he finds more entertaining than yours and didn't even see it

21-03-2023 1:35pm

Social Media Syndrome at its most self-destructive. Look at me, look at me, listen to me, listen to me, praise me, praise me,,phenomenon. The marketing people know what they’re doing.

j2 · 21-03-2023 1:35pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120383028#Comment_120383028

It's legit, another victim of the social media age!

GavPJ · 21-03-2023 1:43pm

Total horseh 1t.

Allinall · 21-03-2023 1:43pm

How can you have a conflict if only one side is disgruntled? The other party appears to be perfectly gruntled.

Are you conflicted with yourself, OP?

xabi · 21-03-2023 1:49pm

Turn off all social media for a week, see how you go

GavPJ · 21-03-2023 1:49pm

Folks it's a wind up.

j2 · 21-03-2023 1:51pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120383188#Comment_120383188

I'm saying I have suspicions that he may be disgruntled at me arriving and taking on the role of funnyman, which was formerly his. I suspect this might be why he's not liking my zingers on twitter while the other lads are.

HildaOgdenx · 21-03-2023 2:08pm

Mod - Moved to After Hours where it is more suited.

Local charter now applies.

Hilda

JohnnyFortune · 21-03-2023 2:10pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058289082/growing-conflict-with-bud

You go back and check who's liked your Twitter posts? Fcuking hell man.

Also, poor effort. Went too hard too soon, should have drawn people in. You went big too soon. 1/10

21-03-2023 2:22pm

I'm basically a chilled out entertainer, yeah.

rob316 · 21-03-2023 2:25pm

Give us your twitter handle with all these zingers and I'll tell ya if your funny

JohnnyFortune · 21-03-2023 3:46pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120383527#Comment_120383527

I think we can ascertain from the attempt at a humerous thread that the OP is the opposite of funny.

JupiterKid · 21-03-2023 3:52pm

And here was me when I saw the thread title that the OP was worried about getting too fond of the happy baccy...

Ljmscooter · 21-03-2023 3:54pm

We need an age verification on boards.no more 12 year olds

j2 · 21-03-2023 4:48pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120384010#Comment_120384010

We're all in our 20s

ohnonotgmail · 21-03-2023 4:53pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120383254#Comment_120383254

Please stop using the word zingers. if this is what you are like on twitter it is no wonder he doesnt engage.

Ljmscooter · 21-03-2023 4:57pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120384241#Comment_120384241

make ur mind up

" Buying my first house. Big deal to me at 30,"

or are you Benjamin button ?

j2 · 21-03-2023 5:01pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120384280#Comment_120384280

Yes I'm Benjamin Button! Unfortunately not, I meant the lads are in their 20s.

Dial Hard · 21-03-2023 5:14pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120384318#Comment_120384318

2/10 "Bud". The first rule of being a good liar is to at least remember what you've previously spouted.

21-03-2023 5:28pm

Oh sweet Jesus!

You're so far up your own oriface!

j2 · 21-03-2023 5:36pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120384442#Comment_120384442

When I'm on fire on twitter it's nice to see a few likes rolling in, so I do notice when this particular guy doesn't engage. We're both Mafia buffs so we're always texting quotes from Goodfellas or the Sopranos etc, and he's cracking up, but when I do them on twitter he's nowhere to be seen.