Proposal Ring

DUBLINIRL

Is it common to propose with a cheap "proposal ring" so the future bride can have a say in which engagement ring is chosen? What are your thoughts on this?

I doubt she will go for the €20k ring if let loose in the shop (hopefully) :)

Victor

Some people have said they've proposed with a 'lucky bag' plastic ring.

Others have said that they have accepted the "proposal ring" as it is their ring.

AllForIt

I don't see why you have to propose with a ring at all. Seems like coercion.

Jim2007

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058282133/proposal-ring

I can’t say I have ever heard of anyone proposing out of the blue in the last 40 years or so… it was something the evolved and a decision was made to get engaged on a certain day with a trip to the jewelers before hand to select a ring. So I’d guess there was no actual ring involved in most cases when the couple made the actual decision.

chosen1

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120180567#Comment_120180567

Really?

I'd say the vast majority of my friends and associates popped the question out of the blue. I'm late 30s by the way.

Know cheap dummy rings are popular but I went and picked one with the option of returning it to the shop if she didn't like it. Lucky enough she did and all that was required was a slight adjustment in the size of it.

DUBLINIRL

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120180567#Comment_120180567

That doesn't sound very romantic... might as well do the Tesco shopping on the way home:)

Glaceon

I did it out if the blue and had a proper ring. But my now wife had given me hints over the years so I knew what she wanted.

Jim2007

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120180799#Comment_120180799

Really usually isn’t.

artanevilla

The proposal should be a surprise, but the engagement shouldn't. I think most couples would shop for a ring before engagement or at least heavy hints at what ring they would want.

I would also be of the opinion the man should receive a watch of equal value of the ring. Unless of course the bride's family is providing dowry.

Jim2007

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120180710#Comment_120180710

Well maybe your generation is different…. But if you have been going our with someone for a year or so and one of the biggest decisions of your life is made out of the blue. I’d wonder at how well you know the person…. There is a lot of basic stuff to be decided before you sign up for life:

• Do you want kids, how many?
• if you do have kid how do you want to bring them up?
• Where will you live?
• How will you manage your finances
• What are your career aspirations

If you have discussed all of this a proposal should no be a surprise.

The Davestator

I used a €3.50 from Claire's shop to propose and went shopping together for something she liked.

I also had some of her dads ashes put into the band as a surprise which she loved.

Best of luck with it

yourdeadwright

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058282133/proposal-ring

I got a half decent ring for about 200 euro for a proposal ring ,then let her pick the real thing whihc was another nice day out together

The only reason i got a half decent one for that price, is i knew she'd want to put it away for our first daughter to have so wanted it to last,

GreeBo

I proposed out of the blue (but obviously it was coming) using a Haribo ring at Downpatrick Head in the pissings of rain.

Later we went to Weldons to pick out a ring she would actually like.

Do whatever you think she would like the most would be my advice.

GLaDOS

I went with a proposal ring. I'd a good idea of what she would have liked, and probably would have picked something very similar to what we went with in the end, but it was nice to pick one out together.

I also got her ring size hilariously wrong, so glad it was only on the cheap one!

silliussoddius

Any old bracks lying around from Halloween?

ericbaker

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058282133/proposal-ring

I think the alexandrite ring will be the cheap proposal ring because the sapphire and diamond rings are highly expensive.