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On the verge of a nervous breakdown-what do I do?

  • 01-01-2023 11:09pm
    Registered Users Posts: 19 tinabelcher99

    I've sort of been in denial for years about my poor mental health. I've always been told I'm just a worrier and "sure what can ya do, you just suffer from the nerves"...but my "nerves" are much much worse than most people's. I'm not kidding when I say 80% of my waking life is spent actively worrying. I can't relax ever. I can barely enjoy anything. I'm too consumed with my own thoughts to enjoy socialising. I'm too consumed to read a book or have a hobby or even commit to a TV show. It's time I faced the music.

    Recently I've felt burnt out. Guess I was in danger of it last summer. I'm in a great situation but I'm falling apart somehow. I got a great undergrad. I worked so hard and only finished last May and probably should've taken a year out. I'm so done with college. Yet I'm doing a masters that's "good" for my career but I don't think I want said career anymore and I'm probably failing. I try hard to do the work but I just have zero energy. I can't focus on anything and I used to be able to write 1500 words in a day. I've submitted 2 things 5 days late and barely cared?!? I kind of hate myself for it. This isn't me. I don't have energy for my friends anymore. I barely see them and want to be left alone. I love my family dearly, but I'm so irritated by them. I've become self centred and I'm also absolutely ruining a lovely relationship that only started 3 months ago.

    I have no goals anymore and its alk day by day and aimless.The littlest things like a sock on the floor gets left there for 4 days because I don't have it in me to pick it up. Cooking is too much effort so I've lost weight and beyond that, food seems flavourless to me now.And my sleep is disturbed. I only sleep 3 or 4 hours a night. Last night I didn't sleep at all, litreally finished work at 8pm and was in again at 7am. My heart was racing too much to dose off. I want to give up college and my job and hide away in my room for a long time. Ineed help.

    But what do I do? I wouldn't know the first thing about getting help.


  • Registered Users Posts: 12,768 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard

    First port of call is your GP to see if an anti-depressant could help and then counselling in tandem with that. So many people do one or the other but I think a two-pronged approach is really important.

  • Registered Users Posts: 17,143 ✭✭✭✭Donald Trump

    You need to also be able to take a break and do some exercise. Go for a walk or run. You probably think that you are too busy, but plenty of times you get zero done in that half hour that you "save" by not going for that walk/run whereas if you had gone, you'd be back with a clear head and be able to get a bit of your work done.

    The thing about courses etc. is just getting them in the bag. You do it, get the bit of paper, and then you have it and nobody can take it from you. You will be halfway though what you are doing now most likely.

  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,495 Mod ✭✭✭✭Hannibal_Smith

    Go to your GP and start from there. They can help you work out where to go from there.

  • Registered Users Posts: 19 tinabelcher99

    Silly question probably but I can surely register for 2 different GPs? I rarely go back to where I'm from so it only makes sense to try another GP?

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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,269 ✭✭✭Count Dracula

    Anti depressants will only zone you out. >>mod snip<< I don't really think they are a suitable remedy for anyones' anxiety? They can crutch you short term over a life crisis, but getting stuck into those yokes on the whim of some doctor may not be a suitable solution.

    Worry is a very common part of human life. We all have worries and stresses. It is how you deal with your worries that matters. If your life appears in turmoil maybe ask a friend how they see your existence. I have no doubt that they will make an effort to absolve your fears and anxieties which are concerning you. In most cases your worries are developed from within, you have created your own standard of comfortable living and have placed these benchmarks around it. You need to reassess what parts of your life are causing you the most stress and tackle them accordingly.

    Concentrate on your biggest fears. These are the ones that are causing you to be worried in the first place. Once you have managed to establish what you are afraid of you will finally be able to face those fears. Don't spend your life living in fear, it is not designed to frustrate or subjugate you. Your life is and should be about how you live it and face up to its challenges, not how you live in fear of them.


    Warning applied for breach of charter - you were already asked today to post mature constructive advice. This is not the thread for 'jokes'

  • Registered Users Posts: 249 ✭✭the 12 th man

    Most if not all GP's will refer you to a Councillor before attempting the medical route,the Doc will be very familiar with the whole situation so don't feel that you are alone in this situation.

    They will also and more importantly give you the numbers for Councillor(s) that specialise in this.

  • Registered Users Posts: 894 ✭✭✭TheadoreT

    You need to start cooking healthy food again. It might be effort at first but it's essential. Do you exercise much? People don't like being so reductive with issue like this but the reality is they're the biggest influence on maintaining a healthy mindset.

    If low energy is an issue try getting into ketosis, it's a big stress reducer and your mind will be far clearer when your body is burning body fat instead of sugar to function.

    And starting lifting things, will build your confidence and you'll sleep better.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 15,780 ✭✭✭✭banie01

    1st off, well done on recognising you are having a problem and being open to getting help. The GP is your 1st port of call. That's not to say you can't also seek help elsewhere while waiting on him. If you are working, does your job offer an Employee Assistance Program? That can be a very useful way to get some counselling sessions underway quickly and without cost.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,403 ✭✭✭NewClareman

    I feel for you and wish you well. Like others have said, the first thing is that you recognise you need help. Many of us have been there and nowadays it's considered a sign of strength to look after your mental health.

    I would definitely recommend finding a local GP, if at all possible. I know people in Aware and have heard good things about them. You might also consider ringing them:


    1800 80 48 48

    Available Monday to Sunday 

    10am - 10pm.

    See more about aware here:

  • Registered Users Posts: 722 ✭✭✭Jafin

    Just want to echo what many others have said and recommend either going to a GP or organising some counselling/therapy for yourself. I went to therapy earlier this year (I bypassed the GP, just wanted to see if therapy would work for me) and it helped immensely with my own anxiety and some other stuff I was going through. Conversely one of my friends suffers from anxiety too but she took the opposite route to me and went to her GP and got prescribed medication, which has done wonders for her.

    Some people require one or the other, some people require both. There is no one size fits all solution to this kind of stuff. Going to the GP first though may be the better option and they can let you know what they think the best option to start you off on is.

    Best of luck.

  • Registered Users Posts: 27,693 ✭✭✭✭Wanderer78

    do you have access to third level counselling services, ive found them to be extremely good in the past?

  • Registered Users Posts: 722 ✭✭✭Jafin

    Really happy to hear that you were able to get some help! I hope everything works out for you and you start feeling better in the next few weeks when the SSRIs start kicking in.

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,576 ✭✭✭NoviGlitzko

    Exercise. You get into a habit of regular exercise and 100% your mood will change for the better. Just up to you to find what works best for you. I love the cross trainer, others like running/walking, cycling etc. Just make sure you're working up some sort of a sweat. You'll feel great.

  • Hi Tina. Well done on taking the first step.

    I started taking SSRI last year and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.

    Not sure if you have started taking them,

    but the first few days/weeks can be hard with some side effects. Maybe your GP discussed this.

    a lot of people stop taking them after a couple of weeks due to side effects or “they don’t work”.

    They take weeks to “start working”, and the side effects for myself were temporary, so stick with them as per your GP’s advice.

    good luck

  • Registered Users Posts: 6,663 ✭✭✭Cork Lass

    Great to hear that, even your post sounds more upbeat. I hope everything works out well for you.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,220 ✭✭✭148multi

    That's good to hear, it might be a good idea to get your bloods checked to make sure that there's nothing draining your energy.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 4,034 ✭✭✭Padre_Pio

    Great stuff! Taking a break from it all is a positive step, then slowly getting back into a healthy routine.

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,706 ✭✭✭✭Purple Mountain

    Definitely outdoor exercise. Start off gently, walking or cycling.

    The fresh air and endorphins really help.

    To thine own self be true

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,038 ✭✭✭evolvingtipperary101

    You're doing the right thing and have the right inclinations. Go to your GP. You will get professional help through this route. This is a normal situation, in that happens to so many people. Ignore people telling you to run, exercise and go back to a bit of work. Go to your GP. Just take of yourself. Go to any GP you want. There might be an on campus GP or psychologist who can help. They should have some professional services for their students.