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Meeting people you know in supermarkets.

  • 12-10-2022 6:15pm
    Registered Users Posts: 8,458 ✭✭✭

    Is it just me or is the supermarket the worst place to meet people you know? People act so weird when you meet them there.

    I was in one yesterday and I saw a one night stand from years ago, said I would call her but never did because I took her number down wrong at the time, so I went down another aisle and saw an ex at the checkout, we ended on very bad terms and haven't talked in years. So I ended up down in an aisle I have no interest in waiting for them to get out of the shop lol.



  • Registered Users Posts: 8,458 ✭✭✭pgj2015

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  • Registered Users Posts: 5,994 ✭✭✭Ubbquittious

    Meeting people in the supermarket is a quintessential part of Irish culture at this stage. You are not supposed to hide, if you chatted to those girlies you might have got another shag

  • Registered Users Posts: 23,244 ✭✭✭✭Larbre34

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,144 ✭✭✭chrissb8

    Walk at pace, say hello and look straight ahead. The marker has been set. I haven't much interest talking to you and I'm here to just shop. Bye.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 14,992 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,830 ✭✭✭✭elperello

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,165 ✭✭✭Sweet Talkin Romeo

    was covered in #10 - it's the 2nd, and all the subsequent meetings (three aint unusual in that respect) afterwards, that are far worse than the first one 😃

    Its with threads like this that the introverted misanthropist traits of the typical boardsie really come out 😁😁😁

    Very good, and too true also; as, sadly, the introverted misanthropic boardsie can 'get away' with: not working , no family , staying indoors all day (pretty much anyhow 🙂) , but there's little 'getting away' from doing the weekly/twice weekly shop 😄

    course s/he could get stuff delivered but that has its own hassles too; as well as being fraught with diffident mendaciousness, in having to do the same bs smalltalk with delivery dude; and not to mention that's another person what requires avoiding, going forward 😂

    it's a tightrope I'd prefer to go nowhere near meself: once ya get past the second sentence ye're 'fooked'

    Me (seeing someone I know in shoppe) : "Well?"

    Other Person (OP 😋) : "Not bad, how's life with ya - haven't seen ya in years?"

    Me : " ah yeah, doing fcuk all (attempt at laughter) ; as well off I suppose"

    OP: "arrah, shur Jayzus don't I know"

    Me: "better be getting on - good luck"

    stay shooting breeze any longer than two (three at a push) sentences/replies/questions , and you're 'locked in' to convo (that none of us wants) for at least 2 minutes; and that could go to four or five,, obliged to talk about family/brothers/sisters/the whole freakin gamut after response no. three :horror:

    awkward leaving after sentence two, but just push thru 'stress barrier' and exit post haste, cos it's only gonna get worse !

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,123 ✭✭✭BrianD3

    That's awkward IMO. I have no issue chatting with someone that I have regular contact with and who isn't an asshole.

    But if many years have passed, I don't know them and they don't know me yet somehow there is the expectation to acknowledge each other with more than just "hello".

    Had one at a Spar shop a while back where a fella I last spoke to 1994 waited for me at the exit after we had made eye contact in the queue. He's a public figure so after some smalltalk, I blurted out a compliment about some work he had done recently. He made a quick exit after it anyway as his "wife would be wondering where he was".

    Had a near miss in Tesco with another one that I hadn't spoken to in 15 years. Some eye contact but kept going. My mask helped. He's anti vax and ant mask based on his twitter and I suspect I would have gotten a sermon had we engaged..

    When I go to the supermarket I want to be left alone to focus on important things - e.g. filling the trolley with Pot Noodles and picking out items that can be reused as piss bottles.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,277 ✭✭✭corner of hells

    Your last paragraph should guarantee you being left alone.

    A friend of mine wears hearing aids , when he goes shopping with his wife , he purposely takes them out.

    His wife loses her reason with him as he contenly ignores all going around him .

  • Registered Users Posts: 841 ✭✭✭fatbhoy

    Excellent advice; can also be applied to the chip shop scenario too.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,458 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    The ex I have no interest in riding her, she is married as well. The other one I would.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,458 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    im actually not introverted but Im in a supermarket to shop, have no interest in talking to anyone, then best just avoid an ex there or a one night stand you never called when you said you would.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,458 ✭✭✭pgj2015

  • Registered Users Posts: 24,038 ✭✭✭✭Strumms

    There is an old friend who works in a few supermarkets as a merchandiser. He goes in and builds those big ‘end displays’ that you see where one single product and it’s associated advertising takes up the end of the aisle…

    in the supermarket one day and he’ll grab you for about ten minutes, all chat and craic, all the time in the world for you. Next time you see him there and if he’s behind or struggling.. which you won’t know incidentally, it’s a smile and an acknowledgement if you are lucky and his head back into the shelf and boxes….

    last time that happened I saw he’s busy or thought he was…so I exclaim just messing “alright Eddie , hard at it or pretending? “… and walk on… next he’s off down the aisle after me, “ here I was meant to ring you, how’s everything ? Wait till I tell you…”.. 15 minutes later still gassing, when I see him again….it will be the “alright Strumms” version 🤪

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,830 ✭✭✭✭elperello

    We certainly aren't your ordinary everyday citizens but then after all that's part of our charm isn't it ? 🙂

  • Registered Users Posts: 739 ✭✭✭Hyperbollix

    Indeed. If only a handbook could be handed out to you in school. "Nobody gives a fúck so don't waste time overthinking trivial shít"

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,983 ✭✭✭JoChervil

    Well, you got your second chance to have this number right...

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,458 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    Women dont usually take that kind of thing well in my experience. she probably hates me.

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,216 ✭✭✭✭Mr.Crinklewood

    Just fill your trolly full of condoms or pampers.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 6,209 ✭✭✭gameoverdude

    Or. Hold with me a second here...ah well after the first murder I had to emigrate to Venezuela. I was told the coast was clear and I had another job. I came home and duped Google into giving me a low level it support position, perfect cover...say know more. Sure you know yourself. Bills aren't going to pay themselves.

    Or you could be a bit more elaborate and unbelievable. Your choice.