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Solo night out ideas: Places to go that aren't the pub

  • 21-08-2022 1:24pm
    Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    This one's gonna need some context:

    So generally I'll head out to the local pub once or twice a week. I'm not your typical pub goer, I don't meet anybody and speak to as few people as possible. I'll pop in some noise cancelling headphones, listen to a podcast, have a couple of pints and then grab a takeaway on the walk home

    Yeah, I know, I'm not exactly the life of the party. But it's my chance to unwind in the evenings

    I find it difficult to relax at home because I'm always seeing jobs that need doing, or I'm worried the kids will wake up. I've got one of those personalities that has trouble switching off it seems

    The problem is that I want to give up the pints and the takeaways for a few months. Not too concerned about drinking, more trying to lose a few pounds from my gut

    So now I've got to come up with some ideas of things to do to unwind that aren't going to the pub

    I know I could go to the pub and not drink alcohol (or just drink whiskey 😁) but I feel a bit weird doing that. Like going to a restaurant and not eating any food

    So does anyone have any ideas for heading out in the evening that doesn't involve the pub and doesn't require me to meet up with anybody?


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    I suppose here's a few ideas I had and my thoughts on them

    Cinema, not many good films out at the moment though

    Evening gym, healthy but not exactly relaxing

    Evening walk/run, similar problem, also I'd be worried I'll be attacked or something

    Go for a drive, I enjoy driving along the motorway with the music playing, but driving at night can be difficult

  • Registered Users Posts: 6,419 ✭✭✭dobman88

    If you play poker, you could go for a game of an evening? I've started playing again recently and go on my own. Same as you, I pop my headphones in and listen to a podcast or some such. Very rarely you'd get into any kind of conversation, even though youre at a table with 8 other people and just play your game. If you're in Dublin a very popular place has games on 5 nights a week with buy ins from €60 to €120.

  • Now, I don't think you're going to relax much, stop thinking, etc while on your own, without alcohol/drugs.. so I'd recommend finding something new to do socially.

    Toastmasters. Yes, there's alcohol involved, but not much. It's mostly meeting others and talking.

    Wargaming/Tabletop gaming: Very enjoyable to watch or participate in. Re-enactments of military battles, campaigns from history, or the Warhammer variety of gaming. Can be hilarious depending on the crowd, and the after game drinks are great.

    Roleplaying/LARP nights. Not for everyone, but if you can suspend your maturity for a moment, there's often sessions run by middle-aged adults, which can be heaps of fun. Drinking alcohol is generally optional, but you'll rarely drink that much. Great way to relax, and dabble in new ideas.

    Being on your own pretty much guarantees that you'll continue thinking too much, and about the same shite you wanted to ignore for a while. You need a distraction..

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,652 ✭✭✭Patsy167

    Head to your local library

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    Those all sound good, and to be fair it's not like I'm totally antisocial, I do enjoy meeting up with my friends and colleagues when I can

    I do like my quiet time out of the house though. I find listening to things like podcasts or reading a book do help to get my mind off all the problems of the world for a bit

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  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    That's a good one, I just found out it closes as 8pm, on always thought it was a strict 9-5 service

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    Ah I've lost every bet I've ever made, so I'm not sure poker would be a good idea 🤣

    An arcade or other games might be a good plan though

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,724 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard

    Just stop getting the takeaway on your way home. Problem solved, no?

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    Well the pints aren't helping either, also they make avoiding the takeaway a lot more difficult 😜

    I do like to treat myself, life is for living after all. But I know I need some alternative ideas so I have somewhere to go which isn't the pub

  • Registered Users Posts: 23,502 ✭✭✭✭Strumms

    OP, would have been helpful if you’d have enlightened us as to what part of the country you inhabit ?

    if its Dublin…

    Join the Irish film Institute, good array of films, comfortable cinemas and a nice cafe bar that afterwards you could sit down and enjoy some nice food, drinks, snacks etc. it’s not a pub it’s a cafe style eatery..

    gym..great way to invest time enabling greater levels of health and fitness, it’s enjoyable, interesting and pays you back in spades for the effort you put in. Put the headphones in and it IS nice and relaxing… I love it…I DO actually find it relaxing, you put in as much effort as you want / need to. Also you can go 2/3 nights a week if you wish, once membership is paid you go whenever.

    if you enjoy sport, head to watch Leinster / Munster , or your local LOI team….

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  • Registered Users Posts: 5,091 ✭✭✭homer911

    Where are you living?

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    I'm in North County Dublin, I always felt there's lots to do around me but most of it requires a group of people (escape rooms and that kind of thing)

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    Thanks for the info, I'll check out the IFI and might give the evening gym a shot. In general I prefer sitting on my arse to being active (who doesn't), but as you say it does pay itself back on terms of health benefits

  • Registered Users Posts: 25,082 ✭✭✭✭Mrs OBumble

    Cinema / theatre.

    Bingo (I guess you can do this by yourself - never tried it myself!)

    Look out for talks from local historical societies etc.

    Sign up for a night-class.

    If there's a church that's open, so in an "pray" (shure they won't know that you're listening to a podcast :-)

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    I'm not much of a spiritual type, and given some of the opinions I've had about various religions I'd be worried about being struck by lightning if I walked onto any god's home turf

    There are mediation spaces around some places though, I guess they wouldn't know if I'm listening to a podcast, although it might give the game away if one of the presenters makes a joke and I just burst out laughing in the middle of "meditation" 😂

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,396 ✭✭✭ZX7R

    Go fishing.

    Buy a half decent telescope and try star gazing.

    Slot machines.



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,177 ✭✭✭carltonleon

    What about hitting a couple of hundred balls at the driving range? Lots in NCD like Kinsealy etc.. or my favourite is sticking the sport on the radio and going for a drive on all the back roads in NCD like around Garristown, Naul, Nevitt, Oldtown etc

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,921 ✭✭✭the_amazing_raisin

    Haha, sounds like a good way to work off stress, I can imagine a few targets I'd be aiming for

    I quite enjoy an evening drive, although I tend to just cruise up and down the motorway while listening to some music or a podcast.

  • Registered Users Posts: 4,968 ✭✭✭SuperBowserWorld

    Get a dog and take dog for long walks.


    Or do same with a neighbour's dog..but ask first.

  • Registered Users Posts: 11,953 ✭✭✭✭Richard Hillman

    A bowling alley is a good shout. I have been meaning to go myself lately.

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