Find it strange that Irish parents are so involved (meddling??) in their adult children's lives

amdublin

I saw this in the newspaper today.

Imagine being almost 40 and your parents writing into a newspaper about your life and your decision.

https://www.independent.ie/life/home-garden/homes/ask-the-expert-our-son-wants-to-put-his-girlfriend-on-the-deeds-and-mortgage-but-what-if-they-break-up-41858700.html

Me personally, my parents just leave me to it (and rightfully so imo!)

laoisgem

I'll never understand the Irish obsession with being involved in their adult offspring's lives. I have 2 adult daughters and my mother is always asking me about how they are, what they're doing, what day's they have off... I haven't a clue! I have a good relationship with them but I'm not privy to there everyday lives, nor do I want to be for that matter. It seams alien to her. I speak to her daily but only because she's a narcissist 🙄

newgrangepets

You have to understand that with 8 billion humans on this planet, there is a wide variation in human behavior. Many people in Ireland and other European countries live at home until their 20s but in other cultures, people would find it unfathomable.

amdublin

Eh yeah. I know. I understand that. But we have people who have a 40 year old son...writing into a newspaper about his life.

Don't you think that is strange???

*Noting however, that there are probably a lot of Irish parents there acting that way/thinking is ok to do that/that they should have a say in it

foxsake

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119373591#Comment_119373591

it's nothing unique to ireland. I guess you are parents for life - my eldest is 20 and I still take an interest in his life. I'm aware he isn't 40 tbh

But they see their son making a huge mistake (in their opinion) and want advise..i see nothing terrible about that

we should try to keep our loved ones from shooting themselves in the foot .

amdublin

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119373648#Comment_119373648

But what if it really is not any of your business??

Or what if, that is just the parent's opinion that they are shooting themselves in the foot? What if actually the parents have out dated and fuddy duddy opinions and really need to stop putting their nose in where they should not be.

Yes - clearly the above is my opinion, people need to stay out of other people's business

timmyntc

OP the article is the parents asking about the process (how difficult is it to get fiance added to house deeds, and what is process if they break up)

It says nothing about the parents meddling or trying to dissuade their son, they are writing in solely to be told the answer for their own minds.

The only one meddling in other people's business here is you🤣

Buddy Bubs

No parent wrote that letter to a newspaper. Its the journalist/advertiser promoting themselves or their business to anyone that might be in a situation somewhat similar

amdublin

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119373750#Comment_119373750

Umm. Dude why are parents even asking about the process???? Are they doing it? No, their son is doing it.

Conversation should go like this in my mind:

Son: Am going into the bank tomorrow to see about putting Aisling's name on the mortgage deeds

Parents: Oh good stuff

Not:

Parents: well we will just write into the newspaper and find out difficult the process is and what happens if you break up

No? Am I crazy or something?

Jim_Hodge

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058255622/find-it-strange-that-irish-parents-are-so-involved-meddling-in-their-adult-childrens-lives

You'll get parents of all sorts in all countries. This particular query happens to be Irish parents as it's in an Irish newspaper. So it's not that Irish presents get involved but that these did.

SuperBowserWorld

It's the "Irish" "Independent" trying to panic parents into contributing to the big **** property circus as usual ...

And

Click bait for the property porn merchants.