Judge a woman for casual sex

aisling0800 · 26-01-2022 7:07pm #1

Is this still a thing? I have a close group of male and female friends, all in their early-20s and we regularly discuss sex. It seems the guys wouldn't have an issue with dating a girl with multiple partners so long as they weren't infected with anything and used contraceptives.

I'm always reading and even heard on the radio a few nights ago, that most men would like a girl who put out on the first date/gave up sex easily but wouldn't respect her for a relationship and thus wouldn't see her a second time. Even some women called into the radio and said that a woman is a slut for having sex on the first date

Do grown men and women still believe this?

26-01-2022 7:16pm

Alright Mr. Feg, did you run out of male usernames?

26-01-2022 7:23pm

I don't know about that but I do know that in the used-car market the high-mileage cars with many owners are considered less valuable.

26-01-2022 7:51pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058229947/judge-a-woman-for-casual-sex

Can't speak for the masses here, but from my point of view, I really couldn't care less. I've been around. A lot. Not in the position to judge women.

fineso.mom · 26-01-2022 9:14pm

You say you "are always reading and even heard on the radio..." Where are you reading this? It's not something I've seen written anywhere in years. A very old fashioned concept. And what radio station ?

I really don't believe there are that many men who think if a woman sleeps with them on a first date then they are not relationship material. I'm sure there are a few but hardly 'most' men.

And as for the poster talking about used cars...what has that got to do with anything?

StupidLikeAFox · 26-01-2022 9:25pm

Your first mistake was listening to the weirdos who ring in to radio stations, because they are weirdos. Your second mistake was asking the weirdos of boards.ie

To answer your question, yes some people believe that but no not all people believe that.

goldenmick · 26-01-2022 9:29pm

Why do you ask? Are you thinking of having a go at a 24 hour banger, and just need the reassurance?

SunnySundays · 26-01-2022 9:30pm

Why does it even matter?

Why would anyone want to date someone who would judge them anyway or has double standards anyway?

RobAMerc · 26-01-2022 9:30pm

I would hope to think anyone who thinks like that is long past being in the dating game. it comes from antiquated ideals of what women should be. ( in fact, antiquated ideas about how we all should behave )

FintanMcluskey · 26-01-2022 9:35pm

There is many a man married with a dead sex life who wishes he married an easier lady (shall we say) who enjoyed getting around.

Marry the randy one's, that's my advice, pay no heed on who or how many she was with

Still stihl waters 3 · 26-01-2022 9:41pm

Made me think of this, lol

foxsake · 27-01-2022 3:18pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058229947/judge-a-woman-for-casual-sex

depends. I did the deed with a girl on the first night. 25 years later she hasn't left

casual sex is one thing and it can be good.

having sex with the entire gang or havent the local pub run a train on you regularly...then probably pass

I don't see why men get grief for some double standards in this regard. bar impressionable teenage girl or people with really low esteem , women have no respect for fellas that rode half the city either.

It's fella cheer on other fellas in that regard just as women will do likewise with their girls about sh1t they themselves will never consider.

Dogby · 31-01-2022 3:36pm

I think that's a pretty outdated view at this point. Some men may feel that way, but that's their own insecurity talking and they probably don't get laid as often as they'd like. There's nothing wrong with a woman having casual sex and tons of women are willing to sleep with a man on the first date if the connection is right.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 31-01-2022 3:54pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058229947/judge-a-woman-for-casual-sex

most men would like a girl who put out on the first date/gave up sex easily but wouldn't respect her for a relationship and thus wouldn't see her a second time

You're talk about guys who date a girl once and and then move on because she didn't have sex with them...?

That's not most men. If it was, there'd be far fewer relationships out there.

Would love to know what radio you heard it on - sounds like one of those phone-in shows where the pay actors to phone in with exaggerated viewpoints to get more calls.

thefallingman · 31-01-2022 3:56pm

You will get people falling all over themselves here to say it doesn't matter so they sound cool and woke, but in reality it does matter to alot of guys, the fact you asked proves it but then i'm not in my twenties i'm alot older so maybe it is out of date. But the girls i've respected the most have waited till at least date 3 and it made it all the more worthwhile. If it's a one night stand fair enough but if you like them i say wait a couple of dates.

Thelonious Monk · 31-01-2022 4:00pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118560631#Comment_118560631

If it matters to them they're twats, nothing to do with being cool or woke. I have slept around so why should I expect a woman to be any different? And I never had any probs sleeping with someone on first date, although it took 3 dates with my current partner and she was the one who suggested coming over to my place.

31-01-2022 4:08pm

Women are more likely to be judgmental or dismissive of other women who they see as 'easy' than men are, in my experience.

Brid Hegarty · 31-01-2022 4:35pm

It's not just that the woman will be judged, but also that the guy might be more intimidated by a girl who's had many sexual partners. It means she's seen a lot, and is now wise as a result... whether that be by learning her lessons the hard way or not, she still knows more than you. And you fear that she could buy and sell you. She'll know how much of a man you are in comparison to the many men she's had. And as a man you know that it's quite likely that, if she could choose to be with any one of the men she's previously had, that's it wouldn't be you. She knew she could never really attain some of those other men, so she would have taken the view of having a quick shag with one of them over nothing at all.

However if the girl thinks there's a chance that she can tie down a certain man, then if she is smart she will hold off on sex for a while. If it's too easy for the guy, then he will get the impression that she's been around.

goldenmick · 31-01-2022 4:50pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118560837#Comment_118560837

???????? I need an interpreter.

Is that straight from the horses mouth?

L1011 · 31-01-2022 4:53pm

OP is a banned re-reg troll so you're wasting your time replying here.

Brid Hegarty · 01-02-2022 4:15pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118560907#Comment_118560907

No you don't need an interpreter. You're just pretending to not understand in a desperate attempt to be sarcastic. The intellect on boards has fallen somewhat, so I ain't too surprised.

Brid Hegarty · 01-02-2022 4:22pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118560925#Comment_118560925

It doesn't show up as banned alongside his post. Before it used to. Maybe something to do with the new boards layout.

01-02-2022 4:32pm

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118566348#Comment_118566348

the OP poster (who is a new poster with few posts) has started multiple time-wasting troll discussions across various topics over the last while and never really participated in any of them after the initial post aside from the odd subsequent time-wasting poke

weird sort of troll

https://www.boards.ie/search?domain=discussions&scope=site&authors%5B0%5D%5Bvalue%5D=967207&authors%5B0%5D%5Blabel%5D=aisling0800

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