I never thought not living for the weekend would be so unfufilling

completedit

Am I the only one whose friends have just given up socialising since the pandemic? Feels like people have just forgot how to socialise or something. I am pretty reclusive but I've always enjoyed getting socialising out of my system with a session every couple of weeks but there's just nothing like that happening. The sense of dread when Friday comes and I know I am settling into a weekend of myself and the gym, the dog and youtube is becoming far too frequent. I actually look forward to work on Monday just to get out of my head(but I have such little to talk about since I do so little outside of work) I miss when you could just jump on board some random session, now everything has become so rigid.

The One Doctor

Get a boyfriend/girlfriend/non-binary life partner.

completedit

I think it's a bad time to look for somebody, well that's what they say anyway. I'd be overly dependent on a girl now so need to hold off (if I could attract one I think is hot that is)

corner of hells

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A wife supercedes everything.

I now , no longer have to think.

corner of hells

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She's lovely, a real little sweetheart.

completedit

Tomorrow I'll go into town, bring a book, grab a coffee and maybe even bring my dog.

Strumms

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Or bring a coffee and grab a dog.

the only socializing I’ve been doing has been outdoor dining but twice weekly... nice to have something to look forward to...

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058218978/i-never-thought-not-living-for-the-weekend-would-be-so-unfufilling

Of course it's not just you.

My friends and I found ourselves getting into a lazy rut too. You need to start organising nights out.

ahusband

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You're not reclusive if you enjoy and look forward to socializing, you sound pretty sociable and in need of interaction.

It'll be another while until things return to more normal, in the meantime see if there are things that you can get involved with in your locality to pass the weekends and keep depression away until things get better, I'll guess that you are still relatively young yet, as the older you get the less the idea of a session being the be all and end all will be. It could be that your friends have already moved on from that stage?

Potential-Monke

I reckon it's more a case of people starting to realise that it's probably not worth the hassle. It's why I don't. I find myself thinking of the other things I could be doing instead of sitting in a house listening to people drink/talk crap, protracted moments of silence, pretending to care about what they're talking about. If you drink, you've the hassle of organising a taxi or staying over, which I don't mind but others seem to have issues with. Then you'll probably have a hangover because you drink all the drink you brought over, because it's rude to take drink home from a house party, but not a hope someone else is getting it for free. Someone, usually a "mad bastard" will bring some bottle of shootable spirits. Guaranteed at least one cnut with a guitar. People not knowing about inside voices after midnight and they don't care if you have neighbours...

I used to like going out, but in my mid 20's I changed to preferring house parties. Now, I prefer being anti-social. Actually went to a house party Friday night. Was basically like the above. At least the host made some banging food! Oh, and the hassle of cleaning up if you happen to be the host. Then, people do start to settle and have kids and a mortgage and that changes people, unless they're very wealthy, then they'll just continue to be a snob anyway.

People need to learn how to enjoy their own company more.

Mr Burny

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Is this what the men of Eire fought and died for in 1916?

whisky_galore

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Yes they did.

They fought for their right to party.

Potential-Monke

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118199976#Comment_118199976

Yup, freedom for everyone. That freedom includes not partaking in the usual socialising crap if one so cares.

Start enjoying other things OP, maybe your friends have realised there's more to life then mad sessions!

If I have to go out, I'll do it, but I find it wastes so much time, that night and at least one full day the next day.

Although I do absolutely love a long lunch/dinner, plenty of good food and wine, lots of chat with friends. But mad sessions? Nah.

How about inviting some people over for some grub and a games night. Plan for it as though it’s no big deal. The less you plan, the better a night it’ll turn out.

Or, if you’re looking for something to do during the day, there’s a fella on Facebook who’s doing matchmaking hiking days.

https://www.muddysoulsadventures.com/

Montage of Feck

It's got so bad I'm actually hoping there's a lockdown for Christmas so I don't have to pretend I still have a social life.

Back in the day, being a hermit could be a very profitable enterprise. Some rich family would contract you to live as a hermit (usually on their property) to perform the role of exotic pet/religious inspiration. Once the contract was complete, after say 5, 7 or 10 years, the hermit would receive a life-changing sum of money and go free.

After the past 18 months, I'm thinking of resurecting this tradition, somewhere warm.