I need a girlfriend

Loafing Oaf

Don't worry OP

Boom_Bap

Walk around like Donald Duck with no pants on and do the 'windmill' every 6th stride. Guaranteed to get attention.

jmlad2020

Best tip I can give you: Stop trying.

Focus on yourself, lose the idea of trying to find someone, work on yourself, go to the gym, improve your confidence and self esteem. If you don't earn a relatively comfortable living you need to change that or you won't be able to keep a woman around.

corner of hells

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058209464/i-need-a-girlfriend

Maybe try a blow up doll for a while to see how you get on.

Irish Praetorian

Walk before you run, have you considered getting a boyfriend?

Porn mags OP.

Richard Hillman

Do lots of cardio and lift weights. Improve your diet so you can work out better. Avoid soy products. Enhance your masculinity. Learn how to do spot bits of DIY. Don't share your emotions. Keep any issues you have to yourself. Reduce your porn watching. **** less.

Hermes Trismegistus

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117917245#Comment_117917245

Solid enough advice for the most part. I wouldn't say stop trying though, more so to not appear as though you're trying. If a woman thinks you 'need' her that'll almost always be a turn-off for her. When you do come across a woman you're interested in, try acting a little less interested than you actually are. Indeed you dont want to alienate her, however you dont want to come across as though you need her, it screams self-confidence issues.

Have you ever had a girlfriend before?

FintanMcluskey

Get yourself over to the UK. English girls are friendlier and easier to talk to

Irish girls are clique and unless you know someone that knows someone you don't have a chance

sporina

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117917791#Comment_117917791

bit of a generalisation, no? surely that can be the case in some areas but not all..?

jmlad2020

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117917763#Comment_117917763

Have I ever had a girlfriend myself? yes. Slightly strange that question was directed towards me.

And Yes, you go into some good tips there which I skimmed over, but agree with everything. When I say stop trying I meant exactly how you explained it. I have assumed OP is lacking in the basic fundamentals ( confidence, purpose etc) so just wanted to get him started off on his journey, he'll pick up the nuances of playing it cool etc down the line.

Capt'n Midnight

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117917814#Comment_117917814

Not it's true. Once you get north of Dundalk you'll have to fend them off with a stick.

Mister Vain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117916396#Comment_117916396

When you say learn to dance, what kind of dancing are you talking about? You'd want to have an interest in it first.

the go to classes, walking groups, etc advise is not what it used to be. People do a lot of their dating online now, and aren’t really looking or interested in meeting anyone another way. And the most popular apps are designed to keep users swiping rather than find a long term partner.

AMKC

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117918967#Comment_117918967

A waltz or any dancing that would be useful in a nightclub I suppose.

JupiterKid

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117918967#Comment_117918967

Just basic grooving on the dance floor - it's pretty easy once you get the hang of it.

But don't be too good a dancer, getting up on a podium in the nightclub and wowing the punters - any prospective GF will think you are probably gay. 😄

Pussyhands

I'm being fully serious when I say try facebook dating. I joined it and I had like 10 matches in one day. Tinder I only have maybe 1 match every 2 weeks and they never talk when you message them. They just want you to pay for tinder plus or something.

Mister Vain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117920328#Comment_117920328

Yeah but where do you go to learn how to grove to Maniac 2000 while pissed out of your skull at 2am? 😁 There wouldn't be much choreography involved there.

cena

Don't worry op. Sucks been in the countryside, No good lucking ladies around here

Loafing Oaf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117920340#Comment_117920340

I'm being fully serious when I say try facebook dating. I joined it and I had like 10 matches in one day. 

Hence the username?😜

wassie

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117920340#Comment_117920340

Exactly. Tinder is for rookies. Go to Facebook Marketplace and search for wedding dresses. It'll show recently divorced females in your area. From there you can filter by size.

martingriff

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117910599#Comment_117910599

I don't think someone need for a boyfriend or girlfriend us just for riding. The OP maybe looking for companionship or love. Though sex is like air you don't think if it unless you ain't getting it

Maybe I am showing my age but with the title the line from Chandler in friends after Ross says all I want is a wife and Rachel comes in with a wedding dress. The line was and I just want a million dollars. The episode was our a few days ago on some channel

Edit: to the OP just be yourself relax and do not appear needy. Just remember if you are looking a relationship you will be with each other for a while so just be you.

Wibbs

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117917814#Comment_117917814

Generalisation alright. It's the foreign fields are greener meme. Common worldwide, though almost exclusively among men. You rarely enough hear women say this. Ask English lads and they're as likely to say the same about English women and that [insert nationality here] women are better/easier to talk to. I've heard this stuff from Spanish, Italian and French blokes I've known. Indeed all of those reckoned Irish women were more friendly than their own.

There's a couple of reasons for it IMHO and IME; wishful thinking about some shangri la of women. When guys do travel abroad they're more likely to be more confident because they're not in their own back yard. They believe the foreign fields are greener meme and this helps with confidence. They're also a little different to the locals and straight away that's an "in" that local guys won't have and a percentage of women will be interested in that. Plus because people believe in something they will percieve it to be true and ignore anything that contradicts it and focus on anything that confirms it. Confirmation bias and all that.

Donald Trump

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117921288#Comment_117921288

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_NUUKY1L9lk

More advice along the same lines

Sunny_Arms

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117910222#Comment_117910222

i feel like there's a story here haha

Sunny_Arms

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117916396#Comment_117916396

i remember someone from a tv series joining a ballet class just to meet girls but in the end, he liked ballet but never got a girlfriend.

he got academic extra credit but 0 in romantic life. 😕

ebbsy

If you splash the cash they will flash their gash.

I am certainly in the "stop trying" camp too. In fact I did not really land in and stay in a long term relationship until I stopped trying to. Then it just happened on it's own. But like most slogans a simple phrase like "Stop Trying" does need to be unpacked to see that that actually means in effect. It does not mean collapse on the couch and give up on life :)

Rather what it means is that getting into a relationship shifts from being a destination on the path you are walking in life - to being something that happens while you are walking a path to other destinations in life. Which might seem like a subtle difference - but it can shift a lot of the focus in your life in a lot of ways.

And yeah - as usual with threads on this subject you can probably safely ignore the "You need money or you'll get nothing" themes that inevitably show up :)

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/117918967#Comment_117918967

Any dance really would show benefits - but I guess picking the kind of dance that fits with the social scenes you normally find yourself in would be more helpful. If you are the kind of person who finds yourself more often than not in places like copper face jacks then being able to break out into classic ballroom dancing is probably not going to be of service :)

But still - getting really into any kind of dance can have effects on poise, posture, movement, balance, confidence, health, body weight, muscle strength and more. So even if you are doing a kind of dance that is not really something you could bring to the dance floor - you are likely to see a lot of effects.

For example I have been doing Capoeira for over 10 years now. A kind of martial arts dance form. As a dance form it is pretty much unusable on nearly any dance floor - as a combat form it would probably hurt me more than any combatant - so it is essentially useless in both. But the benefits I have seen throughout my life in general - including in dance and combat - are many.

As for needing to have an interest? It helps I guess but is not necessary. Take going to the gym for example. Many people see benefits from that. Many of them are bored off their tits while they are in there and hate the place though :) It helps if you are into it - but still brings benefits if you are not.

Loafing Oaf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118022888#Comment_118022888

And they say romance is dead

Mister Vain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118023012#Comment_118023012

Capoeira on a dancefloor would be lethal. 😁 Poise, posture and balance are not things I'd associate with a typical night out in Ireland though. Maybe in the Mediterranean.