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Know this is a romance scam but can someone explain the end game?

  • 05-09-2021 4:28pm
    Registered Users Posts: 321 ✭✭

    A relative (60s) has been online dating and is now messaging a woman who says she's a millionaire (inherited from dead parents) while working on an oil rig offshore. She sent him flowers and chocolates and now wants him to email her lawyer so the next big cheque is sent to him for safekeeping. Then when the meet he can pass on the cheque. I know it's a scam, he's 99% sure it's a scam but anyone know what the denouement is, how do they get his cash etc? He has assured me that apart from the address (for the flowers) he's not given much more personal info away...


  • Registered Users Posts: 963 ✭✭✭mistress_gi

    I assume she will ask for a portion of the money to be sent her as soon as the cheque arrives. No doubt required because of some sort of emergency.

    Then the check will bounce and your friend is stuck with the debt.

  • Posts: 1,344 [Deleted User]

    That's it, and the amount needed for the 'emergency ' will only be a

    a fraction ( usually 3-5%) of the " big" cheque. It's an old scam with a couple of updates/ refinements over the years but, be in NO doubt, it IS a con.

    'Whilst working on an oil rig offshore'------- haha-------- that is so 'low level' cringe..........enjoy the fliewrs & chocies

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,081 ✭✭✭GetWithIt

    Stop trying to figure it out. All that will achieve is justifying the 1% (actually 0%) chance this isn’t a scam. It’s treating both outcomes as if they somehow have equal merit.

  • Registered Users Posts: 18,871 ✭✭✭✭Del2005

    When you lodge a cheque the money shows in your account after a few days, the scam is that the money isn't actually lodged to your account till the bank where the cheque was drawn from gets the physical cheque and releases the funds this can take from a few days to much longer. The person will then ask for some money to be wired/transferred to them a few days after you lodge the cheque and the money is showing in your account, but as the cheque is fake the funds will never be released from the issuing bank so you've lost whatever money you sent.

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,510 ✭✭✭Wheety

    Were they nice chocolates?

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  • Registered Users Posts: 3,811 ✭✭✭joe40

    String them along, you might get more chocolates out of it...

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,597 ✭✭✭endofrainbow

    He's already given personal info : name and address...

  • Registered Users Posts: 291 ✭✭01902

    Money laundering?

  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,422 Mod ✭✭✭✭HildaOgdenx

    Yes, this is likely what is going on. The fraudster sends a cheque, then requests money, on some excuse or other. 'The oil rig needs a revamp'... the person being defrauded sends the money. Bear in mind that cheques drawn abroad can take a long time to clear.

    The cheque that they originally received bounces extremely high. The fraudster moves on to their next victim.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,760 ✭✭✭dudley72

    Have a bit of fun, say you wil be a millionaire soon as you are doing a deal worth millions with a Nigerian price

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