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    #62
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,661 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    Also OP - when you asked him if he could see you in his life in 6 months time and he made no reply - how did that happen?

    Did you ask him over text message? Otherwise I can’t see how somebody could not reply when asked a question and ignore you, if you were ignored when talking then that was highly rude and disrespectful.

    If you did text the question however that would have come across as super annoying from his perspective as you don’t have conversations like that over text.



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    #63
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 14,344 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    This is probably a tad blunt, but to me it seems like he's lost interest in you, but hasn't got the neck to actually outright say it to you and is hoping you'll get the message and leave, but you're so adamant that you want to get married and have kids that you'll bend over backwards to keep the relationship going as long as you can, in the hopes everything will turn out great (it won't).



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    #64
    Dog day
    Registered Users Posts: 190 ✭✭Dog day


    Hi again OP, I know you said earlier that you don’t see a pattern in your relationships but from you’ve told us so far I really do. Equally I think at this point that your approach to this thread may also be symbolic of the way in which you may be approaching relationships & life in general. I think it’s likely that you’re tiring yourself out, constantly putting yourself under pressure & perhaps tending to exhaustive over-analysis of every detail. I’d gently suggest that at this point this thread is now encouraging you to get bogged down with all the details of everything & genuinely think taking some quiet time out to yourself to just ‘be’ will really help you. Then, when you’re ready I’d suggest talking with a life coach or counsellor. Sometimes it’s in the quiet times when we pause & stop asking questions that we find ourselves naturally making better decisions. Hope that all makes sense! Once again, I wish you only positive things. All the best.



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