How many hours per day would you find excessive for someone playing online along with working (separate to gaming) full time.
How long is a piece of string? Going by your username and taking your question at face value then it depends entirely on your relationship really and if there are kids/other responsibilities involved and what the working hours entail and how many hours he's playing a night.
Like I'm super lucky that I work long days but then have many days off and I spend a lot (I mean a lot) of my spare time gaming. My partner is super chilled about this and just gets on around me but I know others with kids who only game a little bit a night or play games that involve their children or partners.