Dating Apps/sites

Patsy167

Tinder is for rookies
Go to Facebook Marketplace and search for wedding dresses. It'll show you recently divorced females in your area. From there you can filter by size.

Airyfairy12

Ask someone out! Lads dont do this anymore, you can ask someone out without it being creepy or weird. There must be one or two women youre interested in an know are single? Message them or approach them if you see them out, make it clear youre genuinely interested in a date & not just being polite/making friendly chat or just looking for sex.
All you have to do is say hey, would you like to go for a coffee? All she can say is no.

Dont Call Me Boomer!!

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

Ask someone out! Lads dont do this anymore, you can ask someone out without it being creepy or weird. There must be one or two women youre interested in an know are single? Message them or approach them if you see them out, make it clear youre genuinely interested in a date & not just being polite/making friendly chat or just looking for sex.
All you have to do is say hey, would you like to go for a coffee? All she can say is no.

There are no women who are interested in me atm. Most of my life I've struggled to attract women. And it's not my personality. I can talk to women, make them laugh. But I am ugly which means I am not considered a viable partner.

Because women are bombarded with male attention, especially online, they assume it must be the same for men. Nope! This is why men often fall in love with their female friends, we simply don't have many options.

It's not the 1950s where a man's resources and status counts for anything. These days women are better paid than we are so many men are on the scrapheap.

Airyfairy12

Dont Call Me Boomer!! wrote: »

There are no women who are interested in me atm. Most of my life I've struggled to attract women. And it's not my personality. I can talk to women, make them laugh. But I am ugly which means I am not considered a viable partner.

Because women are bombarded with male attention, especially online, they assume it must be the same for men. Nope! This is why men often fall in love with their female friends, we simply don't have many options.

It's not the 1950s where a man's resources and status counts for anything. These days women are better paid than we are so many men are on the scrapheap.

The posters been banned but ill reply anyway.
Its really not about looks, if that was the case then all generically good looking people would be in relationships and all those people some would consider to be 'ugly' would be single. I know extremely attractive woman who are in relationships with what I would consider to be very unattractive men but they love them because they have connection, they feel listened to, understood and they find their partners attractive and thats all that matters.
One thing ive noticed that all these men have in common is a silent confidence, they dont need approval from other people, theyre assertive but also caring and kind.
Women statistically earn less than men so your last statement is a total made up lie that you tell yourself.
Work on yourself and your confidence and you'll have a much better chance of meeting someone whose right for you.

Evade

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

All she can say is no.

While this is true, once you've gotten tens of noes without any yeses it's time to stop. Definition of insanity and all that.

SnuggyBear

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

The posters been banned but ill reply anyway.
Its really not about looks, if that was the case then all generically good looking people would be in relationships and all those people some would consider to be 'ugly' would be single. I know extremely attractive woman who are in relationships with what I would consider to be very unattractive men but they love them because they have connection, they feel listened to, understood and they find their partners attractive and thats all that matters.
One thing ive noticed that all these men have in common is a silent confidence, they dont need approval from other people, theyre assertive but also caring and kind.
Women statistically earn less than men so your last statement is a total made up lie that you tell yourself.
Work on yourself and your confidence and you'll have a much better chance of meeting someone whose right for you.

You may as well have replied with just be confident bro. Doesn't really help him much.

SnuggyBear

SnuggyBear wrote: »

You may as well have replied with just be confident bro. Doesn't really help him much.

Yeah, I really feel bad for some guys out there. I get loads of matches online, whereas some guys I know get almost nothing.

It's a cruel world!

SnuggyBear

I think most men struggle to get a good photos of themselves. One good photo on its own would probably do better than 5 awful ones like lost men probably have up.

I'm fairly picky swiping women. If I see one bad pic I'll swipe left. I'd imagine women are even picker. You are only as good as your worse pic.

Grey Fox

Evade wrote: »

While this is true, once you've gotten tens of noes without any yeses it's time to stop. Definition of insanity and all that.

I've resigned myself to the fact that the only women I can get are either mentalists or those with really low self esteem. This is based on years of dating, which I am now sick to the teeth of. So I've decided to stay single indefinitely and visit prostitutes or erotic massage parlours for my sexual needs. I can live without the companionship part.

YellowLead

I think the ‘I’m too ugly to get dates’ line is a total cop out. Be confident and have a sense of humour and have interesting things you do with your life and you are winning.
Look around you the next time you are in a park. Is every guy with a girl on his arm a male model? Hardly.
A lot of men just don’t know how to make a good profile. Tip - if you can, get your hands on the phone of a female friend and watch while she swipes and get her to give feedback on why she swipes left and right.

SnuggyBear

YellowLead wrote: »

I think the ‘I’m too ugly to get dates’ line is a total cop out. Be confident and have a sense of humour and have interesting things you do with your life and you are winning.
Look around you the next time you are in a park. Is every guy with a girl on his arm a male model? Hardly.
A lot of men just don’t know how to make a good profile. Tip - if you can, get your hands on the phone of a female friend and watch while she swipes and get her to give feedback on why she swipes left and right.

Make a profile as a man with an ugly pic. See how you get on. Sorry but women have no idea what it's like for men. You are deluded.

Be confident? Have you tried being confident bro?

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000

YellowLead wrote: »

I think the ‘I’m too ugly to get dates’ line is a total cop out. Be confident and have a sense of humour and have interesting things you do with your life and you are winning.
Look around you the next time you are in a park. Is every guy with a girl on his arm a male model? Hardly.
A lot of men just don’t know how to make a good profile. Tip - if you can, get your hands on the phone of a female friend and watch while she swipes and get her to give feedback on why she swipes left and right.

Except men have to fight the algorithm on dating sites too. Google what shadowbans are in relation to these apps. You're profile is scored, you'll only be shown to certain girls and sometimes not at all. Bottom of the pile unless you keep spending money. They're deliberately made like this to keep the cash rolling in from almost exclusively men.

Airyfairy12

SnuggyBear wrote: »

Make a profile as a man with an ugly pic. See how you get on. Sorry but women have no idea what it's like for men. You are deluded.

If youre exclusively talking about Tinder which is entirely based on judging people on their photos, 'ugly' women with bad pics certainly dont get matches either.

That said, who are these 'ugly' men swiping on? If theyre trying to match with women that are total stunners who get matched with every lad they swipe on, someone below average isnt going to make the cut, sorry if thats harsh to hear but thats just the reality and the same goes for very attractive men, they only ever swipe on equally or more attractive women.

I wonder would these 'ugly' men date women they don't find attractive or arent as attractive as other women?

I use apostrophes because 'Ugly' is subjective.

YellowLead

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000 wrote: »

Except men have to fight the algorithm on dating sites too. Google what shadowbans are in relation to these apps. You're profile is scored, you'll only be shown to certain girls and sometimes not at all. Bottom of the pile unless you keep spending money. They're deliberately made like this to keep the cash rolling in from almost exclusively men.

I wasn’t speaking exclusively about tinder....

And for heaven's sake, make sure your profile is verified.

SnuggyBear

Airyfairy12 wrote: »

If youre exclusively talking about Tinder which is entirely based on judging people on their photos, 'ugly' women with bad pics certainly dont get matches either.

They will. Go test it.

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000

YellowLead wrote: »

I wasn’t speaking exclusively about tinder....

You do know the company who owns tinder also owns match, plenty of fish, okcupid, hinge, ship, meetic and more.... They're ALL controlled by one company and use the same algorithm. If you're goosed on one, you're goosed on them all.

SnuggyBear

Not sure why women are posting on the gentlemens board. Telling men to just be confident.

Guys, just be tall and good looking. It's so simple.

More seriously, I don't think all is lost for average guys in real life. I know plenty of bang average guys who find women irl. But if you're an average guy online you're pretty much screwed by the algorithm.

YellowLead

SnuggyBear wrote: »

Not sure why women are posting on the gentlemens board. Telling men to just be confident.

Well if you are trying to attract the opposite sex wouldn’t you also want their point of view? Not like you have to listen to it but balanced views are surely welcome!
There’s a reason why the confidence thing is pushed left right and centre....because it’s true.

YellowLead

Plus as a new joiner to an app you are always at the top of the algorithm because they want you to keep using the app. So delete your profile...set up a better one and at least give yourself a shot for a few days.
Bumble isn’t owned by the Match group by the way...

YellowLead

YellowLead wrote: »

Plus as a new joiner to an app you are always at the top of the algorithm because they want you to keep using the app. So delete your profile...set up a better one and at least give yourself a shot for a few days.
Bumble isn’t owned by the Match group by the way...

If you keep deleting and rebooting they'll shadowban you, fyi.

SnuggyBear

No matches as a man? Easy solution. Set yourself as gay.

SnuggyBear

YellowLead wrote: »

Well if you are trying to attract the opposite sex wouldn’t you also want their point of view? Not like you have to listen to it but balanced views are surely welcome!
There’s a reason why the confidence thing is pushed left right and centre....because it’s true.

It's also true that being rich, handsome and tall works. I think he knows what attracts women. He doesn't have thees qualities and telling him to just have them doesn't work. Hence he's going to prostitutes. Probably a better use of time than going on tinder abwyay.

Nobody is saying that confidence is something that you just switch on and off. Confidence is a muscle and the more you work on it, the stronger it gets.

If you're ugly and lacking confidence, what exactly would you be bringing to a relationship? What is your unique selling point?

[Deleted User]

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Nobody is saying that confidence is something that you just switch on and off. Confidence is a muscle and the more you work on it, the stronger it gets.

If you're ugly and lacking confidence, what exactly would you be bringing to a relationship? What is your unique selling point?

Being a genuinely kind person goes a long way.

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000

YellowLead wrote: »

Plus as a new joiner to an app you are always at the top of the algorithm because they want you to keep using the app. So delete your profile...set up a better one and at least give yourself a shot for a few days.
Bumble isn’t owned by the Match group by the way...

But bumble is terrible.

YellowLead

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000 wrote: »

But bumble is terrible.

I agree! I mean it’s terrible for me as a woman no idea what the male experience is like.

SnuggyBear

I think bumble is better than tinder but that's not saying much. A lot of matches and then no messages or just hi. You reply and nothing. Granted I normally I delete the apps after one night cos I find them tedious and energy draining.

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000

YellowLead wrote: »

I agree! I mean it’s terrible for me as a woman no idea what the male experience is like.

I'd imagine even worse. I joined, paid right away, got matches but then you've to wait for them to message you. After about two months the algorithm kicked in and no matches whatsoever... I unsubbed and magically had lots of matches or people waiting for me that I couldn't view. It's another scam.

Deleted User

Deleted User wrote: »

Being a genuinely kind person goes a long way.

Of course it does but that's not something that can judged on a dating site.

That's something that is experienced when you've gotten a foot in the door and the actual dating begins.

[Deleted User]

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Of course it does but that's not something that can judged on a dating site.

That's something that is experienced when you've gotten a foot in the door and the actual dating begins.

Oh yeah, online dating is brutal. I hate it, and I do pretty well out of it.

99nsr125

Grey Fox wrote: »

I've resigned myself to the fact that the only women I can get are either mentalists or those with really low self esteem. This is based on years of dating, which I am now sick to the teeth of. So I've decided to stay single indefinitely and visit prostitutes or erotic massage parlours for my sexual needs. I can live without the companionship part.

Unfortunately all women are nutballs or broken with low self esteem

Wibbs

"All women are nutballs" eh? Another daft generalisation like that and you'll be taking a break from the forum. That goes for anyone and any group generalisation about men or women.

Irish_rat

99nsr125 wrote: »

Unfortunately all women are nutballs or broken with low self esteem

You are generalizing an entire gender wow. But I know the types you are on about, headwreckers are very common nowadays but there is a lot of genuine women out there that have similar outlooks to life. Just search harder.

Regarding the profile photos then weird selfies lying in bed are not a good look. Go out be active take nice photos of your hiking, cycling or holidays. At least it shows you are enjoying life some bit and not lazing around

Sonics2k

Honestly I'd say a lot of the comments here are great examples of why so many of you struggle to meet women or speak to them on dating apps.

Evade

Sonics2k wrote: »

Honestly I'd say a lot of the comments here are great examples of why so many of you struggle to meet women or speak to them on dating apps.

I think a lot of people would be better off if they had more honest friends. I'm very aware of how little I have to offer but any time I'd say something alluding to that to, now former, friends they would lie to me and say it's not true. Even with obvious things like being overweight.

Fuzzyduzzy

Generally on dating apps, a girl who is normally perceived to be a 6/10 gets treated like an 8 while a guy who is normally perceived to be a 6/10 gets treated like a 4. Most average looking guys will receive 1 or 2 likes per day (maybe one of those from 5,000 miles away) while most average looking women match with pretty much everyone.

Women date up on apps while guys must date down.

I do just wonder where these women end up, like attractiveness is usually on par when people settle together and usually have relationships within their own league. Delusion was alive and well when I used these apps 4 years ago and seems to have amplified since.

This celebrity-like treatment women get from matching with pretty much every guy (many of whom would not look twice at them on a night out) has given rise to ghosting, although guys are probably guilty of this too.

YellowLead

Yep - both genders ghost. It’s just par for the course when online dating. It’s annoying but you can’t let it get to you or you’ll end up frustrated.

Interesting what you said about women dating up etc. If I see somebody that I would consider to be ‘out of my league’ I typically don’t swipe on them (I’m female). Though funnily enough when they chat me up in real life I wouldn’t let it stop me.

Ronaldinho

Anyone use Hinge?

YellowLead

Ronaldinho wrote: »

Anyone use Hinge?

Yep. It’s my favourite as you see more information about people, see who has liked you, and there are less just looking for a hook up types (though they exist). You comment on a particular photo if you are the one sending the first like so you get a sense of why people are swiping on you. I’m female so not sure how it is for guys, but have heard mainly positive things from guy friends.


Not that many users in Ireland is the issue, so you go through the profiles pretty quickly.