hard life

mr_fegelien

At what age did you learn just how arduous/difficult life was?

mr_fegelien

mr_fegelien wrote: »

At what age did you learn just how arduous/difficult life was?

In my last few days when I get the covid.

suicide_circus

23

SEPT 23 1989

The day I got married

Mad_maxx

twenty one

Rodney Bathgate

In hindsight, probably when one of my parents died when I was in primary school.

gifted

mr_fegelien wrote: »

At what age did you learn just how arduous/difficult life was?

When kids come into the mix.......you can't shut the door.

Rubberchikken

Still waiting for it to happen:)

cj maxx

When I discovered After Hours

Giraffe Box

My first day at school.......I think I was about 12.

weemcd

Not yet, I'm 31.

Sam Hain

Giraffe Box wrote: »

My first day at school.......I think I was about 12.

Was being about 8 years older than your classmates not make things easier.

Portmanteau

mr_fegelien wrote: »

At what age did you learn just how arduous/difficult life was?

How difficult life is, depends on personal experience.

Although the realisation that life has the potential to be hard at times and isn't supposed to be smooth sailing, don't know when that hit me, but it did.

JohnFalstaff

I come from a big family and we all learned life was tough at a young age. Our parents taught us how to stand on our own two feet.

We didn't always have enough but I learned to do without.

I had brothers and we all fought tooth and nail. I learned how to take a beating.

I was loved so much as a child it filled my heart and gave me the ability to face up to anything life throws at me.

I was very lucky. Still am.

Mr Meanor

mr_fegelien wrote: »

At what age did you learn just how arduous/difficult life was?

mr_fegelien

Portmanteau wrote: »

How difficult life is, depends on personal experience.

Although the realisation that life has the potential to be hard at times and isn't supposed to be smooth sailing, don't know when that hit me, but it did.

Do you think some people have "easy" lives? Good looks, no physical/mental issues, intelligent enough to get good grades and enter into a good job, good work ethic, strong family support if anything goes wrong.

s1ippy

The kids in my family mostly had very fraught childhoods. Before I was a teenager, pretty traumatic circumstances arose. While it was a terrible time, I'm glad of having experienced something so difficult at a young age because it put life in perspective. Knowing the sh!t side of life makes me really appreciate the good stuff, while being equipped to handle the bad. Or so I tell myself, maybe I'm just a sucker.

I hugely pity sheltered people, especially these days. It can't be easy having to adjust when you have no resilience. I don't say this to be mean, but that's what seems to be happening to a lot of people I know, many having total mental breakdowns on the regular over tiny things. It's extremely sad to see, and it's probably liable to get worse with the fresh hell that each new day seems to dredge up recently. I can see a lot of people with quite bad PTSD already including one lad I know who has developed a very bad psychosomatic twitch.

Giraffe Box

Sam Hain wrote: »

Was being about 8 years older than your classmates not make things easier.

No, I was 8 years behind them in terms of schooling.
I still have trouble writing properly, a bit like your good self, judging by your post!;)

mr_fegelien

s1ippy wrote: »

I hugely pity sheltered people, especially these days. It can't be easy having to adjust when you have no resilience. I don't say this to be mean, but that's what seems to be happening to a lot of people I know, many having total mental breakdowns on the regular over tiny things. It's extremely sad to see, and it's probably liable to get worse with the fresh hell that each new day seems to dredge up recently. I can see a lot of people with quite bad PTSD already including one lad I know who has developed a very bad psychosomatic twitch.

What do you mean?

And I know what you're saying but being honest, i don't think the older generation dealt with problems any better. If you remember, alcoholism rates were through the roof in the past 50 years so it wasn't really a case of simply the older generation being more resilient. They did keep things in but they also acted out with domestic violence, beating kids, and drinking themselves to death (still happens albeit less so)

Portmanteau

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Do you think some people have "easy" lives? Good looks, no physical/mental issues, intelligent enough to get good grades and enter into a good job, good work ethic, strong family support if anything goes wrong.

I think I have had an easy life. Great family, good health, no money worries, great friends, not amazing looking but not bad, not a great job but I'm comfortable. I've had troubles - like anyone - but nothing more than the usual anxieties and difficulties, and it's how you deal with them is the key.

I know people who do have it all like you described, but that doesn't mean my slightly more "humble" life is hard. And those folk can still face hardship. One such family I know, experienced terrible tragedy when a member was killed.

SEPT 23 1989

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Do you think some people have "easy" lives? Good looks, no physical/mental issues, intelligent enough to get good grades and enter into a good job, good work ethic, strong family support if anything goes wrong.

Mr fegelien you have to try and deal with the cards you are dealt

Forget about other people

Mantis Toboggan

July 19th..

Ultrflat

To be honest I've had a hard life since I was 8 I had school teachers, bully me and verbally abuse me and humiliate me but also allowed the entire class to humiliate me through out my schooling. I've had teachers strike me. I was betrayed by people who I thought were friends. I got some peace when I started doing sports I loved. When I turned 21 I was in a n accident. That stopped then when I was about 23 my entire life fell to a very dark place I lived on food water and smoking a much Marajunna as I could. Socially isolating my self.

when I was 28 I woke up looked at my self in the mirror. Tuck all my stash of weed and hash burned the lot. Found a therapist rang him and asked could I book an appointment.

Then for 3 years I worked on my fragile mentle state. And what fueld me was being angry at my self. I learned CBT which is easily the most important life skill out there.


At 38 I've learned one thing, Life is going to be hard, even when its easy its still hard. You role with your punches, except treat them like a pot hole and step over it. My relationship ended less then 3 months ago. Suddenly I found a void, started off by dating sites, but it didn't feel right deleted them. Something made me uncomfortable about it. I tuck a different approach. Get fit eat healthily replaced that void with positive. I feel 20 times better then I did.

Life's hardship should be taken as empowerment, to grow and be better not feeling sorry for your self blaming others for the way things turn out. take the responsibility and move on. Lifes to short for feeling sorry for your self. IMO

Ps Make your bed every morning!

s1ippy

mr_fegelien wrote: »

What do you mean?

And I know what you're saying but being honest, i don't think the older generation dealt with problems any better. If you remember, alcoholism rates were through the roof in the past 50 years so it wasn't really a case of simply the older generation being more resilient. They did keep things in but they also acted out with domestic violence, beating kids, and drinking themselves to death (still happens albeit less so)

You're right about that, I read a PhD years back that examined alcoholism as an inherited genetic trait, transferred through DNA but also passed on in the "nurture" aspect of life (as people are exposed to it as a cultural and social phenomenon).

The text went on to make the argument that the same phenomenon is evident in a wide variety of post-colonial situations. I wouldn't have leaned so heavily on that explanation but I certainly accept that post-colonial trauma is probably a factor which shapes a huge amount of things about our society.

If the English taking away our language, religion and customs had that much of a lasting impact imagine what our own government taking away our civil rights will do, especially if it is to continue.

And the OCD we're suddenly having to engage in.

And the social isolation.

This next couple of years will definitely be extremely stressful, depressing and damaging for a huge majority of people. It's a bit unfortunate that "Wellbeing" is such a commercial enterprise these days, because maintaining personal psychological welfare in your own way is going to be the only way to protect against the fallout from suppressed mental anguish in years to come is to confront it honestly and constructively as it arises.

Ultrflat wrote: »

To be honest I've had a hard life since I was 8 I had school teachers, bully me and verbally abuse me and humiliate me but also allowed the entire class to humiliate me through out my schooling. I've had teachers strike me. I was betrayed by people who I thought were friends. I got some peace when I started doing sports I loved. When I turned 21 I was in a n accident. That stopped then when I was about 23 my entire life fell to a very dark place I lived on food water and smoking a much Marajunna as I could. Socially isolating my self.

when I was 28 I woke up looked at my self in the mirror. Tuck all my stash of weed and hash burned the lot. Found a therapist rang him and asked could I book an appointment.

Then for 3 years I worked on my fragile mentle state. And what fueld me was being angry at my self. I learned CBT which is easily the most important life skill out there.


At 38 I've learned one thing, Life is going to be hard, even when its easy its still hard. You role with your punches, except treat them like a pot hole and step over it. My relationship ended less then 3 months ago. Suddenly I found a void, started off by dating sites, but it didn't feel right deleted them. Something made me uncomfortable about it. I tuck a different approach. Get fit eat healthily replaced that void with positive. I feel 20 times better then I did.

Life's hardship should be taken as empowerment, to grow and be better not feeling sorry for your self blaming others for the way things turn out. take the responsibility and move on. Lifes to short for feeling sorry for your self. IMO

Ps Make your bed every morning!

Haha snuck the JBP in, fair dues. I just wanted to say that reading about how you overcame your difficulties I really admired honest you were with yourself. And you're so right to focus on yourself instead of looking at those sites, I'd like to see statistics on how many people who use them actually have any success with them. I don't even expect to find statistics on how many people dating sites made "happy"!

Strumms

Probably 5th and 6th year of secondary school, when I realized that it wasn’t always going to matter how much you put in, how much work you did and how much you tried, if you are surrounded by and relying on a bunch of absolutely fücking useless, self centered pricks (the teachers) who ONLY are concerned and preoccupied with ‘the good students’ and THEIR results to make the teachers look great and had zero interest in anyone who was trying yet struggling... as one fella my old Physics psycho teacher said..”Mr Strumms, I’m teaching, you are not learning, not my problem”.. I learned well enough to get myself a really good junior cert with a heap of inspiring and excellent teachers.

I’d count a teacher as a good friend and they always say the mark of the best teacher is the teacher who can take a weak student and enable them to improve, its piss easy to get a great student with an aptitude for a subject a good mark.

In my job I ended up as a trainer and always remembered this, if someone was struggling halfway in and maybe it looking touch and go... I’d get far more job satisfaction from them bridging the gap and passing then two others say getting 100%....

RobbingBandit

Eight when a girl in my class told me I was ugly.

Ultrflat

RobbingBandit wrote: »

Eight when a girl in my class told me I was ugly.

I bet your a feckin Swan now

Lyan

Fug I wasn't able to inb4 people with dandy lives came in to imply that life is grand and belittle those who suffer.

LeYouth

My life is going grand. I'm not married no children no debt. No pressure!

Ultrflat

s1ippy wrote: »

Haha snuck the JBP in, fair dues. I just wanted to say that reading about how you overcame your difficulties I really admired honest you were with yourself. And you're so right to focus on yourself instead of looking at those sites, I'd like to see statistics on how many people who use them actually have any success with them. I don't even expect to find statistics on how many people dating sites made "happy"!

JBP? I've no idea who that is .

I think being honest with your self is so important, and for a long time I wasn't I just hid away. I meet my X on a similar site we had a good relationship but it had run its course. I don't think being reliant on some one else to make you happy is a little shall we say foolish. You need to be happy with you. But if some one is making you unhappy I think you need to walk away.

Making your bed I got from a speech I listen to at times. by Admiral William H. McRaven if that's what you were referring too?

Giraffe Box

LeYouth wrote: »

My life is going grand. I'm not married no children no debt. No pressure!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxf9gf9kHXA

blade1

14, sent out to earn a crust to feed my kids!

Immortal Starlight

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHP-qgzUVLM

Church on Tuesday

"Now remember, when things look bad and it looks like you're not gonna make it, then you gotta get mean. I mean plumb, mad-dog mean. Cause if you lose your head and you give up then you neither live nor win. That's just the way it is."

Basically this.

Rodney Bathgate

blade1 wrote: »

14, sent out to earn a crust to feed my kids!

Amateur - you should have sent them up the chimneys and lived off their earnings.

zerosugarbuzz

37, coincidental but true.

s1ippy

Ultrflat wrote: »

JBP? I've no idea who that is .

I think being honest with your self is so important, and for a long time I wasn't I just hid away. I meet my X on a similar site we had a good relationship but it had run its course. I don't think being reliant on some one else to make you happy is a little shall we say foolish. You need to be happy with you. But if some one is making you unhappy I think you need to walk away.

Making your bed I got from a speech I listen to at times. by Admiral William H. McRaven if that's what you were referring too?

No, Jordan B Peterson! I'm very glad it wasn't that dope you got it from, I completely forgot he reappropriated it. It's solid advice.

kowloon

Ultrflat wrote: »

I bet your a feckin Swan now

You've some neck on you. :mad:

Ultrflat

kowloon wrote: »

You've some neck on you. :mad:

I'm just spreading my wings.

Strumms

Ultrflat wrote: »

I'm just spreading my wings.

You are both quackers.

Ultrflat

Strumms wrote: »

You are both quackers.

Quite the pecking order here :pac:

punisher5112

Now

StolenKrone

Fourteen... all downhill thereafter

tea and coffee

Does the OP delete all his own posts and then everyone just carries on or does a mod do it? In either case, what is the reasoning behind this? I see it a lot with just this poster.

punisher5112

If any of you feels down.... Seriously look up Hale and pace on YouTube.,


It will bring you back to life....

If you come back and tell me it's not funny then there is no fixing you....

punisher5112

tea and coffee wrote: »

Does the OP delete all his own posts and then everyone just carries on or does a mod do it? In either case, what is the reasoning behind this? I see it a lot with just this poster.

I seen this when new gdpr rules came in... Peeps requested remove of data ... Then everything was removed but their name used on post...


Gdpr has ruined all the fun

dinorebel

The day I read your first thread on Boards.

Tork

I am an old woman now, with one foot in the grave and the other on its edge. I have experienced much ease and much hardship from the day I was born until this very day. Had I known in advance half, or even one-third, of what the future had in store for me, my heart wouldn't have been as gay or as courageous it was in the beginning of my days.

tea and coffee

@ punisher
Well then why does he make several posts a day if he is just going to ask for them to be deleted?
Besides unless you post your personal data it doesn't fall under GDPR rules. Asking about "wimmin" and life in Ireland etc hardly counts as special category personal data, esp as he posts it himself.

marieholmfan

ReginaldSmythV wrote: »

In my last few days when I get the covid.

Sure ... But if you do have the Covid I care as much about you as you do about other people.