Have you reached your peak?

forzacalcio

Was having a conversation this weekend about nostalgic memories and it got me thinking.

Was there a moment in your life where you thought "That's it, it's all downhill from here" or are you still waiting for that moment?

Surely everyone reaches a peak at some stage in their life.

kippy

forzacalcio wrote: »

Was having a conversation this weekend about nostalgic memories and it got me thinking.

Was there a moment in your life where you thought "That's it, it's all downhill from here" or are you still waiting for that moment?

Surely everyone reaches a peak at some stage in their life.

Define peak?

The Rape of Lucretia

I played high school football. Scored four touchdowns in one game.

Lyan

I think it was some time soon after being born.

ILoveYourVibes

Tis all downhill from here



WEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Die Hard 2019

The Rape of Lucretia wrote: »

I played high school football. Scored four touchdowns in one game.

Men are such idiots and I married their king.

The Satanist

Drinking and riding young ones: long gone days
Career stuff: nope

Nah, don't think so.

Vita nova

More like a plateau for the last few years but I've made some changes recently that'll hopefully get me back on an upward trajectory.

ILoveYourVibes

The Satanist wrote: »

Drinking and riding young ones: long gone days

Why are you dead?

Alf Veedersane

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Why are you dead?

Most likely his heart stopped working.

ILoveYourVibes

Alf Veedersane wrote: »

Most likely his heart stopped working.

DAMN HEART ATTACKS!

You can ignore the first one you know! It doesn't count!

Arghus

Personally, felt my peak was about 22-25, so coming up on the guts of ten years ago. Was physically fit without much effort, could eat any old shyte and not gain a pick of weight, could drink a rake of pints and still be functional the next day and dark thoughts about the trajectory of life were kind of abstract, relating to "dark" books or films I may have read or watched - rather than feeling concrete and real.

I know everyone will feel differently about it, but, for me, those years of your early to mid twenties are the best. You're still young and in good physical knick, but you've been out in the world for a few years, so you aren't still in the completely naive 16-19 years age range. Adult responsibilities and infirmities are around the corner, but they're still at that stage a foreign land.

adrian92

Forza, with respect to others,

Other ones share those thoughts.

No solution, I think.

Very valid , maybe useful, thoughts to pursue.

Many think the same, I suspect

Widdershins

Hmm.
I'm now in my thirties.
I look better than I did in my 20s
I have boundless energy
Im more fully grown into my own skin.
I fear very little (but I sometimes stress over peoples opinions, something I gave no thought to in my 20s. That was pure arrogance though. This is more self assurance).
Reckon I've got another few rounds left in me.

Arghus

Arghus wrote: »

Personally, felt my peak was about 22-25, so coming up on the guts of ten years ago. Was physically fit without much effort, could eat any old shyte and not gain a pick of weight, could drink a rake of pints and still be functional the next day and dark thoughts about the trajectory of life were kind of abstract, relating to "dark" books or films I may have read or watched - rather than feeling concrete and real.

I know everyone will feel differently about it, but, for me, those years of your early to mid twenties are the best. You're still young and in good physical knick, but you've been out in the world for a few years, so you aren't still in the completely naive 16-19 years age range. Adult responsibilities and infirmities are around the corner, but they're still at that stage a foreign land.

That sums it up for me. Those 3 years were the wonder years. Cash on the hip, few responsibilities. I was never in my life really fit, but had a great girlfriend and we enjoyed doing stuff together. Then it went downhill from there.

Edit: also about ten years ago

Gretas Gonna Get Ya!

Arghus wrote: »

Personally, felt my peak was about 22-25, so coming up on the guts of ten years ago. Was physically fit without much effort, could eat any old shyte and not gain a pick of weight, could drink a rake of pints and still be functional the next day and dark thoughts about the trajectory of life were kind of abstract, relating to "dark" books or films I may have read or watched - rather than feeling concrete and real.

I know everyone will feel differently about it, but, for me, those years of your early to mid twenties are the best. You're still young and in good physical knick, but you've been out in the world for a few years, so you aren't still in the completely naive 16-19 years age range. Adult responsibilities and infirmities are around the corner, but they're still at that stage a foreign land.

That's your inner pu$$y talking... :P

Push that nonsense deep down inside you and never allow it back to the surface again! NEVER AGAIN!

Whatever age you are, you earned those stripes... you passed those life tests, and moved on to the next stage. What you lack (slightly) in the vitality of youth, you can more than make up for with experience and wisdom!

So many in this life coveth what others have or what they used to have or cannot have... it's completely pointless and futile. Use whatever you have... if you have youth, use that... lacking youth but lots of life experience, then use that to your advantage... it's your game, your rules... (within reason of course)

I think we all go through different stages, and the perception of what your "peak" is, shifts.

When I worked in Finance, i reached my peak in my early 30s. My career had become incredibly important to me, as had the benefits from my position/authority. I enjoyed the lifestyle to a degree, but then I burned out. I had reached the point where going further wasn't worth the effort, and staying where I was, was just... ugh.

The last decade has been interesting with lots of ups and downs. I've a new focus, and that's provided me with a new scale to measure success. I love my lifestyle, even though I've little in the way of money. I'd imagine i'll have reached my peak when I have a dozen published titles which are making decent returns on the time invested.

So, no. Socially, personally, and career wise I'm not even close to my peak. I am jaded somewhat with regards to some social aspects, but I merely shift to something else I haven't properly explored yet. There's plenty left, along with four more countries that I want to live in. So.. Pretty good, all in all. Nope. The peak is still a goodly distance away.

JohnnyFlash

You reach your peak between the ages of 25 and 30. It’s all downhill from there. You’ll have people saying it’s your 30’s, your 40’s, your 50’s, but funnily enough it’s always people in that age bracket who try and sell you that lie. It’s some sort of emotional comfort blanket as they try and come to terms with aging, decay, and mortality.

Widdershins

Well aren't we a ray of sunshine...

Lyan

He is correct from a biological perspective.

Widdershins

He'll get fine lines with that attitude though

adrian92

I know a person who is almost seventy - a great poet.

Is he finished because of his age?

Or poetry is worthless?

Lyan

Widdershins wrote: »

He'll get fine lines with that attitude though

I mean some men can certainly peak at an older age. Men who didn't exactly have a lot going for them when they were younger but have achieved wealth and power later in life can potentially have a more successful and happier life after their 20s.

Antares35

Physically, yes definitely feeling post-peak at 36. Hangovers are worse, tiredness sets in quicker, harder to lose weight, few lines here and there that are not just "tiredness". In terms of life goals, probably only halfway there.

Widdershins

Potentially lots of things can happen as people grow older. Myriad factors involved. But you could argue you're dying from the moment you're born.

Guava Juice

It depends what you mean by peak, in terms of attractiveness women usually peak between around 20 to 25, men usually around 33 to 38.

If talking about physical fitness then that's around 24 I would say.

JohnnyFlash

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

You reach your peak between the ages of 25 and 30. It’s all downhill from there. You’ll have people saying it’s your 30’s, your 40’s, your 50’s, but funnily enough it’s always people in that age bracket who try and sell you that lie. It’s some sort of emotional comfort blanket as they try and come to terms with aging, decay, and mortality.

Hardly. I'm 42 now. I look almost the same as I did in my early 20s. A few lines around the eyes, and forehead. Some darkening around the eyes, but most people are shocked by how similar i am to my youth. No grey hair except when my beard gets long. Still, physically the same (tall/slim). Medical checks three times a year, and i'm in near perfect health.

I've noticed that some people age quite a bit. Most people I know for a while, look ten years older than their age. Gaining weight seems to be a large factor, along with the stresses of work, marriage, meeting bills. I don't have any of those stresses.

Guava Juice wrote: »

It depends what you mean by peak, in terms of attractiveness women usually peak between around 20 to 25, men usually around 33 to 38.

Perhaps in terms of physical attractiveness, although each decade has improved my success. I'm far more successful now than I was in my 20s. Experience and the ability to project confidence, along with a degree of charisma becomes more important as you age, and become more effective. Physically, I was never particularly attractive, and having a shaking disorder didn't help. Still, I'd say that age has made me look better, and experience has taught me how to charm.

adrian92

Deleted User wrote: »

Hardly. I'm 42 now. I look almost the same as I did in my early 20s. A few lines around the eyes, and forehead. Some darkening around the eyes, but most people are shocked by how similar i am to my youth. No grey hair except when my beard gets long. Still, physically the same (tall/slim). Medical checks three times a year, and i'm in near perfect health.

I've noticed that some people age quite a bit. Most people I know for a while, look ten years older than their age. Gaining weight seems to be a large factor, along with the stresses of work, marriage, meeting bills. I don't have any of those stresses.



Perhaps in terms of physical attractiveness, although each decade has improved my success. I'm far more successful now than I was in my 20s. Experience and the ability to project confidence, along with a degree of charisma becomes more important as you age, and become more effective. Physically, I was never particularly attractive, and having a shaking disorder didn't help. Still, I'd say that age has made me look better, and experience has taught me how to charm.

I had a mirror once like that.
I returned it

nthclare

Im in my mid 40's feeling fitter than I was in my 20's.
Mentally im much sharper and still learning and interested in facts and how society, weather and nature works.

Have a lot of work on my mental health and how I eat etc

Still have a lot of targets and am amazed at the world around me.

Living a single life, not because I can't get a partner.
Its because I fire better solo and too ferral and independent.

Ive plenty of time to settle down.

adrian92

adrian92 wrote: »

I had a mirror once like that.
I returned it

Reality is based on your perception of it.

Perhaps you should have kept the mirror. You'd likely be happier.

NIMAN

A few years back. Maybe 6 or 7.
I was in good shape, very active, fit.

Definitely on the downhill slope now.

Can't shake injuries, got aches and pains that I find difficult to shift.

Just waiting for death now!

Lyan

This thread:

https://youtu.be/88M9-rBXubA?t=23

Mad_maxx

Peaked at twenty one

Graces7

Nonsense! I reached my real peak in my late 60s and 70 s and am now slowly ambling down the home straight

20s and 30s are artificially hyped .

roflol at what I have bolded! lol... decay? Not even now!

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

You reach your peak between the ages of 25 and 30. It’s all downhill from there. You’ll have people saying it’s your 30’s, your 40’s, your 50’s, but funnily enough it’s always people in that age bracket who try and sell you that lie. It’s some sort of emotional comfort blanket as they try and come to terms with aging, decay, and mortality.

El_Duderino 09

Id Imagine you've peaked when you look back with rose tinted glasses and actually believe that everything was better
in the past and things only get worse as they change. When you stop looking for the good in the world around you, you're finished having a good time.

You see that attitude creeping into people's lives on boards. People who can only see the bad in change and oppose change even when it's necessary for the better.

Quandary

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdWAhP8rYKA

Always Sunny, always nails it.

FortuneChip

Only just reaching my Clooney years.

Long time before I peak

Your Face

I feel like a 21 year old but there's never one around.

Guava Juice

Graces7 wrote: »

Nonsense! I reached my real peak in my late 60s and 70 s and am now slowly ambling down the home straight

20s and 30s are artificially hyped .

roflol at what I have bolded! lol... decay? Not even now!

What peaked in your 60s and 70s?

Montage of Feck

I'm down on the upside

B.A._Baracus

I think:

Up until the day before your 30th birthday you're a young man or woman.
In your 30s you are in your prime.
40s... you are heading to/starting middle age depending on the person (some people at 42 look and act like they are 55) But let's just say by 45 you are in middle age.
By then, middle age, most would have peaked.

Beasty

1st March 2014 - largely downhill since then.....

Mad_maxx

Beasty wrote: »

1st March 2014 - largely downhill since then.....

October 25th 1998 for me

Church on Tuesday

I haven't even climbed the mountain yet.

Gynoid

I dont believe in this peak stuff, some days, months, years are crap in your 20s, some days, months, years are craic in your 50s. What I do think is that line to kids about yer whole life ahead of you to shape and form, that every generation tells the young, is a bit of a scam. Life and luck happens to you mostly, and a lot of life is repeating the mundane, which is grand. It goes by at a ridiculous speed. The idea of control is a bit of a lark, though some control over emotional response is possible.
Death does feel more real the older you get, thats for sure. So I try and peak everyday!

JupiterKid

I would like to think that I have still to reach my peak, professionally and personally.

Went to college, did my postgrad and started off on my career in research and academia at age 23/24, worked hard and climbed up the ladder very fast in my 20s and early 30s. Was in a long-term relationship at 26 and also did quite a bit of travelling around this time. Bought my first place at 28.

Crisis in my life due to workplace bullying in 2009 and a severe deterioration in my mental health, coupled with my late father falling terminally ill (moved back to the family home to look after him), relationship falling apart and ending, spiralling drink problem, stopping work altogether, barely able to function etc. hospitaliastion, rehab....

Past two and a half years getting my life back on track, new relationship, back in my career, rebuilding my life - I know I'm no spring chicken at 44 going on 45 - but I would hope that my best is yet to come!

Church on Tuesday

JupiterKid wrote: »

I would like to think that I have still to reach my peak, professionally and personally.

Went to college, did my postgrad and started off on my career in research and academia at age 23/24, worked hard and climbed up the ladder very fast in my 20s and early 30s. Was in a long-term relationship at 26 and also did quite a bit of travelling around this time. Bought my first place at 28.

Crisis in my life due to workplace bullying in 2009 and a severe deterioration in my mental health, coupled with my late father falling terminally ill (moved back to the family home to look after him), relationship falling apart and ending, spiralling drink problem, stopping work altogether, barely able to function etc. hospitaliastion, rehab....

Past two and a half years getting my life back on track, new relationship, back in my career, rebuilding my life - I know I'm no spring chicken at 44 going on 45 - but I would hope that my best is yet to come!

A lot of life left to live yet my friend.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Career wise I'm pretty much done and have retirement in mind.

Health wise I was doing great until I hit 50, then I got type II diabetes (which I reversed since) and some other health issues which come later in life. My prescription gets bigger every year now.

Fitness, well I'm very fit. Fitter than most people even half my age. I run, swim, cycle and train/compete Judo and hoping to take part in my first triathlon this year.

I can't fight Judo like I used to and have noticed a slowdown in the last two years. Where I trained with and competed in senior level national comps I find I just can't hang with those lads anymore so I compete in my age in weight and open categories. I had to be honest with myself and admit I'm only making up the numbers in the seniors.

I took last year off Judo competition and tried to get my head around retirement, but decided its not for me and if I stay under -100kgs I'm confident I'll do very well nationally this year.

Health peaked in my 20-30's.. Fitness, I'm doing more in my 50's and at any other time in my life and haven't peaked yet.. Career 30-40's and sporting (not to confuse with fitness) was probably my late 40's but no that I'm concentrating on competing in my age category at veterans I'm along way away from peaking.

Life is ups and downs, smiles and frowns.. Peaks and valleys.

I feel sorry for people who've clearly given up on life in their 30's, 40's or 50's.. Give yourselves a kick up the hole, that's where your system restore button is, and get going again.

Esmeralda Bewildered Speedway

Esmeralda Bewildered Speedway wrote: »

I feel sorry for people who've clearly given up on life in their 30's, 40's or 50's.. Give yourselves a kick up the hole, that's where your system restore button is, and get going again.

Agreed. Too many people simply give up assuming that this is the only life they can have. I've changed career four times. Each time was fun. I've lived in three different countries other than Ireland. Brilliant experiences.

If you feel like you're on a downward slope, shift your gears and change your life. It's really not that difficult once you start.

touts

I realised I was past my peak when my barber one day trimmed my eyebrows.

Some years later I realised I was middle aged when he ran the electric trimmer around the inside of my ears.

When the ****er goes near my nose I'll know it's time to get my affairs in order.