Feeling boring and passive in a relationship

completedit

How to overcome such feelings. I like myself but have aspects of my personality that I don’t think work well as part of a couple. I’m quite laid back or passive depending on perspective, independent, quite introverted in terms of thoughts. Just feel I’m a bit too straight forward, girls like emotions and feel like Indont push enough buttons.

Honeydew3456

Hi op? Are you that way in all aspects of your life?

Are there certain hobbies/interests that make you feel emotions: excitement, an adrenalin rush, competitive?

Does work bring any emotions out in you: sense of achievement, pride, satisfaction etc?

Are you passive in your social circle, do you feel like you can have fun on a night out with your friends?

Do you travel and does this make you feel happy?

Or do you think it's firmly rooted in being in a relationship and having to be part of that team that bores you?

Sorry lots of questions, just trying to get a handle on if this is part of everyday life for you or not.

For me, having been in a very committed long term relationship and out the other side I know right now I would not make a great partner as I would not have the interest to devote time to it or nurture it. In essence I would be passsive. However, all other aspects of my life bring out daily positive emotions in which I am fully engaged and extremely happy.

wiggle16

Mod:

Hi Completedit

I never like doing this, but you've started a number of threads in a similar vein lately, including here in PI. I would really strongly suggest that you seek counselling as it's clear you have very poor self-esteem in a lot of ways and I don't think this is something PI can help you with, definitely not in the long term. I'm sorry but I have to lock this thread.

Best of luck, honestly. Take care of yourself.

Thread locked.