Some lads and obsession with sex

completedit

What’s the story here? Talking to a mate of mine last night and he and his girlfriend had to break up a few months back. Since then he said the only thing keeping him sane is porn. Is this actually a thing? Is sex really that fundamental for some people. I feel we are thought to see sex as this amazingly epic thing and I just don’t get it, this lad gets with all sorts just to have sex. I don’t know how he does it. Some lads are more randy than others. Makes me feel weird sometimes that I don’t have the same sort of need to have sex. Would kinda like to have it because would act as a more of a driving force I’d imagine.

Sex is amazingly epic.

Guy:Incognito

Sex is pretty good to be fair.

completedit

Guy:Incognito wrote: »

Sex is pretty good to be fair.

Yeah but how good, like a rollercoaster good, a good cup of coffee?

I get that it’s good but in isolation, I’d never think I’d love to be having sex now. It’s not at the forefront of my thoughts or something I’m always honking about.

Signore Fancy Pants

I had sex once, it was awful.

Westernyelp

People have different Libidos. I wouldn't worry about it. Sex is great fun all the same

Sarahdunners

I generally think that the lads who are more desperate for sex, are the ones with the lower self esteems.

They are deeply unhappy by themselves, so they can only feel happy when they're in another person.

One lad talked to me about it - he said hat he felt so bad about himself , that he only felt good if he was having sex or drugs.

It is all about an attitude to sex. Many people who have fulfilling lives, are not desperate for sex. They enjoy it when they have it, but they are not desperately unhappy without it.

Sarahdunners

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Sex is amazingly epic.

For who? I know alot of women who have terrible sex stories:

Men pushing them into doing things they didnt want to do
Men being selfish
Men hitting them during sex.

I have heard women say that they have had really awful, scary sex.

Telly

Sarahdunners wrote: »

For who? I know alot of women who have terrible sex stories:

Men pushing them into doing things they didnt want to do
Men being selfish
Men hitting them during sex.

I have heard women say that they have had really awful, scary sex.

I’m a woman and I have amazing sex.

decky1

told my young nephew if he did'nt stop touching himself he'd go blind, I'm over here by the window he said.

Jym Smith

Sarahdunners wrote: »

For who? I know alot of women who have terrible sex stories:

Men pushing them into doing things they didnt want to do
Men being selfish
Men hitting them during sex.

I have heard women say that they have had really awful, scary sex.

You're probably the most transparent WUM on this site, give a break would you and spend your time doing something worthwhile.

completedit

Sarahdunners wrote: »

I generally think that the lads who are more desperate for sex, are the ones with the lower self esteems.

They are deeply unhappy by themselves, so they can only feel happy when they're in another person.

One lad talked to me about it - he said hat he felt so bad about himself , that he only felt good if he was having sex or drugs.

It is all about an attitude to sex. Many people who have fulfilling lives, are not desperate for sex. They enjoy it when they have it, but they are not desperately unhappy without it.

It’s sad tbh. I don’t know if it’s a self-esteem thing. I’ve a friend and his whole life just revolves around endless Tinder dates and talking about girls and getting with girls and just I don’t get it. He’s a smart guy, handsome, he’s an extrovert though and think he just genuinely enjoys the buzz of getting to know people and dating and sex is how he gets to know random birds.

izzyflusky

Sarahdunners wrote: »

I generally think that the lads who are more desperate for sex, are the ones with the lower self esteems.

They are deeply unhappy by themselves, so they can only feel happy when they're in another person.

One lad talked to me about it - he said hat he felt so bad about himself , that he only felt good if he was having sex or drugs.

It is all about an attitude to sex. Many people who have fulfilling lives, are not desperate for sex. They enjoy it when they have it, but they are not desperately unhappy without it.

Obviously not what OP is referring to when mentioning his friend but I would say sex is a very important life of men and women equally. The difference might be on the sex drives of each individual rather than their gender.

I'd be quite unhappy if I didn't have it and I'm sure there are plenty of women who would feel the same. Doesn't make you desperate though.

And in terms of good Vs bad sex, you could have the same experience with anything in life but it doesn't make the subject bad per se. I love chocolate and I've tried great tasty ones and disgusting ones...but ultimately I still love it.

Das Reich

Eastern and northern (everything north of France) europeans hate sex. They should live in some mediterranean or latin american country for a while if they think people here have obsession with sex.

completedit

decky1 wrote: »

told my young nephew if he did'nt stop touching himself he'd go blind, I'm over here by the window he said.

That’s another thing, can easily go 2 months without fapping and other times could do it all day, but the urge isn’t down to blue balls or something which I’m convinced is a myth

completedit

izzyflusky wrote: »

Obviously not what OP is referring to when mentioning his friend but I would say sex is a very important life of men and women equally. The difference might be on the sex drives of each individual rather than their gender.

I'd be quite unhappy if I didn't have it and I'm sure there are plenty of women who would feel the same. Doesn't make you desperate though.

And in terms of good Vs bad sex, you could have the same experience with anything in life but it doesn't make the subject bad per se. I love chocolate and I've tried great tasty ones and disgusting ones...but ultimately I still love it.

Yeah but is the itnamacy, the bond, the feeling someone knows you’re attractive or the act itself?

Sarahdunners

Telly wrote: »

I’m a woman and I have amazing sex.

So what! That is your story.

Does that discount the stories of the other women that I was talking about? No it doesn't.

You have amazing sex.
Many women I have talked to have experienced sexual violence.

They can both exist

Sarahdunners

Jym Smith wrote: »

You're probably the most transparent WUM on this site, give a break would you and spend your time doing something worthwhile.

Emmm, aren't you doing the exact same thing as me? Lol. So you are insulting yourself.

izzyflusky

completedit wrote: »

Yeah but is the itnamacy, the bond, the feeling someone knows you’re attractive or the act itself?

Probably a mix of everything mentioned and at different levels depending on the situation or mood. Sometimes the intimacy/bond is a huge part, while others it's the animal urge... I don't see it as something static or black and white but definitely a very important part of my life at least.

Sarahdunners

completedit wrote: »

That’s another thing, can easily go 2 months without fapping and other times could do it all day, but the urge isn’t down to blue balls or something which I’m convinced is a myth

I'd be the same - I could go without it for ages.

Then - if I meet some one that I really like - I want it alot with them.

So it is more about the person for me.

decky1

completedit wrote: »

That’s another thing, can easily go 2 months without fapping and other times could do it all day, but the urge isn’t down to blue balls or something which I’m convinced is a myth

think 'Blue Balls happens when ----let's say you don't finish the game.:rolleyes::eek:

Sarahdunners

decky1 wrote: »

think 'Blue Balls happens when ----let's say you don't finish the game.:rolleyes::eek:

That is a myth

Ubbquittious

Sure everyone likes an auld siagín

Sarahdunners

Jym Smith wrote: »

You're probably the most transparent WUM on this site, give a break would you and spend your time doing something worthwhile.

I'm flattered that you remember me. I don't remember you at all. Are you following me on different threads?

You have a little too much time on your hands

completedit

izzyflusky wrote: »

Probably a mix of everything mentioned and at different levels depending on the situation or mood. Sometimes the intimacy/bond is a huge part, while others it's the animal urge... I don't see it as something static or black and white but definitely a very important part of my life at least.

The act for you is probably so intertwined with the former it’s hard to separate them, for me though, sex for most of my life was just an idea, I think my mind got used to the idea that sex was something other people did, not me. Things changed, actually enjoy it when I’m turned on but even though my girlfriend is super attractive, I’m not always the one that wants to go

completedit

decky1 wrote: »

think 'Blue Balls happens when ----let's say you don't finish the game.:rolleyes::eek:

Not me anyway. I’ve got hard not finished and been grand afterwards.

_Kaiser_

Sarahdunners wrote: »

So what! That is your story.

Does that discount the stories of the other women that I was talking about? No it doesn't.

You have amazing sex.
Many women I have talked to have experienced sexual violence.

They can both exist

Haven't we had this thread already? All these anecdotes of others?

Good sex with the right person is amazing.

Sarahdunners

I love amazing sex, like everyone else.

I hate sex where I am pushed into doing things that I don't want to do.

There are many different layers of sex.

There is respectful sex.

There is abusive sex.

Ubbquittious

Sarahdunners wrote: »

I'm flattered that you remember me. I don't remember you at all. Are you following me on different threads?

You have a little too much time on your hands

Maybe ye should meet up for an auld cupan

Sarahdunners

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Haven't we had this thread already? All these anecdotes of others?

Good sex with the right person is amazing.

No Kaiser, it is a different thread. There is usually a thread about sex on here every week.

Telly

You seem to be very wound up, Sarah.

KathleenGrant

I am a woman and like telly above I also enjoy sex. I will admit that I am very lucky. I have never had a partner push me into doing something I didn't want. I know other women have so I am thankful for that.

blade1

Telly wrote: »

You seem to be very wound up, Sarah.

I think we all know a good cure for that!

McCrack

Telly wrote: »

I’m a woman and I have amazing sex.

Oh do tell us more

Sober Crappy Chemis

Serious answer:
Sexual desire and attraction is an extremely complex combination of social, hormonal, physiological and psychological factors and is one of the strongest drives in humans.

AH answer:
Everyone loves a ride or a tug.

Telly

Filth! The lot of yas!

_Kaiser_

Telly wrote: »

Filth! The lot of yas!

Sure that's all part of the fun

Telly

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Sure that's all part of the fun

Except for poor Sarah by the looks of it :eek:

Still waters

Sarahdunners wrote: »

I generally think that the lads who are more desperate for sex, are the ones with the lower self esteems.

They are deeply unhappy by themselves, so they can only feel happy when they're in another person.

One lad talked to me about it - he said hat he felt so bad about himself , that he only felt good if he was having sex or drugs.

It is all about an attitude to sex. Many people who have fulfilling lives, are not desperate for sex. They enjoy it when they have it, but they are not desperately unhappy without it.

Sarahdunners wrote: »

For who? I know alot of women who have terrible sex stories:

Men pushing them into doing things they didnt want to do
Men being selfish
Men hitting them during sex.

I have heard women say that they have had really awful, scary sex.

So because you don't like the ride all men who have a normal sex drive are desperate and unhappy with low self esteem who push unwilling virgin maidens into unwanted rough scary sex, the level of unreported rape must be astronomical

Still waters

Telly wrote: »

You seem to be very wound up, Sarah.

She needs a good bullin, the women get awful sound after a good bullin

freshpopcorn

Maybe you've just being doing it wrong OP!

bfa1509

I enjoy doing sex

blade1

bfa1509 wrote: »

I enjoy doing sex

I've a funny feeling you didn't write the Kama Sutra.

Sober Crappy Chemis

bfa1509 wrote: »

I enjoy doing sex

Such a wordsmith. I’m all a flutter...

Greyfox

completedit wrote: »

this lad gets with all sorts just to have sex.

Sex is wonderful but theirs a lot of guys out there that are overly obsessed with it. Those who are chasing sex every day need to realise theres other interesting things they could also be spending there time doing.

BENDYBINN

Sober Crappy Chemis wrote: »

Such a wordsmith. I’m all a flutter...

Leave him alone ....Shakespeare was no great shakes when it came to sex......

Pac1Man

Still waters wrote: »

She needs a good bullin, the women get awful sound after a good bullin

G'wan Bull.

Alecto

I am a woman and I definitely enjoy having sex. Having said that though the sex I have with my boyfriend is mind blowing, I honestly can't compare it to the sex I had before, so there is definitely really good sex and meh sex.

myshirt

The Preying Mantis typically gets its head bitten off after sex.

Despite this, what do they say?

"Doesn't matter, still had sex".

the_syco

Sarahdunners wrote: »

For who? I know alot of women who have terrible sex stories:

Men pushing them into doing things they didnt want to do
Men being selfish
Men hitting them during sex.

I have heard women say that they have had really awful, scary sex.

Sounds like these women prefer to date assholes.

KathleenGrant

the_syco wrote: »

Sounds like these women prefer to date assholes.

Women are mistreated but it's their faults. Wow!