Need advice on calling in 'sick' to work

MrMiata

I know how stupid this sounds, and apologies if this is in the wrong place.

I want to call in sick for work so I can go out with my friends.
We're all split up between some of us working full time and others in college.
They've all specifically booked time off to go out to this event.
It's been a 'tradition' for all of us to go out since our time back in school.

I'm in college and working part time in a shop.
I've been there 3 months, technically I'm Christmas staff but by all accounts I'm being kept on.

I would have just booked the time off but I know for certain they won't allow it as we can't book off anytime around Christmas - nor can we ask to swap shifts.
So my only option is to call in 'sick'.

I hate doing it, I don't particularly want to put unnecessary stress on my colleagues but I know they have extra staff on around that time, it's just I should be there.

But out of all the days in the year that's the day I want off, I won't see my mates for months after as they go into the second half of final year and off on J1s and that sort of craic, it's routinely been the best night out of the year.

I'm planning on calling early in the morning saying I've been up vomiting all night.
I'll call the following day to say I'm still unwell - I can't drive that early after a night out, and if I say I'll come in for closing they'll just use that as a "aha! I knew you weren't sick!'.

I'm a decent worker, or so I'm told.
I go in on time, I do my work, I go the extra mile to make sure things are done well and I help out..
I've never had a complaint and reason I know I'm being kept on is because everyone else says I'm the only competent new fella they've taken on.
I'm also on of the few who's stayed, they've all quit - none were fired.

I don't know how to go about it.
Is my 'plan' alright? I'm at least giving them time to get a replacement if needs be - I doubt it as they have extra staff on around that time.

Any suggestions?

amdublin

You are taking two days off work sick so you can go out drinking with friends????

Christ almighty. Are you for real.

Here is a suggestion:
Go out with your friends. Don't go too mental (or do, whatever, up to you) and go into work the next day. Yeah you might have a bit of hangover, put your big girl or boy knickers on, slap a smile on your face, drink coke, eat grease and chocolate all day, and get through it.

It is what adults do. Seriously, are you going to call in sick every time you go out with friends???

Summary:
You're not sick. Go to work.

ZX7R

Try take some responsibility for your self
Nothing to stop you meeting your mates but your a big boy now ,no more breast milk get up and go to work the next day.
Just to point out to you there is extra staff hired because it's Christmas a busy time for most business.

MrMiata

amdublin wrote: »

You are taking two days off work sick so you can go out drinking with friends????

Christ almighty. Are you for real.

Here is a suggestion:
Go out with your friends. Don't go too mental (or do, whatever, up to you) and go into work the next day. Yeah you might have a bit of hangover, put your big girl or boy knickers on, slap a smile on your face, drink coke, eat grease and chocolate all day, and get through it.

It is what adults do. Seriously, are you going to call in sick every time you go out with friends???

Summary:
You're not sick. Go to work.

I can't go to work the next day because I'll have to be on the road early, I'm not chancing an hours drive after a night of pints.
I've no problem with hangovers, I'll probably be clearing out the garage the day after.

I don't go out very often at all, I commute to college so I don't go out when at college and since everyones in college or working, and I'm working weekends there's no going out on weekends either.
I haven't drank in a solid 6 months and I haven't been out with the lads in close to a year.

I'd go in the morning after if I could get a lift but I live an hour away while everyone else is under half that.
Parents will be working and it'd be suspicious getting a lift from my parents for the first time ever the time after I called in sick.

I had plans to wait and go into work later for closing but my parents said that's worse than not going in, they'll know I'm not sick, they'll put me at ****e work because they know and I'll get screwed over down the line for shifts and what not.

It's the driving that's the main issue, I'm not driving at that hour after a night out and I'm not going out and not drinking.

MrMiata

ZX7R wrote: »

Try take some responsibility for your self
Nothing to stop you meeting your mates but your a big boy now ,no more breast milk get up and go to work the next day.
Just to point out to you there is extra staff hired because it's Christmas a busy time for most business.

Go away with your talk about breast milk, I'm not a child, nor am I acting like one.
That's exactly my point, I feel bad because it's Christmas and it's busy.
That's why I'm looking to call in early, to give them a chance if they need someone to cover.
I'd happily go asking around now to see who could/would cover me but they won't allow that.
My options are to not go out or to call in sick and go out - I know what I'm choosing.

amdublin

Listen to yourself. Two days off work because you want to go drinking???

A big load of excuses ands stupid reasons to go drinking instead of work. That is what I am hearing.

It's your responsibility to get yourself into work. If that means not going out, or going out and not drinking well then so be it.

What about going out and taking it easy so you are ok to drive the next day??

I can offer you no more advice. You sound spoilt, childish and extremely immature.

Just go to work ffs!!!!

amdublin

MrMiata wrote: »

Go away with your talk about breast milk, I'm not a child, nor am I acting like one.
That's exactly my point, I feel bad because it's Christmas and it's busy.
That's why I'm looking to call in early, to give them a chance if they need someone to cover.
I'd happily go asking around now to see who could/would cover me but they won't allow that.
My options are to not go out or to call in sick and go out - I know what I'm choosing.

Why bother posting here at all?

MrMiata

amdublin wrote: »

Listen to yourself. Two days off work because you want to go drinking???

A big load of excuses ands stupid reasons to go drinking instead of work. That is what I am hearing.

It's your responsibility to get yourself into work. If that means not going out, or going out and not drinking well then so be it.

What about going out and taking it easy so you are ok to drive the next day??

I can offer you no more advice. You sound spoilt, childish and extremely immature.

Just go to work ffs!!!!

You can hear whatever you want,

I'm not a surgeon, no one going to die as a result of me not being there, hard to believe but my role as shop assistant is far from crucial.

My mistake for posting on boards I over estimated ye lot.

MrMiata

amdublin wrote: »

Why bother posting here at all?

Well because I didn't expect talk of breast milk for a start.
Nor did I expect this level of ****e.

I posted to ask for advice on how to go about it.
Should I be ringing first thing in the morning?
For the day after should I go in for closing or would that look worse than not going in at all?

amdublin

MrMiata wrote: »

You can hear whatever you want,

I'm not a surgeon, there's no one going to die as a result of me not being there, hard to believe but my role as shop assistant is far from crucial.

My mistake for posting on boards I over estimated ye lot.

You overestimated us for not giving you advise on how to call in sick, when you're not sick?

You just don't get it do you. Adults go to work, they don't call in to work sick when they are not sick. Every single day adults all over Ireland go out for a few pints, don't go too mental, and go to work next day. They don't call in sick the day of the drinking, they don't call in the next day. They don't let their colleagues down, they take responsibility for the commitment they made to show up for work at a busy time when everyone would love time off but can't get it.

Shame on you poster tbh.

ZX7R

It's the driving that's the main issue, I'm not driving at that hour after a night out and I'm not going out and not drinking.[/quote]

There is your problem,

I'm not going out and not drinking.

A strong whiff of self entitlement there .

Here's a suggestion for you book a taxi to work win win.
Meet your mates
Drink as much as you want,
And still go to work.

amdublin

MrMiata wrote: »

Well because I didn't expect talk of breast milk for a start.
Nor did I expect this level of ****e.

I posted to ask for advice on how to go about it.
Should I be ringing first thing in the morning?
For the day after should I go in for closing or would that look worse than not going in at all?

Go to work day of.
Go meet your friends.
Go to work next day - ask your parents to drive you/get an uber/get a taxi/book a b&b in town near work/drinking area

MrMiata

amdublin wrote: »

You overestimated us for not giving you advise on how to call in sick, when you're not sick?

You just don't get it do you. Adults go to work, they don't call in to work sick when they are not sick. Every single day adults all over Ireland go out for a few pints, don't go too mental, and go to work next day. They don't call in sick the day of the drinking, they don't call in the next day. They don't let their colleagues down, they take responsibility for the commitment they made to show up for work at a busy time when everyone would love time off but can't get it.

Shame on you poster tbh.

Now I think you're over estimating adults.

Or is adults a code word for some elite few/very good liars?

I've taken enough responsibility in the last 3 months.
How many times have I covered for others?
Closed when I wasn't supposed to?
Came in on my days of?
Fixed **** that wasn't my issue?

Frankly I deserve 1 night out.

MrMiata

amdublin wrote: »

Go to work day of.
Go meet your friends.
Go to work next day - ask your parents to drive you/get an uber/get a taxi/book a b&b in town near work/drinking area

I don't finish till 11,
I'll be travelling close to 2 hours away from where we're meeting.
We're suppose to be meeting at 6.

So I'd get there at around 1 - if I drive straight from work, so I can then be up for 8 the next morning to stack shelves.

I was looking at going in and leaving early but their 'policy' is you get put on less customer orientated roles if you say you're sick.
You go home if you're vomiting or passed out.
So that's a no go sadly.

But thank you for the response.

Fluorescence

Why don't you ask around and see if anyone will cover your shift, and then approach management and say "X has offered to work this day for me, is that ok?" If it's already sorted, they're way less likely to say no, and you don't have to take 2 sick days you don't need for the sake of a night out

MrMiata

ZX7R wrote: »

It's the driving that's the main issue, I'm not driving at that hour after a night out and I'm not going out and not drinking.

There is your problem,

I'm not going out and not drinking.

A strong whiff of self entitlement there .

Here's a suggestion for you book a taxi to work win win.
Meet your mates
Drink as much as you want,
And still go to work.[/QUOTE]

Maybe it is self entitlement - I work close to 40 hours a week while in college full time.
I'm on minimum wage paying for college, paying my parents rent and running my car.
I can't go out during the week, I live an hours drive from college, plus I'm skint.
I can't go out on weekends - I'm working.

I want to go out for one night, I want to drink for that one night.

Frankly I don't care too deeply about my menial part time shelf stacking job, I'm glad I have it but I've been told they're glad they have me, I clean the floors, I take in deliveries, I empty compactors and deliver.
They won't give me the time off, so frankly I'm enjoying myself with my friends.

MrMiata

Fluorescence wrote: »

Why don't you ask around and see if anyone will cover your shift, and then approach management and say "X has offered to work this day for me, is that ok?" If it's already sorted, they're way less likely to say no, and you don't have to take 2 sick days you don't need for the sake of a night out

Sadly not an option, I was suppose to cover another guys shift coming up to new years and management shut that down, they just won't have any of it.
That was my first point of call.

It's typical that I'm working late the night I want to go out and I'm on early the day after.
If I could change them I would.

I know a guy asked for time off and he was told, and I quote - 'you can f*ck off, not a f*cking notion', that was around 2 weeks ago.

ZX7R

MrMiata wrote: »

There is your problem,

I'm not going out and not drinking.

A strong whiff of self entitlement there .

Here's a suggestion for you book a taxi to work win win.
Meet your mates
Drink as much as you want,
And still go to work.

Maybe it is self entitlement - I work close to 40 hours a week while in college full time.
I'm on minimum wage paying for college, paying my parents rent and running my car.
I can't go out during the week, I live an hours drive from college, plus I'm skint.
I can't go out on weekends - I'm working.

I want to go out for one night, I want to drink for that one night.

Frankly I don't care too deeply about my menial part time shelf stacking job, I'm glad I have it but I've been told they're glad they have me, I clean the floors, I take in deliveries, I empty compactors and deliver.
They won't give me the time off, so frankly I'm enjoying myself with my friends.[/quote]



I have two jobs I work 7 days a week I've a son who is special needs I am unable to go out period.
Unless I have a temputure over 38 I don't ring in sick unless I'm sick.
So forgive me if I don't feel sorry for you and your night out with your mates.
Life is hard ,hard for people in different ways.
So instead of drinking you're self stupid with your mates, have a couple of beers and go to work.
You might surprise yourself and realize what it's like to be mature

MrMiata

ZX7R wrote: »

Maybe it is self entitlement - I work close to 40 hours a week while in college full time.
I'm on minimum wage paying for college, paying my parents rent and running my car.
I can't go out during the week, I live an hours drive from college, plus I'm skint.
I can't go out on weekends - I'm working.

I want to go out for one night, I want to drink for that one night.

Frankly I don't care too deeply about my menial part time shelf stacking job, I'm glad I have it but I've been told they're glad they have me, I clean the floors, I take in deliveries, I empty compactors and deliver.
They won't give me the time off, so frankly I'm enjoying myself with my friends.

I have two jobs I work 7 days a week I've a son who is special needs I am unable to go out period.
Unless I have a temputure over 38 I don't ring in sick unless I'm sick.
So forgive me if I don't feel sorry for you and your night out with your mates.
Life is hard ,hard for people in different ways.
So instead of drinking you're self stupid with your mates, have a couple of beers and go to work.
You might surprise yourself and realize what it's like to be mature[/quote]

Wasn’t trying to start a pissing contest.

Everyone has difficult **** to deal with, some are evidently worse than others.

But just because your situation is bad doesn’t make mine good, it’s still ****.

I don’t drink on most nights so I’ll be having 3-4 pints at max.
I’m still not getting into a car the next morning.

RiseToMe

Mate.

Stop over thinking it, I'm a business owner people call in sick, it happens.

Ring early in the morning, tell them you've been up vomiting since 2am and you can't keep anything down so won't be in.

Yes it's Xmas, yes you're on the rota because you are needed in but you want to go out and this is the only way its possible.

Woukd I pissed off as a boss? Yup but it happens. Sometimes you suspect ppl are ****ing about and aren't sick but for one or two days you can do nothing to prove it really

MrMiata

RiseToMe wrote: »

Mate.

Stop over thinking it, I'm a business owner people call in sick, it happens.

Ring early in the morning, tell them you've been up vomiting since 2am and you can't keep anything down so won't be in.

Yes it's Xmas, yes you're on the rota because you are needed in but you want to go out and this is the only way its possible.

Woukd I pissed off as a boss? Yup but it happens. Sometimes you suspect ppl are ****ing about and aren't sick but for one or two days you can do nothing to prove it really

Cheers thanks you.

I’d be more than happy to swap shifts (more money for me) but they won’t allow it for some reason.

I understand from your perspective how it must seem, I’m under no illusion that it’s a ****ty enough thing to do

beauf

MrMiata wrote: »

I...

Any suggestions?

Know your audience.

Not entirely sure what you were hoping from boards.

Work are not going to believe you anyway.

qwerty13

Or behave like the entitled plonker that you are, resign from your job, and let your employer hire someone who doesn’t behave like a useless twat.

I know we’re at almost full employment of those not claiming benefits, but Christ. The utter bang of entitlement off this 🙄

ZX7R

MrMiata wrote: »

I have two jobs I work 7 days a week I've a son who is special needs I am unable to go out period.
Unless I have a temputure over 38 I don't ring in sick unless I'm sick.
So forgive me if I don't feel sorry for you and your night out with your mates.
Life is hard ,hard for people in different ways.
So instead of drinking you're self stupid with your mates, have a couple of beers and go to work.
You might surprise yourself and realize what it's like to be mature

Wasn’t trying to start a pissing contest.

Everyone has difficult **** to deal with, some are evidently worse than others.

But just because your situation is bad doesn’t make mine good, it’s still ****.

I don’t drink on most nights so I’ll be having 3-4 pints at max.
I’m still not getting into a car the next morning.[/quote]


Op
It after 3 0 clock in the morning , you have reduced you're posts to foul language,
Why probably because your full of entitlement .
You're going to do what ever you want, doesn't matter what people on an anonymous forum tell you.
So if it makes your feel better ring in sick who really cares anyways

MrMiata

beauf wrote: »

Know your audience.

Not entirely sure what you were hoping from boards.

Work are not going to believe you anyway.

Exactly.

You’re probably right which is why I’m better of saying it over the phone rather than at work, looking to leave early..
I’d just be told to go outside and load up some briquettes, and if I need to throw up aim for the bushes.

I was planning on going in and leaving early but they wouldn’t let me if I tried so...

MrMiata

qwerty13 wrote: »

Or behave like the entitled plonker that you are, resign from your job, and let your employer hire someone who doesn’t behave like a useless twat.

Would you believe I’m apparently the cream of the crop.

It’s better to be a ‘useless twat’ for one day than to be a ‘twat’ or ‘useless’ for your whole life, I’m sure you know what that’s like.

Wouldn’t I just be defeating the purpose though?
‘I’m resigning because I realise I’m a useless twat, and you should hire someone less useless and less of a twat’, that’s not something a useless twat would say now is it.

qwerty13

MrMiata wrote: »

Would you believe I’m apparently the cream of the crop.

No. I wouldn’t. In a fit.

It’s better to be a ‘useless twat’ for one day than to be a ‘twat’ or ‘useless’ for your whole life, I’m sure you know what that’s like.

No. I wouldn’t. Because I’m not a useless plonker.


Wouldn’t I just be defeating the purpose though?
‘I’m resigning because I realise I’m a useless twat, and you should hire someone less useless and less of a twat’, that’s not something a useless twat would say now is it.

Yes, it’s the kind of utter utter ****e that a useless twat would say.

MrMiata

ZX7R wrote: »

Wasn’t trying to start a pissing contest.

Everyone has difficult **** to deal with, some are evidently worse than others.

But just because your situation is bad doesn’t make mine good, it’s still ****.

I don’t drink on most nights so I’ll be having 3-4 pints at max.
I’m still not getting into a car the next morning.

Op
It after 3 0 clock in the morning , you have reduced you're posts to foul language,
Why probably because your full of entitlement .
You're going to do what ever you want, doesn't matter what people on an anonymous forum tell you.
So if it makes your feel better ring in sick who really cares anyways[/quote]

It’s expressive, and censored.

MrMiata

qwerty13 wrote: »

Yes, it’s the kind of utter utter ****e that a useless twat would say.

You said it first

qwerty13

MrMiata wrote: »

You said it first

My god. You absolute child. You’d make Jay in the Inbetweeners seem mature.

I’m out, I hope you lose your job with an attitude like yours, and that a person with a modicum of integrity gains a job as a result.

thecowgoesmoo

Life is too short OP, call in sick, your young.

But I really don't understand why you need the following morning off to be honest. Just pace yourself or is there a house party afterwards you want to go to?

Mad thread. You'd swear OP was a doctor where shlt actually mattered.

Take the time off. A crappy part-time job you've only had for three months is quite literally meaningless compared to your likely last few years of this type of tradition with your friends. I have fond memories of that type of thing around Christmas and I'm glad I didn't miss any of it for some boss who does not give one iota of a fuk about me.


And to the rest of ye "adults" who in your wisdom work yourselves into the ground, learn to take some personal time off if you need it, and tell them that. You don't need to be physically sick to take what's in your contract.

qwerty13

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Mad thread. You'd swear OP was a doctor where shlt actually mattered.

Take the time off. A crappy part-time job you've only had for three months is quite literally meaningless compared to your likely last few years of this type of tradition with your friends. I have fond memories of that type of thing around Christmas and I'm glad I didn't miss any of it for some boss who does not give one iota of a fuk about me.


And to the rest of ye "adults" who in your wisdom work yourselves into the ground, learn to take some personal time off if you need it, and tell them that. You don't need to be physically sick to take what's in your contract.

You’ve fond memories of what? Someone else who wasn’t rostered having to unexpectedly pick up the pieces and do your shift? Aren't you just a complete prince.

qwerty13

qwerty13 wrote: »

You’ve fond memories of what? Someone else who wasn’t rostered having to unexpectedly pick up the pieces and do your shift? Aren't you just a complete prince.

Fond memories with my friends. You know, stuff I actually care about.

qwerty13

Continue to tell the OP to be like a ‘hilarious’ after hours dick then. This is PI. I know I’ll get infracted, but the pair of ye are behaving like utter selfish arseholes.

If you’re so obsessed with getting wankered drunk and trying to scam your job, why not just resign.

qwerty13

qwerty13 wrote: »

Continue to tell the OP to be like a ‘hilarious’ after hours dick then. This is PI. I know I’ll get infracted, but the pair of ye are behaving like utter selfish arseholes.

If you’re so obsessed with getting wankered drunk and trying to scam your job, why not just resign.

I'm speaking purely in the context of a part-time job when young. I'm in a country that doesn't celebrate Christmas so I only get the 25th off. I won't be calling in sick either side of it because it's a job that actually matters.

I really couldn't give a toss about some other 19-year-old doing a harder shift if I were OP's age. It is absurd to me that ye cannot remember what it's like to be young and still have all your friends around for meet ups, and the importance of those memories compared to pulling a sickie.

thecowgoesmoo

qwerty13 wrote: »

Continue to tell the OP to be like a ‘hilarious’ after hours dick then. This is PI. I know I’ll get infracted, but the pair of ye are behaving like utter selfish arseholes.

If you’re so obsessed with getting wankered drunk and trying to scam your job, why not just resign.

Its pretty sad that you think work means everything. Someone calling in sick isn't a big deal. Your there because your employer is profiting off you.

A lot of people's lives are so sad and boring that work means everything to them.

The Young Wan

MrMiata wrote: »

I posted to ask for advice on how to go about it.

And you're getting advice. Don't get crabby just because it's not the advice you wanted.

Put on your big boy pants, go out and see your friends, act responsibly, and go to work the next day.

qwerty13

Oh grow up. I hardly think work means ‘everything’. I just think the OP is looking for an excuse to behave like a selfish dick, for which his coworkers will have to pick up the pieces and cover him.

Yeah but you’re right, being ‘young’ and ‘making memories’ totally absolves him behaving like a complete self centred arse. Christ almighty.

I really hope the OP was a troll post.

thecowgoesmoo

qwerty13 wrote: »

Oh grow up. I hardly think work means ‘everything’. I just think the OP is looking for an excuse to behave like a selfish dick, for which his coworkers will have to pick up the pieces and cover him.

Yeah but you’re right, being ‘young’ and ‘making memories’ totally absolves him behaving like a complete self centred arse. Christ almighty.

I really hope the OP was a troll post.

They'll be grand. Your own life is more important.

Irishphotodesk

Can't believe no one has advised the OP ....or reminded them that WHEN they go out they have to ensure not a single person in his/her group can tag him on social media.

I'm sure after a few pints, phones will be out... Selfies etc.... Good luck with that OP.

You have already made up your mind, so it's pointless telling you otherwise, I think you are on the precipice of a moment in your life which could define your future... Your call on your life, but remember there could be consequences if you are caught out.... Which might make it difficult to get a job in the future.

OP... Just out of interest, do you know how connected your boss is in the business world ? Do they just have one shop, a chain of shops, do they have family or friends running businesses?

Go out get drunk... But if caught... Remember almost everyone here advised against it.

pwurple

No chance of your friends rearranging the night out to when you can attend is there?

If I commit to do something, like work, I do it. I don't like letting people down. Shop assistant or any other job, your absence will be felt by your coworkers.



However, it does seem completely daft that the manager doesn't allow swapped shifts. For this reason, I think they have almost forced this kind of deceit from workers. We all have lives and stuff comes up.


What is the sick policy? Is it a call or a text? Whatever it is, Follow it.

To be honest they nearly deserve a few sickies for their stupid shift swapping policy.

TheW1zard

Just remember to wrap up warm or you might melt

Johnny Sausage

some bang of entitlement

jesus christ, generation snowflake at its finest

beauf

I don't really understand why some places (or some managers) have zero flexibility when it comes to leave. Especially when it's some non essential job. It's just causes conflict where there should be none.

Tbh honest OP you could just quit and get a new job in the new year. Sounds a woeful place to work. Very Dickensian.

That said my days off getting battered are long gone I don't get the attraction of that either. Each to their own though.

Meauldsegosha

MrMiata wrote: »

Parents will be working and it'd be suspicious getting a lift from my parents for the first time ever the time after I called in sick.

If, and it’s a big IF, they question your parents giving you a lift just say you not feeling 100% so they offered to drive you.

Pulling a sickie one day is bad enough, pulling two is taking the piss.

woodchuck

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