red flags

Leg End Reject

Sardonicat wrote: »

My earlier point was that it's not always obvious if someone has an SEN or not simply based on poor grammar. Don't get me wrong, I'm grammar Nazi Supremo and 'official' documents or journalism full of grammatical error boils my p1ss. But here on boards or someplace like it, if people who have dyslexia or who just never really grasped grammar ( some people do just find it really difficult )want to post without breaking a sweat, then that's fine by me. Sure, some people know better and can't be arsed but that's their problem, not mine.

BTW, I was responding to another poster. What made you think that you had said something that offended me?

You quoted me earlier so I thought I'd clarify.

Leg End Reject

One eyed Jack wrote: »

A red flag for me upon meeting someone for the first time and taking an instant dislike to them would be if they came across a bit shifty, condescending or patronising.

Says the man who can't talk or make eye contact with a woman he doesn't find attractive. :pac:

One eyed Jack

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Says the man who can't talk or make eye contact with a woman he doesn't find attractive. :pac:

That’s why I’m conscious of it, because if they’re red flags for me, I’m certain they’re red flags for whoever I’m talking to

BuboBubo

Ppl who rite der Facebook komentz lik dis.

People who tell me their children are little angels - always the ones with pure brats.

People who go shopping in pyjamas.

Anti-vaxers.

Sardonicat

One eyed Jack wrote: »

That’s why I’m conscious of it, because if they’re red flags for me, I’m certain they’re red flags for whoever I’m talking to

Just wear a red jumper, Jack.

zanador

Wanderer2010 wrote: »

Laughing at their own jokes. Shocking insecurity.

I laugh at my own jokes because I'm bleedin hilarious

moonage

Deleted User wrote: »

It's = it is. Always! It's raining, it's pouring, it's snowing....

No, "it's" doesn't always mean "it is". It can also mean "it has".

Your Face

All ego and no balls.

Panthro

If I seen them on the street and they were carrying a large stick.
And on the end of the stick was a huge triangular or rectangular piece of material.
And that material was shaded red.

That to me would be a huge red flag.

Roger Hassenforder

Panthro wrote: »

If I seen them on the street and they were carrying a large stick.
And on the end of the stick was a huge triangular or rectangular piece of material.
And that material was shaded red.

That to me would be a huge red flag.

Bloody communists!

Moomoomacshoe

Biggest red flag: people who have no friends.

daheff

IAMAMORON wrote: »

I can never trust people who wear shades

how can you not trust blind people???

TomSweeney

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

And bootcut jeans.

As opposed to slim or skinny jeans ?

Wanderer78

Moomoomacshoe wrote: »

Biggest red flag: people who have no friends.

Some people struggle to make and maintain friendships, for various reasons

JohnnyFlash

The sorts who use their Irish surname when that planter surname has been clumsily translated into Irish. Usually the type of nationalist bores who would drive you to drink.

FishOnABike

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

The sorts who use their Irish surname when that planter surname has been clumsily translated into Irish. Usually the type of nationalist bores who would drive you to drink.

Not too bad if they would drive me home too ;-)

Mind you, there's worse things than being stranded in a pub

Casey78

A Dublin accent.

Ultrflat

Week hand shake.
Bitching about people behind there back.
People putting other people in groups of people.
Overwhelming sense of entitlement.

Gregor Samsa

Deleted User wrote: »

1.People who expect their views to be treated seriously when they haven't the work ethic to spend the two or three minutes of their life necessary to know the basics of the language they're speaking. Lazy people, in other words.
2. People who don't know the difference between Your (possessive case - e.g. your house) and You're (You are!!!!!)
3. People who think "It's" is a possessive case. It's = it is. Always! It's raining, it's pouring, it's snowing.... Your possessive case is a simple "its" - its windows; its properties; its grammatical exigencies. No apostrophe!
4. They're = They are (always). Their (possessive case) - e.g. their coats. There - e.g. over there.
5. I/you/they/we saw but I/you/they/we have (we've) seen. I/you/they/we seen ==> wrong!!!
6. I/you/they/we did but I/you/they/we have done. I/you/they/we done==> wrong!!!
7. People who get all defensive when crap spelling and syntax is seen for the sign of laziness that it is.

5 and 6 in particular are the biggest red flags in spoken English about a person's education and lack of work ethic. It doesn't look good at all, and most people notice even if they're too polite to say it to you.

• People who lecture others on correct punctuation, but overuse exclamation marks.
• People who chide others for linguistic laziness, but combine mathematical symbols to create arrows in sentences. Use your words.
• People who like to present themselves as linguistic authorities, but don't realise that all existing languages and dialects are the result of the corruption of a previous language or dialect. Almost every word in the English language is itself a spelling mistake from either another language or a previous version of English. The common mistakes of today will be the standard language of tomorrow. So it has always been, and always will be. Expending excessive energy resisting it is a quixotic activity.

People who look like Fred West, especially the women.

the beer revolu

People who ask me what I do/work at as one of their first sentences without any context.

An overly firm handshake is worse than a limp one, imo.

Graces7

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Some people struggle to make and maintain friendships, for various reasons

and some are natural loners..happy in their skin.

Wanderer78

the beer revolu wrote: »

People who ask me what I do/work at as one of their first sentences without any context.

An overly firm handshake is worse than a limp one, imo.

we define ourselves by what we do, its generally asked as a part of starting conversation, i.e. small talk

Graces7

people of any age who assume and aver that anyone of over 60 should be in prison aka sheltered housing... aaarrrrgghh!

the beer revolu

Wanderer78 wrote: »

we define ourselves by what we do, its generally asked as a part of starting conversation, i.e. small talk

I don't define myself by what I do.

It's a lame and lazy way to start a conversation. It's intrusive and makes me not want to converse with someone.

JohnnyFlash

Graces7 wrote: »

people of any age who assume and aver that anyone of over 60 should be in prison aka sheltered housing... aaarrrrgghh!

What about people who suggest you all be put down?

arybvtcw0eolkf

the beer revolu wrote: »

An overly firm handshake is worse than a limp one, imo.

.

Well that can depend on a lot of things.

I'm told my handshake is like a vice grip but I've been strength training over 30 years, Judo just as long (it requires massive grip strength) and always been a manual worker so I've got firm, strong hands either way.

I hate the limp shake of course, but worse is the idiot who gives a firm handshake then applies a second pressure to show me how strong he is.

I dislike someone who curses a lot, esp using 'cnut.

I don't like hearing about someone's toilet or bedroom habits either.

Spitting & smoking or both negatives for me too.

Neck tattoo's, blue/pink/green hair usually worn by fat feminist types and botox lips all send up a red flag for me.

IAMAMORON

Casey78 wrote: »

A Dublin accent.

Ah here, that's just being fussy.

Wanderer78

the beer revolu wrote: »

I don't define myself by what I do.

It's a lame and lazy way to start a conversation. It's intrusive and makes me not want to converse with someone.

its probably one of the most common conversation starters, theres nothing lame or lazy about it, it truly is one of the most common ways we define ourselves. how do you define yourself and start conversations generally?

riemann

the beer revolu wrote: »

People who ask me what I do/work at as one of their first sentences without any context.

I don't mind this, but then again I enjoy and am happy with my career choices.