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Relationship over with girlfriend I’ve child with

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  • #32
    AulWan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,653 ✭✭✭AulWan


    IGNORE. do not even respond to the likes of this bull. When your daughter is with you, you make the judgement call on whether she needs to wear her coat or not.

    But I call bs on it being "a mum she knows". Make sure she's not stalking you.


  • #33
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    To the surprise of nobody, she has already started the mind games. As you've already been rightly advised, don't engage with her on this sort of bull. It also goes without saying that you shouldn't respond to any of her provocations if you're annoyed/upset. She's only waiting for you to write something she can use against you and try to change the custody arrangements. It might be an idea for you to keep a private log, just to cover yourself. Expect to get more messages about you feeding her the wrong food, not looking after her properly etc.


  • #34
    AulWan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,653 ✭✭✭AulWan


    This is where you need to start as you mean to go on.

    You need to get it into your head that you are a your daughter's equal parent and you do not need the mother to oversee and approve every aspect of your parenting and interaction with your own child. You can be damn sure if you tried to do the same thing with her parenting, she would not tolerate it. So you mustn't or she will have you jumping through hoops to satisfy her demands, and I 99% guarantee you right here and now that as long as she has the attitude that you somehow are the second class parent and must answer to her, that nothing you will ever do will be good enough.

    There will be important things you will need to decide between you, down the road, but whether your daughter wears a coat or not, is not one of them. It's beyond petty of her to even write that down.

    Study "grey rock" method and "parallel parenting" as you're going to need them.


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