Close colleague leaving today .... have tears in my eyes ...

Hector Savage

... really dreading saying goodbye, I do NOT want to show such emotion in the workplace - I am surprised actually this has never happened before to me.

Trying my best to fight it, thinking of comedy ... etc.

I am opening this in AH as I'd like to keep it light hearted as well, so please resist moving this to Workplaces forum - at least for a few hours!

Smart Bug

Punch them in the cock. That’ll help lighten the mood.

mad muffin

Imagine them wearing a cock sock…

Hector Savage

mad muffin wrote: »

Imagine them wearing a cock sock…

!
funny actually ... it's helping...

Your Face

Burn down your workplace.

Tell me how

Don't say goodbye in public.
Go to them privately first and say your personal goodbye.
Don't be in room if they're saying a group goodbye, go for an early lunch or whatever.

Deebles McBeebles

Is it a complete goodbye Hector or will you see your colleague again outside of work?

kunst nugget

Hector Savage wrote: »

... really dreading saying goodbye, I do NOT want to show such emotion in the workplace - I am surprised actually this has never happened before to me.

Trying my best to fight it, thinking of comedy ... etc.

I am opening this in AH as I'd like to keep it light hearted as well, so please resist moving this to Workplaces forum - at least for a few hours!

Pretend they're a muslim refugee. You've no problem telling them to fook off

Hector Savage

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Is it a complete goodbye Hector or will you see your colleague again outside of work?

Not likely, he is going to Holland...

amcalester

Sounds like you want to drop the hand.

I say go for it. What’s the worse that could happen.

brevity

Hector Savage wrote: »

Not likely, he is going to Holland...

Flights are cheap to Holland. And now you have a free gaff to crash in!

facehugger99

Tell me how wrote: »

Don't say goodbye in public.
Go to them privately first and say your personal goodbye.
Don't be in room if they're saying a group goodbye, go for an early lunch or whatever.

Maybe follow them into the toilets.

Infernal Racket

Have you been together long?

Hector Savage

brevity wrote: »

Flights are cheap to Holland. And now you have a free gaff to crash in!

He was saying the same, but realistically people tend to lose contact, we had another close colleague that left last year - he stayed in the city and we've only managed to meet up once!

Hector Savage

kunst nugget wrote: »

Pretend they're a muslim refugee. You've no problem telling them to fook off

Brilliant

Deebles McBeebles

brevity wrote: »

Flights are cheap to Holland. And now you have a free gaff to crash in!

My thoughts exactly.

corner of hells

Hector Savage wrote: »

He was saying the same, but realistically people tend to lose contact, we had another close colleague that left last year - he stayed in the city and we've only managed to meet up once!

It seems like you're the common denominator here ,OP .
People keep leaving around you.
Do you cook fish in the canteen microwave or wreck the toilets with giant ****es ?

weldoninhio

Hector Savage wrote: »

Not likely, he is going to Holland...

Just tell him you love him and try to pin the lips on him. This is your last chance.

chrissb8

Put on Soft Cell-Say Hello, Wave Goodbye and stare at your stapler all melancholy like.

Deebles McBeebles

Whatever you do, do not think about the lyrics to Nothing Compares 2 U.

EmmetSpiceland

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Whatever you do, do not think about the lyrics to Nothing Compares 2 U.

Or Leaving on a Jet Plane!

Stay strong, H.

Hector Savage

He's left the building folks ... left the building all OK .
Had some beers and a manly hug !!! All the lads in the office !
He was the most emotional at the end of it all!

Good to push feelings away and hide them, will all come to a head when I have my nervous breakdown in 5 years time!!!

Manly MEN don't have feelings!!

RMAOK

Hector Savage wrote: »

He's left the building folks ... left the building all OK .
Had some beers and a manly hug !!! All the lads in the office !
He was the most emotional at the end of it all!

Good to push feelings away and hide them, will all come to a head when I have my nervous breakdown in 5 years time!!!

Manly MEN don't have feelings!!

That's the spirit - NO SIGN OF WEAKNESS !!!!!

debok

Did you lob the gob?

Baron Kurtz

Gary Cooper. Now there was a man..

amcalester

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

Gary Cooper. Now there was a man..

What ever happened to the strong silent type?

Tell me how

Hector Savage wrote: »

He's left the building folks ... left the building all OK .
Had some beers and a manly hug !!! All the lads in the office !
He was the most emotional at the end of it all!

Good to push feelings away and hide them, will all come to a head when I have my nervous breakdown in 5 years time!!!

Manly MEN don't have feelings!!

And so, you're 'friend' has gotten his answer. He thought about it for so long. Ye were close, closer than he was with his ex dammit but you never took him up on the offer to become something more. He never said it out straight, but, he did make his feelings clear. He started to think maybe it was just him who felt this way but he was sure it was mutual. Wasn't it?
That was when he decided to leave and move abroad, forcing you to confront your feelings on that final day as he knew that that would be when you would come closest to realising what was walking out of your life, for ever.
He knew that in that moment, either you would realise what you were missing out on and allow the barriers to fall and plead with him not to go, or to take you with him, or you would push all those feelings deep down and act like nothing was happening. If not, then at least he would be in another country to deal with the heartache of losing what might have been.

Unfortunately for your friend, he didn't realise you would have Boards to turn to to guide you through this moment of reckoning so that you could come through, ultimately unfulfilled, but at least with nobody talking about you on Monday morning.

Go now, if I've seen this film before, you'll get him at the airport (hopefully before he goes through security as it would be a b*tch to have to buy a ticket just to be with your soulmate).

Purple Mountain

Sniff.

Lux23

It always happens to me even if I am not that close to the person!

kunst nugget

Lux23 wrote: »

It always happens to me even if I am not that close to the person!

You need to invest in some deodorant then, ya smelly bollix.

corner of hells

Lux23 wrote: »

It always happens to me even if I am not that close to the person!

Happens to me too.
It even happened the night , I may or not have spent in a Garda station cell when one Garda was retiring and the other was emigrating.
Was a good night as I wished them godspeed on their journeys.

Hector Savage

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

Gary Cooper. Now there was a man..

The Strong Silent Type .....

Cee-Jay-Cee

Give them a really cringey present like a scented candle or aftershave from Aldi/Lidl. It’s says ‘I love you but only a little bit’. If your colleague is female and you are male, drop the hand on her. Chicks love that.

jcorr

Tell me how wrote: »

And so, you're 'friend' has gotten his answer. He thought about it for so long. Ye were close, closer than he was with his ex dammit but you never took him up on the offer to become something more. He never said it out straight, but, he did make his feelings clear. He started to think maybe it was just him who felt this way but he was sure it was mutual. Wasn't it?
That was when he decided to leave and move abroad, forcing you to confront your feelings on that final day as he knew that that would be when you would come closest to realising what was walking out of your life, for ever.
He knew that in that moment, either you would realise what you were missing out on and allow the barriers to fall and plead with him not to go, or to take you with him, or you would push all those feelings deep down and act like nothing was happening. If not, then at least he would be in another country to deal with the heartache of losing what might have been.

Unfortunately for your friend, he didn't realise you would have Boards to turn to to guide you through this moment of reckoning so that you could come through, ultimately unfulfilled, but at least with nobody talking about you on Monday morning.

Go now, if I've seen this film before, you'll get him at the airport (hopefully before he goes through security as it would be a b*tch to have to buy a ticket just to be with your soulmate).

I was thinking it was like a romance novel!

ILoveYourVibes

Don't them leave tie them to their chair!

Cee-Jay-Cee

Tell me how wrote: »

And so, you're 'friend' has gotten his answer. He thought about it for so long. Ye were close, closer than he was with his ex dammit but you never took him up on the offer to become something more. He never said it out straight, but, he did make his feelings clear. He started to think maybe it was just him who felt this way but he was sure it was mutual. Wasn't it?
That was when he decided to leave and move abroad, forcing you to confront your feelings on that final day as he knew that that would be when you would come closest to realising what was walking out of your life, for ever.
He knew that in that moment, either you would realise what you were missing out on and allow the barriers to fall and plead with him not to go, or to take you with him, or you would push all those feelings deep down and act like nothing was happening. If not, then at least he would be in another country to deal with the heartache of losing what might have been.

Unfortunately for your friend, he didn't realise you would have Boards to turn to to guide you through this moment of reckoning so that you could come through, ultimately unfulfilled, but at least with nobody talking about you on Monday morning.

Go now, if I've seen this film before, you'll get him at the airport (hopefully before he goes through security as it would be a b*tch to have to buy a ticket just to be with your soulmate).

‘The Office’ mixed with ‘Friends’.

Infernal Racket

What the hell happened, did you make it to the airport? Please tell me your currently in each others arms?

The Tetrarch

The thing that bonds people at work is they get paid there.

Odhinn

Hector Savage wrote: »

... really dreading saying goodbye, I do NOT want to show such emotion in the workplace - I am surprised actually this has never happened before to me.

Trying my best to fight it, thinking of comedy ... etc.

I am opening this in AH as I'd like to keep it light hearted as well, so please resist moving this to Workplaces forum - at least for a few hours!

A few bothered me over the years when they went, but it was only when they were gone I realised just how much I missed them.

Tell me how

The Tetrarch wrote: »

The thing that bonds people at work is they get paid there.

Many people spend more time with colleagues than they do partners, its not surprising that relationships of varying degrees of connection are made there.

Salt Lake Stallion

Happened me a few times throughout the years in various jobs, now I'm struggling to remember some of their names. Strange how people can make such an impact on your life and seem so important but ultimately you never see most of them ever again once they move on.

blinding

Salt Lake Stallion wrote: »

Happened me a few times throughout the years in various jobs, now I'm struggling to remember some of their names. Strange how people can make such an impact on your life and seem so important but ultimately you never see most of them ever again once they move on.

It was like that for me when I was an Undertaker . They never phone / email / nada .

RMAOK

blinding wrote: »

It was like that for me when I was an Undertaker . They never phone / email / nada .

Dead silence, was it?

SCOOP 64

Can never see me getting that close to a work colleague that i would be upset with them leaving, if it was my wife leaving then i would be very upset for a couple of weeks.

YFlyer

It be a disaster if your boards name was Mike the Bull Savage.

Irishphotodesk

RMAOK wrote: »

Dead silence, was it?

Maybe they were ghosting him

Strumms

It’s worse when it’s a work ‘acquaintance’ who you know is an alright person but whom you also know you will never bother seeing again, they are making a 20 minute Carlsberg infused Oscar type speech and you are making such an effort to smile you already decided to go on the shorts to numb the pain.

Nevin Parsnipp

Some guy at work is leaving...and you go on BOARDS to sweat it out ?..You need help...friendo !

I see sheep

Nevin Parsnipp wrote: »

Some guy at work is leaving...and you go on BOARDS to sweat it out ?..You need help...friendo !

He doesn't have the making of a varsity athlete

Canis Lupus

RMAOK wrote: »

Dead silence, was it?

Once the screaming quietened down after a day or so.

Hector Savage

Depressing seeing his empty desk when I arrived in this morning ...

But another colleague has nicked the spot, so that's good ... pushes it out of sight at least.
But yeah, feeling better allready, and it's only day 1 without him ... jaysus thats bad !!!

Now I'm off to catch up on the ****eing thread