Being approached by people of the same sex

How Soon Is Now

I might of talked about this on here before i cant remember?

Anyway im sure its happened to plenty of us on a night out or whatever at some point in our lives?

Its actually happened to me a good few times over the years and i never really took it that seriously kinda took it as a compliment or whatever!.

Still i do often wonder what brought it on in the first place. Personally there's nothing im aware of that would give the impression im not straight
I know not all gay men go around with a sign saying ''Gay'' but ya i think its fairly obvious i am who i am!

I had friends in the past who are gay male and female and i was once or twice in gay bars with them. Each time i was approached by men.

I made a joke of the whole thing really took it well i know not everyone would! Even after one guy followed me around for while insisting he wanted to turn me! Lets just say my girlfriend at the time wasn't to happy!.

There have been other occasions as well but ya you get the picture.

So anyways is this a common thing to happen?

Id be curious to see what people think is the reason for it as well especially if its more then a once off.

Woke Hogan

Is that picture of Morrissey? He is a homosexual.

How Soon Is Now

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Is that picture of Morrissey? He is a homosexual.

Its a mystery what Morrissey is to be fair but ya :pac:

One eyed Jack

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

So anyways is this a common thing to happen?

Id be curious to see what people think is the reason for it as well especially if its more then a once off.

Is it common that a fella would be approached in a gay bar? I would think so

The reason for it? You’re a fella, in a gay bar.

How Soon Is Now

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Is it common that a fella would be approached in a gay bar? I would think so

The reason for it? You’re a fella, in a gay bar.

:pac: I knew id get that haha. I can understand it in there to a degree but even after you make it clear your straight and then for it to happen in numerous other places. Some where outside of Ireland as well.

Few times. Took it as a compliment and reflected on how much easier it would be to get laid if I could do it.

Wibbs

Has never happened to me TBH. Even in a Gay bar. Maybe I missed it, but I doubt it as blokes are rarely subtle in such matters. It seems Gay lads just don't like me in that way.

corner of hells

Wibbs wrote: »

Has never happened to me TBH. Even in a Gay bar. Maybe I missed it, but I doubt it as blokes are rarely subtle in such matters. It seems Gay lads just don't like me in that way.

Same as myself , even the Christian brothers and priests payed no attention to me when I was growing up.
Then again I'm an ugly fecker.

Floppybits

Eh if you are in a gay bar then I guess the folks are going to assume your gay. Has it ever happened to you outside of a gay bar?

lbc2019

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

:pac: I knew id get that haha. I can understand it in there to a degree but even after you make it clear your straight and then for it to happen in numerous other places. Some where outside of Ireland as well.

They didn't spread the word???

suicide_circus

i was propositioned in graphic terms in a gay bar once. you guys have it lucky let me tell ye.

How Soon Is Now

Floppybits wrote: »

Eh if you are in a gay bar then I guess the folks are going to assume your gay. Has it ever happened to you outside of a gay bar?

Ya like i mentioned above its happened a few other times outside of there territory

lbc2019

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Ya like i mentioned above its happened a few other times outside of there territory

Had you a handkerchief in your back pocket?

How Soon Is Now

lbc2019 wrote: »

They didn't spread the word???

Nope ha! the fact i was with a woman and kissed her a few times didnt seem to matter either

lbc2019

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Nope ha! the fact i was with a woman and kissed her a few times didnt seem to matter either

Playing hard to get???

Why can't they get when no means no?

pgj2015

yes a couple of times, didnt take it as a compliment as men will ride anyone most of the time.

Sleepy

Deleted User wrote: »

Few times. Took it as a compliment and reflected on how much easier it would be to get laid if I could do it.

QFT

I dunno if I'm just more attractive to gay men than to straight women or if there's something of the old Catholic guilt affecting women more but I don't think I've ever been in a gay or gay friendly bar where I wouldn't have had options as to whom I'd be going home with were I that way inclined. It made me quite jealous of my gay friends tbh!

.......

Happened me in a gay bar, I am a woman and an absolutely stunning looking woman asked me if I was single and looking to mingle. She looked like Nicole Kidman.

To this day I regret I didnt take her up on the offer.

But back in day experimentation wasnt as common as it would be now.

How Soon Is Now

See i understand theres obviously a greater chance of it happening in a gay bar for obvious reasons!


Its more the other places and situations that wouldn't be as obvious.

Tell me how

Happened to me twice. One in regular bar and second at a wedding. Both times I took it as a compliment and thought that gay men's chat up approach is streets ahead of our straight neanderthal game.

Ragnar Lothbrok

Never happened to me. I've never been to a gay bar though.

If you make it clear you're not interested in someone, that should be accepted, whatever your sexuality.

Tell me how

Tell me how wrote: »

Happened to me twice. One in regular bar and second at a wedding. Both times I took it as a compliment and thought that gay men's chat up approach is streets ahead of our straight neanderthal game.

I've never been chatted up by a woman. I don't think you straight men are in anyway neanderthal with your approach. There is enough negativity towards you in our current culture without being hard on yourselves

How Soon Is Now

Ragnar Lothbrok wrote: »

Never happened to me. I've never been to a gay bar though.

If you make it clear you're not interested in someone, that should be accepted, whatever your sexuality.

See heres where ive noticed a pattern.

When ive been approached by girls in the past nearly always when i wasn't single ffs :pac: I told them my situation and no harm done!

On more then one occasion though with gay men even though they knew i was straight and i gave them no signs there where ''doubts'' some wouldn't leave it at that.

There was the guy i mentioned before who wanted to turn me he bought me drink as well ffs lol. There was another guy who tried to kiss me we were in a group of other people as well!

This other bloke who i was kinda friends with when i was away for a few months who knew my girlfriend as well he would always randomly make remarks towards me and also he followed me into the jacks one night making comments on my dick.....

I didn't go out of my way looking for these things either :pac:

Bobblehats

Some curious replies I have indeed, been approached on various occasions which made me clench up somewhat and I did develop a staunch fear that can only described as homophobia?

I think it can be a useful tool in damaging a mans pride but I think the general consensus nowadays is feel free to flatter unabashed.

suicide_circus

Bobblehats wrote: »

Some curious replies I have indeed, been approached on various occasions which made me clench up somewhat and I did develop a staunch fear that can only described as homophobia?

I think it can be a useful tool in damaging a mans pride but I think the general consensus nowadays is feel free to flatter unabashed.

clenching around a useful tool, thats the spirit

Bobblehats

suicide_circus wrote: »

clenching around a useful tool, thats the spirit

I must admit me bum was flappin a bit

razorblunt

Twice in a gay bar (first two times) I went, didn't happen the third time and I was disgusted!

Tell me how

Deleted User wrote: »

I've never been chatted up by a woman. I don't think you straight men are in anyway neanderthal with your approach. There is enough negativity towards you in our current culture without being hard on yourselves

Maybe it's just my game then....

Apiarist

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

So anyways is this a common thing to happen?

Never happened to me. Probably you are just more attractive than a usual bloke. Do women chat you up in a bar too?

How Soon Is Now

victor8600 wrote: »

Never happened to me. Probably you are just more attractive than a usual bloke. Do women chat you up in a bar too?

Ah i wouldn't say that now! I mean im not ugly but i wouldn't call myself gorgeous or anything haha.

Ya women chat me up hasn't really happened as much recently but im with a girl nearly 9 years so id say they can smell it off me at this stage :P

To be honest when im out the last thing im looking for is strangers attention im just there to drink and have a laugh with me mates or whoever im with at the time!

sbsquarepants

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

i was once or twice in gay bars with them. Each time i was approached by men.

I think I've found your problem!

I used to regularly get hit on by blokes for some reason, I'm straight, not in any way camp or anything like that, wasn't in gay bars and I would most likely have been engaged in chasing fanny like it was being outlawed the following morning.

I haven't a clue why they'd go for me to be quite honest. (must just be a sexy motherfúcker I suppose:D)

Of course, this was back in the days when I used to get out every now and again:mad:

Tell me how

Tell me how wrote: »

Maybe it's just my game then....

I doubt that

TheValeyard

I'd take it as a compliment.

How Soon Is Now

Brilliant as always After Hours never change.... :pac:

D3V!L

A couple of times on the street. One time in the evening on the way home from work a man insisted on taking me out for dinner !!! :P

Second time, I'm on a night out with my girlfriend (now wife) and a lad jumps out of a passing car and tries to chat me up. My GF thought it was funny and the guy was insistent until I had to rudely tell him to f*ck off

bear1

Quite a few times by men, just told them no thanks and I'm not gay.
The worst is when they get insistent as if you'd suddenly say "ah yeah feck it shure why not".
To be fair though, I'm a ride so if I could I'd ride myself.

How Soon Is Now

Do women get this as much as men do or is it just stereotypical dirty men :P ?

Wibbs

Wibbs wrote: »

Has never happened to me TBH. Even in a Gay bar. Maybe I missed it, but I doubt it as blokes are rarely subtle in such matters. It seems Gay lads just don't like me in that way.

You don't have the gene :pac: Me neither. In 30 years of going to clubs, bars etc, never hit up by my own gender.

Gays folk can spot detect each other from 100metres. People call it gaydar (which I think is probably intended as a slur)

Bobblehats

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Is that picture of Morrissey? He is a homosexual.

No I think he just enjoys the ambiguity

Casting unassertions; that type of thing but there’s a good chance if he doesn’t get one himself then he sure doesn’t get the other.

biko

There's a club if you'd like to go
You could meet somebody who really loves you
So you go and you stand on your own
And you leave on your own
And you go home and you cry
And you want to die

corner of hells

biko wrote: »

There's a club if you'd like to go
You could meet somebody who really loves you
So you go and you stand on your own
And you leave on your own
And you go home and you cry
And you want to die

YMCA, it's fun to stay at the YMCA....

freshpopcorn

There was the bouncer who used squeeze my crotch. If that counts.

Zorya

freshpopcorn wrote: »

There was the bouncer who used squeeze my crotch. If that counts.

I'd say it does.

OP, you sound like you might be too nice and polite. If someone won't take a polite no for an answer, then let out your inner grinch.

How Soon Is Now

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Do women get this as much as men do or is it just stereotypical dirty men :P ?

I can almost hear the women sigh as they read this :pac:

freshpopcorn

Zorya wrote: »

I'd say it does.

OP, you sound like you might be too nice and polite. If someone won't take a polite no for an answer, then let out your inner grinch.

It also happened more than once. Normally when I was a bit pissed!

friendlyfun

A guy once followed me home once in a car. I was 18 at the time. First asked me "Do you want a lift" i said no, obviously. Then i walk on, he comes back down the same road in the opposite direction and rolls down the window and says "Are you sure you don't want me to suck your ****".

I hadn't a lift home that night, but i really wish that my friends took some better care of me in making sure i got home safe.

Zorya

friendlyfun wrote: »

A guy once followed me home once in a car. I was 18 at the time. First asked me "Do you want a lift" i said no, obviously. Then i walk on, he comes back down the same road in the opposite direction and rolls down the window and says "Are you sure you don't want me to suck your ****".

I hadn't a lift home that night, but i really wish that my friends took some better care of me in making sure i got home safe.

In the line-break pause there in that post, I've a feeling there's some kind of a spooky Netflix film that could be made?

Sardonicat

friendlyfun wrote: »

A guy once followed me home once in a car. I was 18 at the time. First asked me "Do you want a lift" i said no, obviously. Then i walk on, he comes back down the same road in the opposite direction and rolls down the window and says "Are you sure you don't want me to suck your ****".

I hadn't a lift home that night, but i really wish that my friends took some better care of me in making sure i got home safe.

That's awful.

Mr.Frame

freshpopcorn wrote: »

There was the bouncer who used squeeze my crotch. If that counts.

Thats called sexual assault

Your Face

Yeah, it happens to me all the time.
Both men and women are helplessly attracted to me.
I'm so f--kin hot - it's unreal.

imme

Tell me how wrote: »

Happened to me twice. One in regular bar and second at a wedding. Both times I took it as a compliment and thought that gay men's chat up approach is streets ahead of our straight neanderthal game.

"You had me at hello"...

What did he say to you?