Are you a good person?

Stacksofwacks

..or have people told you that your a bit of a dickhead?

realitykeeper

Stacksofwacks wrote: »

..or have people told you that your a bit of a dickhead?

Sounds to me you are doing a bit of soul searching. That is a good thing. When people say you are a dickhead, that may be hurtful but it means you need to considder the question.

One way of improving oneself is to constantly ask this question: How is this my fault? Even if it is really not your fault, it is useful to try find some way to blame yourself. The problem with something being someone else`s fault is you cannot correct another person`s behaviour.

Witchie

Am the best person in the world so you can all just f off and adore me from afar.

Stacksofwacks

realitykeeper wrote: »

Sounds to me you are doing a bit of soul searching. That is a good thing. When people say you are a dickhead, that may be hurtful but it means you need to considder the question.

One way of improving oneself is to constantly ask this question: How is this my fault? Even if it is really not your fault, it is useful to try find some way to blame yourself. The problem with something being someone else`s fault is you cannot correct another person`s behaviour.

I always go by the mantra **** what anyone else thinks maybe that can be the wrong way to go about things, I never go out of my way to hurt anyones' feelings

Sawduck

I think I'm a dickhead but everyone tells me I'm a good person,it's so frustrating

I don’t think that dichotomy of good or bad, dick head or nice person really exists.

We are all complex and what others think of us is really just their perception which has been influenced by their existing beliefs, biases and life experiences.

I believe myself to be a good person for example, but I know that there are some people who may not agree with that because they view me through their own unique lens which informs their (sometimes negative) opinion.

Feisar

When the The Fiery Cross is sent 'round I answer the call. That's all that matters.

Force Carrier

I'm personable.

pleas advice

realitykeeper wrote: »

One way of improving oneself is to constantly ask this question: How is this my fault?

I ask this a lot, but it just seems to annoy the person I'm asking even more...

Zorya

pleas advice wrote: »

I ask this a lot, but it just seems to annoy the person I'm asking even more...

And when they scowl at you, you say, "I've had my fun, and that's all that matters."

arybvtcw0eolkf

Like everyone else I have my flaws, but overall I'm a good person. So yes, I'm a good person.

JupiterKid

I certainly have my share of problems, including anxiety, self-doubt, perfectionism and occasional neediness, but I am told by others that I am a very generous, considerate, loving and thoughtful person who has good manners...

...so I would hope that, on balance, that would make me a reasonably good person.

Mad_maxx

Stacksofwacks wrote: »

..or have people told you that your a bit of a dickhead?

Just because you get told your an a55h0le three times in the one day, doesn’t make it true

Mad_maxx

Deleted User wrote: »

I don’t think that dichotomy of good or bad, dick head or nice person really exists.

We are all complex and what others think of us is really just their perception which has been influenced by their existing beliefs, biases and life experiences.

I believe myself to be a good person for example, but I know that there are some people who may not agree with that because they view me through their own unique lens which informs their (sometimes negative) opinion.

If you believe there are no bad people, I deeply envy the life you've lived

OldMrBrennan83

I'm good to the right people. To everyone else I'm the prick they deserve.

Atoms for Peace

I'm a total bastard.

leonffrench

Am I perfect? No. But do I try, every day, to be a better human being? Also no.

The Satanist

I don't care what they say

realitykeeper

Mad_maxx wrote: »

If you believe there are no bad people, I deeply envy the life you've lived

By their deeds you shall know them.

OneArt

Sawduck wrote: »

I think I'm a dickhead but everyone tells me I'm a good person,it's so frustrating

Frustrating? I find it useful.

Ariadne

I'm not the person I'd like to be but I'm working on it. I don't think I'm a really bad person but I could do with a bit of work alright. The moral compass is a bit skewed.

Immortal Starlight

Yes I'm a good person. I don't lie cheat or steal. I always treat people with respect and kindness. Bar a couple of times when I was a teenager the hardest drug iv done is tobacco and I rarely drink. My life experiences though have shown me that most of the time it's the person being a complete bad bastard that wins in most situations.

OldMrBrennan83

Immortal Starlight wrote: »

Yes I'm a good person. I don't lie cheat or steal. I always treat people with respect and kindness. Bar a couple of times when I was a teenager the hardest drug iv done is tobacco and I rarely drink. My life experiences though have shown me that most of the time it's the person being a complete bad bastard that wins in most situations.

Drinking makes someone a bad person?

Immortal Starlight

OldMrBrennan83 wrote: »

Drinking makes someone a bad person?

No of course not. When I do have a drink I love an icy vodka and there’s nothing wrong with that. I just meant that I don’t drink excessively.

Mad_maxx

realitykeeper wrote: »

By their deeds you shall know them.

Think on your sins

Ficheall

Sawduck wrote: »

I think I'm a dickhead but everyone tells me I'm a good person,it's so frustrating

I also think you're a dickhead. Hope that helps.

Icyseanfitz

am i good, probably not, am i bad, again probably not. Who can honestly answer if they are a "good person" or not. I try to be kind and empathetic to others, thats all i can do.

orourkeda1977

Essentially good.

Bit grumpy and weird sometimes though.

Church on Tuesday

It would entirely depend on who you asked I would imagine.

Pac1Man

I'm an 8/10.

branie2

I am

ToddyDoody

Toddy only looks out for one person.

Purgative

Really needs a poll

Gonad

I don’t think I’m a good person
























































I’m a ****ing legendary person !

Gimme A Pound

I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. xxxx

mzungu

Mercy Beautiful Garage wrote: »

I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I'm out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. xxxx

lainey_d_123

I've been told several times that I'm underrated. That I'm a really sound person, but I get overlooked all the time because I'm not loud/outgoing/cool. That's how i feel about myself, too, and it's draining. I see people who really aren't very nice people and do stuff like b1tch behind people's backs, cheat on their partners, generally act in a self serving way, and they're super popular and happy. It's frustrating. Especially when it comes to finding a relationship. It almost feels like a lot of people WANT someone headwrecking, who plays mind games, because they somehow find it exciting.

Pac1Man

Mercy Beautiful Garage wrote: »

But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. xxxx

All of the angels in the sky would be luky to have you working with them aswel babz. Xxxx I luv your tan in dat pic. Looks real, xoxo

Ariadne

Pac1Man wrote: »

All of the angels in the sky would be luky to have you working with them aswel babz. Xxxx I luv your tan in dat pic. Looks real, xoxo

Angles, rest is purfect bbz xx

Arghus

I think I'm reasonably good, but there's always room for improvement.

Gimme A Pound

Pac1Man wrote: »

All of the angels in the sky would be luky to have you working with them aswel babz. Xxxx I luv your tan in dat pic. Looks real, xoxo

aw tanx hun xxxxx ye I kno im no supermodel lol but beauty is on da inside xxxxxx

Arghus

The Satanist wrote: »

I don't care what they say

The Satanist doth protest too much methinks.

mad muffin

I’m a bad man

IamtheWalrus

As I approach my 40’s I’m increasingly consumed by guilt at anyone I’ve hurt in the past. It’s like my past is haunting me. I’m not even a bad person, just silly when I was younger.

Anyone else notice guilt increases with age. It’s almost like the older I get the more reflective I get and spend more time evaluating my life as opposed to living it.

Rosie Rant

I'm loving and kind and empathetic, at least I strive to be.

lainey_d_123

IamtheWalrus wrote: »

As I approach my 40’s I’m increasingly consumed by guilt at anyone I’ve hurt in the past. It’s like my past is haunting me. I’m not even a bad person, just silly when I was younger.

Anyone else notice guilt increases with age. It’s almost like the older I get the more reflective I get and spend more time evaluating my life as opposed to living it.

I've noticed that those who should feel guilty, don't. I know a guy who is incredibly toxic and has left a long line of destruction behind him. He has a track record of ditching people going through a hard time (including his best friend when her new husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, myself when going through severe depression and various ex-girlfriends when they displayed any kind of emotional need), he's done some really sketchy things (pressured women into sex to the extent of it almost being predatory, used sex workers in developing countries...) and he still manages to create a narrative in his own head that he's a good person. He's obscenely selfish and callous, but good fun to be around, so people try to believe the best of him until they can't anymore. I tried to point out to him once how much he'd hurt me by ditching me during a terrible time, and he just didn't answer or engage. Mad.

Stacksofwacks

I think the good outweighs the bad in me but there is definitely a dark kind of self obsessed streak in me, that sometimes I even surprise myself with. I think alot comes down to your circumstances and how emotionally healthy you are

Trigger Happy

I could be a lot better but the effort.
I am content the way I am more or less.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

I try to be, but it's difficult for any of us to know how others find us.

lainey_d_123

Kellan Itchy Grub wrote: »

I try to be, but it's difficult for any of us to know how others find us.

And is the way they find us even the truth? I'm very often misread because I'm autistic. My lack of eye contact is taken for being sketchy or dishonest. My shyness and quietness is taken as aloofness and snottiness. Sometimes someone's opinion of you can say a lot more about them than it does about you.

Tuco88

Well, apparently I am a prick. Not sure how that happened? but the answer was found in another thread. I happen to own an Audi you see... And the difference between us and a porcupine is, in an Audi the pricks are in the inside...

Oh.. and its a Diesel too dun dun daaa...

As a person im just behind Hitler and above the guy who invented the carpet gripper. So it seems.