Am I a prude?

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The fetish world is very very strict on consent. Anything goes - but only if you have sought and received consent first.

So I am thinking that neither of these guys are seriously into fetish. Because if they were they would know better than to just blurt out such things without finding out if it was also your kink.

So that points to them just being creeps. Block them.

Neyite

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The fetish world is very very strict on consent. Anything goes - but only if you have sought and received consent first.

So I am thinking that neither of these guys are seriously into fetish. Because if they were they would know better than to just blurt out such things without finding out if it was also your kink.

So that points to them just being creeps. Block them.

I agree. I'd say if either of them did happen to meet up with a woman with a real interest and experience in the kind of acts they are espousing, they'd run away like the little insecure inexperienced idiots that they are.



More than likely, a bloke who speaks to you like that is someone who's watched a lot of porn, specifically the kind where using insults and choking or gagging is part of the acting and this is their only reference points for women and have little or no experience of actual sex with actual women. Or it's someone who doesn't care what a woman will like or not. Either way, not worth expending energy on. Just block them both and move on.

Sephiroth_dude

This is not normal behaviour, I would block the two of them.

MissShihTzu

Wow! Sounds like you dodged a bullet there girl! These guys sound like a couple of inadequates with zero social skills and no idea how to talk to women. They would never dare to speak to women like that in real life. The problem is with them. Most certainly, not you!!

Just to give you some hope. Of course, not all men are like this. I met my husband online and he is the nicest, kindest, most respectful man I know. I would never normally have gone for someone like him, but we chatted for ages before finally agreeing to meet. Best thing that's happened to me. We've been married for 11 years now.

Block, delete and pass those fools like an exam. The right guy is there. You just need to find him.

Good luck!

blue note

I think people are underestimating the amount of people interested in that kind of dirty talk / sex. In my (albeit not extensive) experience, quite a few girls asked me to call them those sorts of names in bed. One of them a one night stand. It wouldn't usually do anything for me to be honest, the odd time i got into it, but I didn't mind doing it too much because they clearly liked it.

That said, I don't think and certainly hope it's not normal to quickly get there on a dating app. I don't think you can get a clearer sign than that that they're just looking for sex, so be grateful for that information anyway.

And it should go without saying, if you're uncomfortable with things before you even meet them then you're just not compatible. And I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.

jopax

How he wants to choke me and force his d**k on me until I choke on it.


I would block the two of them without any hesitation.

Before you block the first guy, I would send him a message first saying.

" I would love to shove a dildo in your mouth until you choke, you disgusting piece of s..t".

Panthro

Oh my god run like the wind away from them.
They sound like complete and utter ass hats.
Hapes of decent guys out there who are without daddy issues or the need to go round choking someone.

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blue note wrote: »

I think people are underestimating the amount of people interested in that kind of dirty talk / sex. In my (albeit not extensive) experience, quite a few girls asked me to call them those sorts of names in bed.

Well, there's a big difference between doing or saying things that your partner asks for because they turn her on, and unleashing potentially demeaning and threatening fantasies on a complete stranger in a way that's unsolicited and almost guaranteed to be unwelcome.

thenumber3

Hi OP, are you in a position to indicate what website or app you "met" these guys on? Very odd direction for chat from two different guys to veer towards. Way, way beyond general flirtation.

lulu1

OP do you go along with these guys I hope not I would block both of them and find yourself a respectable sit

wakka12

Did you accidentally sign up to a BDSM website?

Its not that common for people to talk like that to a stranger online

cloudatlas

Eh they should find out first if you are into that kind of chat. Can you imagine if you did meet up with these guys how much discussion there would be over whether their kink play was okay if they initiate chat like that without discussion?! Ditch these weird guys who don't know how to communicate.