I didn't cry

oLoonatic

So I got married a few years ago and my wife still doesn't let it go that I didn't sob uncontrollably like "all other men who get married" (and no i didn't shed a small tear either) . Maybe I'm just a heartless disaster but I find it odd that people in general cry at weddings. Unless you're crying because you massively regret it of course.

I can't be alone in this, can I??

oopsies

Cry me a river

Women without Makeup

oLoonatic wrote: »

Maybe I'm just a heartless disaster

Or an attention seeker?

Deebles McBeebles

I cry at all weddings. Its a sad occasion, like a funeral.

Gravelly

oLoonatic wrote: »

So I got married a few years ago and my wife still doesn't let it go that I didn't sob uncontrollably like "all other men who get married" (and no i didn't shed a small tear either) . Maybe I'm just a heartless disaster but I find it odd that people in general cry at weddings. Unless you're crying because you massively regret it of course.

I can't be alone in this, can I??

I bet if you could go back in time, you'd bloody cry now. She sounds like a right piece of work.

MarkR

Tell her not to try to apply arbitrary gender stereotypes to you, a self actualised individual.

grindle

I've been to rakes of weddings, at least 20 - not once has the groom wept, cried or sobbed uncontrollably.
Tell the wife to get over herself.

Deebles McBeebles

oLoonatic wrote: »

I can't be alone in this, can I??

To actually answer you, I have never seen a man cry at his own wedding. Is your missus watching a bit too much TV maybe and creating these expectations?

SEPT 23 1989

A man should be stoic at the altar

The Tetrarch

oLoonatic wrote: »

I didn't sob uncontrollably

Ask her did she notice all the heartbroken women sobbing uncontrollably as you got married.

Snow Garden

I cry when I am invited to a wedding. So expensive and boring!

Mickeroo

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

A man should be stoic at the altar

Gillette, the best a man can get.

Conall Cernach

The only wedding where it is acceptable for a man to cry is The Red Wedding from Game of Thrones.

Women without Makeup

oLoonatic wrote: »

my wife still doesn't let it go that I didn't sob uncontrollably like "all other men who get married"

yeah, if they're phaggots.

Banned.

Birneybau

Women without Makeup wrote: »

yeah, if they're phaggots.

You're nice

witchgirl26

I've seen some men get a bit emotional right at the start but never actually seen any of them cry. Neither have I seen any brides cry either. Possibly getting a bit too much from TV shows and movies in regards the expectations.

Fiftyfilthy

Only time I have shed a tear as an adult is my dog dying or immediate family

Find men that cry a little weird especially things like weddings, birth of their kids etc

valoren

oLoonatic wrote: »

So I got married a few years ago and my wife still doesn't let it go that I didn't sob uncontrollably like "all other men who get married" (and no i didn't shed a small tear either) . Maybe I'm just a heartless disaster but I find it odd that people in general cry at weddings. Unless you're crying because you massively regret it of course.

I can't be alone in this, can I??

Tell her you never cry when you're happy. And when you married her you were the happiest you'd ever been.

Smmmmmooooooth!

valoren

A legitimate reason for a man to cry at his wedding is when he thinks about what the whole thing is costing them.

theteal

Pfft, not a chance, the whole thing was a (very pleasant and entertaining) farce.

Now I will say that I got a weird rush of unexpected emotion when the little 'un popped out but still ne'er an actual tear shed.

pawrick

One of my brothers threw up with nerves getting to him at his wedding if that counts as an emotional reaction?

H3llR4iser

She watches too many soaps.

Also, op, I've got a feeling you'll need a divorce. You will be crying a LOT when the solicitor tells you how much it's gonna cost over the rest of your life.

Muckka

oLoonatic wrote: »

So I got married a few years ago and my wife still doesn't let it go that I didn't sob uncontrollably like "all other men who get married" (and no i didn't shed a small tear either) . Maybe I'm just a heartless disaster but I find it odd that people in general cry at weddings. Unless you're crying because you massively regret it of course.

I can't be alone in this, can I??

I'd be crying too if I ever got married.
Seriously for some poor misfortunes it was the worst decision of their lives.

Never got married and no intentions of either.
Nobody would have me, and I wouldn't blame them either.

So op there's nothing wrong with not crying at your wedding.
Because more than likely if you were happy out that day, you'd probably be accused of not taking the day seriously..
You can't win with people like that.

You're in control of your own feelings and emotions, nobody else is and don't apologize....

BrokenArrows

Ok got married and didn't cry. It didn't even cross my mind that I would get that emotional.

I love my wife and it was an amazing day but crying wasn't on the cards.

BrokenArrows

pawrick wrote: »

One of my brothers threw up with nerves getting to him at his wedding if that counts as an emotional reaction?

Anyone who is that nervous really shouldn't be getting married.

BattleCorp

I cried when my dog died but I certainly didn't cry at my wedding. Neither did she by the way.

Cordell

You will cry, just give it a few more years.

amcalester

No, I didn't cry at your wedding either OP.

GoneHome

I've been to dozens of weddings over the years, the one wedding where the groom cried (during his speech going on about how wonderful his bride was and how lucky he was to have married her), they separated three years later...........

Dial Hard

MarkR wrote:

Tell her not to try to apply arbitrary gender stereotypes to you, a self actualised individual.

Or to anyone. I'm female and I didn't cry at my wedding.

The Tetrarch

pawrick wrote: »

One of my brothers threw up with nerves getting to him at his wedding if that counts as an emotional reaction?

Those are the things people remember. Any fights.
The rest is just a blur.

Sam Quentin

That's terrible that you didn't cry.
Imagine it would have upped her profile and made her look good in front of her friends and family!?
Shame in you.

eviltimeban

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

To actually answer you, I have never seen a man cry at his own wedding. Is your missus watching a bit too much TV maybe and creating these expectations?

I don't think I can even remember a film where the groom cries.

Bigbagofcans

Fiftyfilthy wrote: »

Only time I have shed a tear as an adult is my dog dying or immediate family

Find men that cry a little weird especially things like weddings, birth of their kids etc

How is that weird? They're tears of joy, remember. You just seem to associate crying with death.

Crying tears of joy is such a great experience

PARlance

I'm not afraid to admit that I was glassy eyed and a bit fragile at my own wedding.






Was out drinking till 4am the night before.

Sam Quentin

Bigbagofcans wrote: »

How is that weird? They're tears of joy, remember. You just seem to associate crying with death.

Crying tears of joy is such a great experience

Tears of joy... Is that possible,.I mean really is it.. more like the head is hanging from a massive hangover and you're an emotional wreck,.the fear an all that lol :-))

Sounds like a bit of an "aren't women just awful" fictional opening gambit to get the ball rolling. A successful one too.

I've been to lots of weddings, the only people I've seen cry are the parents, the drunk aunties, grandparents, a lone speech-giver paralysed by public speaking nerves, and the occasional baby or toddler literally bored to tears.

jim o doom

I did not cry at my own, just the way I was raised, but I don't see it as a weakness.

My brother in law cried a little when he married my sister, and honestly I found it a little touching. But I didn't remotely come close to shedding a tear then either.

breffni bogballer

Seen it happen once,groom fainted and banged his head on marble floor,when he got up he was bawling

Bigbagofcans

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Tears of joy... Is that possible,.I mean really is it.. more like the head is hanging from a massive hangover and you're an emotional wreck,.the fear an all that lol :-))

Have you ever cried laughing? In my experience of 'tears of joy' it kinda feels like that but with a lot more emotion!

Deebles McBeebles

Candie wrote: »

Sounds like a bit of an "aren't women just awful" fictional opening gambit to get the ball rolling. A successful one too.

Ah c'mon its a light hearted thread, lets not bring it down to that. I've yet to see anyone being misogynistic.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

My cousin couldn't hold it together at his wedding at all, made it through his own vows kind of alright but lost it about half way through his wife's. I thought it was pretty sweet but knowing him there is a reasonably good chance a hangover played a part.

I cry at most weddings, but then I've also cried (more times than I can count) when I'm eating food that's really nice. Before Christmas It's A Wonderful Life was the answer to a competition question on Newstalk, they played the same clip 3 hours in a row and three hours in a row I had to go and have a little cry. I'm actually pretty stoic when it comes to bad things happening to me, funerals etc but my bar for crying at trivial happy or sad things is very low..

Can't think of any other grooms I've seen crying though, father of the bride a couple of times.

facehugger99

Various reality tv and ****e talent shows have conditioned people to believe that breaking down and crying over every minor event is quite normal, even to be expected.

It's fcuking ridiculous, unless your dog's died or you've been kicked really hard in the balls, harden the fcuk up and keep it together.

Marengo

Very very unusual thread!

So you didn't cry getting married. I'd say the vast majority of men don't. But cry a lot in a year or two!!

Church on Tuesday

Ah, Unholy Deadlock.

Marengo

Many don't cry when a parent or child does. But are dying inside.

People are different.

BeerWolf

Your wife watches too many movies and soaps... it's like boys expecting sex in reality to be like porn. :rolleyes:

jim o doom

I've had tears rolling down my face I was laughing so hard, yes.. but I don't regard that quite the same as "crying from joy".

I was probably crying from the pain in my ribs. I half thought I was going to die I was laughing so hard.

Marengo

Even in cheesy Four Weddings and a Funeral the men didn't cry at weddings.

Even duckface just boxed Hugh Grant.

Marengo

At a wedding where we all cried with laughter when the groom got the ring stuck on the wrong finger..

Bigbagofcans

facehugger99 wrote: »

Various reality tv and ****e talent shows have conditioned people to believe that breaking down and crying over every minor event is quite normal, even to be expected.

It's fcuking ridiculous, unless your dog's died or you've been kicked really hard in the balls, harden the fcuk up and keep it together.

Ah yes, the typical 'man up' response. Yeah cos not talking about feelings and not crying in front of others has really worked for men in this country :rolleyes: