I'm struggling badly

LegacyUser

Hi all

I'm having some problems. I don't have much going on in life at the moment. For work reasons, I left Ireland a few years ago for a project, and I didn't want to come back. I since went to another project in another country. I am an idiot and commit myself too much and to work, and feel defined by my work. For the second time, my project is ending, and I don't know where to go next.

I don't have a home. It's short stay apartments for the last few years, and I used to go back to my boyfriend of two years for weekends, but we broke up a few weeks ago. I just don't know what to do, or where to go.

I was really cold a few days ago, and took a hot water bottle to bed, and it was a bit frayed, which led to me burning my leg off of it - second degree burn - and it just hurt (emotionally) more than it should have Like - now I cant even get warmth from a hot water bottle.

I'm 33, not a child, but I'm quite tired of all this, and my opinion at the moment is that life can be not very nice. I don't want this. I have to go home to Ireland and be happy for Christmas, so, I suppose, I'm looking to see if anybody has felt the same?

Rubberchikken

youve dealt with a breakup in the past couple if weeks and that needs time to deal with.

sometimes i think when one crap thing happens a couple more things will follow.
its good that youre coming home for Christmas but dont feel you have to be happy all the time.
is there anyone you can talk to?

take care

splinter65

This is a horrible time of year for so many people. The days are short and dark and cold and the nights are so long. Families swarm around pretending that everything is fabulous, darling....turn on the radio and Shakin Stevens is insisting.. no, demanding that you have a Merry Christmas.
If you’re newly on your own with no fixed bolt hole to retreat to then life can look pretty bleak. Arriving “home” with a heavy heart to join in the forced jollity when you’d really like to just heal both your heart and your leg is more torture but look at.
Next week is the shortest day and then the days will be on the turn and there’ll be a new year and you’re still a very young person and maybe if you arrange a good holiday for yourself for June or July then you can plan for that as something to look forward to. Good luck.

Sunflower 27

I'm sorry things feel so bad. Your post reminded me of arriving in Ireland with nothing more than a few suitcases. Limited funds, no friends, no job, no accommodation. I stayed in a hostel in Temple Bar. It was a 4-berth room with only me in it. I lay in that room questioning what the hell I was doing.

That was 18 years ago this month. Today, I have wonderful friends, my own home, money in the bank. I also managed to go back to college and get a second degree and am in a job I love.

You had a crap moment, it happens. I appreciate everything I have now. I'm probably a happier person than most people I know for my difficult past.

Come home where people care about you. When you have no one, as I once did, that alone is the best thing in the world.

Things will get better.

kerryjack

Ya agree with previous posters Ireland is a dreary place this time of year. What about going to the sun for Christmas nothing like a nice walk on the beach on a fine sunny day to get your head together.