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I feel like I might have been cursed because uys never ask me out or approach me?

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  • #32
    Eric Cartman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,280 ✭✭✭✭Eric Cartman


    GoThere wrote: »
    Why is itstill not a guarantee that I will be approached?

    Are your short and repeditive replies a language issue or are you ignoring the post after post of good advice for another reason ?


  • #33
    valoren
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,602 ✭✭✭valoren


    OP beware of the self fulfilling prophecy.

    You feel that you are cursed, that no one approaches you. This radiates from you in your posture, your manner and your attitude. And when, unsurprisingly, no one approaches you this fulfills your own prophecy.

    Learn to like yourself, to appreciate yourself and who you are. Learn to enjoy yourself, to have a good time. When you are on a night out or at a social occasion, your immediate goal and attitude should be that you will enjoy it. When you do that you will radiate happiness, you will be relaxed.

    Speaking from a man's pov would I be better off approaching the attractive girl with a smile on her face who looks like she is having a ball of a time or better off approaching the gorgeous and stunning ice queen who looks like she'd bite my head off for even standing in her vicinity?

    So enjoy yourself first and foremost and when you enjoy yourself with someone you happen to fancy, if they can't pluck up the courage to ask you out, then ask them. They might even be thankful you asked.


  • #34
    Contessa Raven
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 642 ✭✭✭Contessa Raven


    GoThere wrote: »
    Why is itstill not a guarantee that I will be approached?

    Because nothing in life is a guarantee...

    OP, I don't want to be really harsh here but you are coming across like you are expecting to be swept off your feet by someone without making any real effort. You seem very defensive and closed off.

    If people on an internet forum who have never met you are getting that vibe, you can be sure that people you do meet are getting it also. And that will really hinder you when it comes to meeting potential partners.

    What kind of man would you like to meet? Smart, funny, loving, honest, confident and attractive would probably describe most peoples ideal, right?
    What kind of woman would a man like to meet? I'm guessing in majority of cases she would be smart, funny, loving, honest.... Do you see what I am getting at?

    No one likes an entitled, stand offish, lazy person as a partner. And unfortunately, that is a vibe you are displaying here. Perhaps I am way off the mark but I would guess it's your attitude that could be hindering your progress.


  • #35
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Contessa Raven wrote: »
    No one likes an entitled, stand offish, lazy person as a partner.

    Dammit..That must be where I'm going wrong..


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