Looking for opinions on this situation, please?

meadow1

Ok, hope this post does n't sound silly or childish to you all. Basically, the situation is this.

I was badly treated in a place I once worked in. I confided in a friend about this, and they were very understanding at the time about everything I had been through there, i.e. bullying, doing both my work, and other people's work, not getting all my entitled breaks, generally been made to feel not good enough. For my own sanity I left this job, and feel it was the best decision for me, because I did n't see things getting any better there.

I recently discovered that this same friend , has now accepted a job with this place, despite being adamant they would never work in a place like that. They are aware it is the same place I worked in before. I feel very 'betrayed'. (if that's the right word to use).

How would you feel in this situation, ladies?

Addle

I'd probably feel a bit WTF about it, but you can't help how you feel.
You can help how you act.
I think her employment is completely separate to your relationship and you should just wish her well and not dwell on it.

Pelvis

Betrayed? I think you should get over yourself.

erudec

It's natural to feel weird, but I presume that your friend has bills to pay and if the work is a good fit for her, then you've got to be a good friend. She's your friend, not your colleague.

meadow1

Pelvis wrote: »

Betrayed? I think you should get over yourself.

Typical keyboard warrior :P

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Cheers :P

meeeeh

You left the place because it wasn't right for you. It might not be right for your friend either. Or they might like working there. Whatever her reasons I you can't expect she will refuse an opportunity to earn income because of you.

Mars Bar

meadow1 wrote: »

Typical keyboard warrior :P

If you don't have anything constructive to contribute, kindly refrain from commenting, please.

Cheers :P

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bertsmom

Op if I was in your position and this friend is a good friend I would be inclined to wish her the best of luck in her new job. Sometimes what suits one person would mentally drain another.
I met my best friend years ago when we started on the same day in a manufacturing plant. I'm still there and like the job, the hours suit, the pay and conditions are great and will probably be there till redundancy or retirement. She on the other hand HATED the sight of the place, had a very difficult time there and our experiences of the same job in the same place are vastly different.
This does not and never did impact our friendship in any way we just laugh at the difference in our personalities and how we both are so wildly different. My friend left after about two years or so and fifteen years later I'm still there but we are still best friends.
Also a very large factor for anyone is paying the mortgage or rent and bills etc. I would do any job I could to keep a roof over my head and bills paid.

Jenneke87

She's an adult, she can choose herself where she wants to work. No doubt she will have remembered your stories and decided it was still worth giving it a go. In time she'll find out whether she was right or not. I don't think it's worth feeling " betrayed" over, as though the only choice she has was between you and the company and she choose the latter, but maybe keep an eye out in case she runs into the same kind of problems.