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Your seeds of self-confidence

  • 09-03-2018 08:46PM
    #1
    DunnoKidz
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    Can you pinpoint any sources for your feelings of self-worth?

    Perhaps a loving family member who always encouraged you? ...or a friend who never gave up on you? ...or did you discover your own inner strength though hardship? or work? or education? ....From whence did your self-esteem stem?

    Oppositely, if self-doubt plagues you, are you aware of it's possible origins?


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  • #2
    scarepanda
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    Self doubt - my mother


  • #3
    DunnoKidz
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    I can identify scarepanda, my mother was big on shame... :/ among other things.


  • #4
    metaoblivia
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    My mother was always very encouraging. Even when I do things that she doesn't necessarily like on a personal level - like moving across the country to California - she's been honest about it, but has also told me that I need to make my own decisions and follow my own dreams, and she hasn't held it against me at all (in fact, she wants to move to California now). She was an educator for 35 years, so she had a very good balance on being encouraging and letting my brother and I know she always loved us, while also being strict when necessary and making sure we understood that our actions and choices had consequences - but bad choices also didn't define who we were.

    As I've gotten older, I've really come to treasure the relationship we have because we're very close. We're going to Hawaii next month as a mother/daughter trip.

    As a young child, I was poorly coordinated, terrible at sports and had a speech disorder, so I didn't feel like I had very much to offer. By high school, I had overcome my speech disorder, but was still painfully shy and would not read a speech in class. I decided to join my high school choir to try and get over my stage fright. I had always wanted to sing and had taught myself to play piano, but with my speech disorder background, I felt like I wouldn't be very good as I had never been very good at anything I had tried.

    By the end of high school, I was the top soloist in our choir and had been accepted into one of the top 5 university programs for opera in the U.S. I still sing today and have won regional competitions, have been in numerous productions, etc. I can't imagine my life without singing, and those years in high school when I was laying the foundation - they weren't always smooth, and I definitely faced set backs (and still do), but it was a huge turning point in my confidence.


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