Benefits of staying single for life

girlwithq

Hi all

It has become apparent that I (and many others) that I will never meet someone. I have some baggage mainly health problems that is affecting my mood ability to do things etc. I have good and bad days.
It is not having children that is the hardest, with my health I would not risk it.

Anyway it looks like I will not meet someone.

For those who are single. How do you manage to be happy.

Caranica

Who says it has to be for life? Life has a funny way of catching up on us while we're making plans.

I'm in my early forties, have done the marriage thing, the relationship thing, the fwb thing but I'm actually happiest when single. I'll never say never, maybe someone will sweep me off my feet but I'm having too much fun to care.

Go out, have fun, live your life and who knows what tomorrow will bring, the exciting thing is that there may be a tomorrow Don't write yourself off but don't fixate on your relationship status.

RacoonQueen

girlwithq wrote: »

Hi all

It has become apparent that I (and many others) that I will never meet someone. I have some baggage mainly health problems that is affecting my mood ability to do things etc. I have good and bad days.
It is not having children that is the hardest, with my health I would not risk it.

Anyway it looks like I will not meet someone.

For those who are single. How do you manage to be happy.

Are you doing anything to meet someone?

I never understand how people can't be happy when they're single, being in a relationship is great..but, so is being single. Very easy to be fulfilled and happy with life while not in a relationship. Everyone has to find their own thing / things that make them happy and content in life.

When you think you couldn't be any more fulfilled, happy, content...then he comes along and you're all like 'woah' - thats the best.

LoMismo

Benefits are... you do what you want whenever you want. You only have to worry about yourself. It's wonderful. I'm nearly 40 and I could have a partner if I wanted but I'm just to set in my own ways and enjoy my own space too much. Everyone I meet at my age seems to want kids/marriage/live together etc almost right away, I can't hack that.
If you're going to remain single, focus on the positives. There are times where you may feel lonely but I felt way lonelier in my last relationship, the grass isn't always greener. I don't want kids or want to live with a partner so it kind of takes me off the market also.
The no sex thing is difficult but most of my married friends are having as little sex as I am too!

foxyladyxx

I did the marriage thing too and am done with it and am sworn off men for life.

I so enjoy being able to eat what I like when I like . .I don't want that to change

I can watch whatever TV programme I choose. .Hubby was always the one with the remote. Drove me bonkers

I can go to bed when I choose and put on spot cream and wear yummy onesies ...

I count my blessings every day . .hubby was a compulsive liar among other things. It got to the stage where I felt there was no point in asking him anything . .I never got a straight answer.

I can holiday where I want. .I can meet the ladies for lunch and even gents too ..but they don't get over my threshold. .No sirree . .Never ever again would I let a male into my life.

I am a spiritual person .. that helps a lot and I do voluntary work . .that is unbelievably rewarding ..

I am full of the joys some of the time .. but am so happy to have that man out of my house.

I am not perfect by any means. .I have suffered from depression. .

OP you may be depressed .. Any mental issues you have may be temporary . .

For places to mingle try the various meet up groups. .I have been out for meals with a meet up group and it can be good to put yourself ''out there'' in a social setting , Sometimes you may feel like you are missing out but when I do go out and socialise I often feel it is not all it is cracked up to be, ,

Sorry for the ramble. .I peeped in to the thread because I thought it was a humerous one but I got that wrong.

Music is a great way to unwind. .I play tunes on youtube,. .watch silly shows

I try to make a point of meeting/chatting to someone every day.

I believe I am incredibly lucky and probably wouldn't have said that 12 months ago ..A lot can change in a year.

madmaggie

I'm over 50, single, no kids. I've always been independent, though I've been told that can be off putting to men! I'm happy with my life, got a part time job that I love, good relationships with my family, great neighbours, my own home, car, etc. I think a man would find it difficult to live with me, it would be MY house, MY car, MY money, and I'm so used to have things MY way. That sounds very selfish written like that, but I'm very content as I am.