Modern young fellas

OneoOne1

Went into a bar today. Sat at the bar when a group of young fella, about 6 or 7, came in and sat behind me. I was considering moving as I expected them to be rowdy and loud. After a few minutes I had forgotten they were there as they were so quiet.. I looked behind me and saw all of them on their phones not saying a word. Two of them were even using earphones.

I just found it very sad.

Please tell me this is not normal.

Joeseph Balls

OneoOne1 wrote: »

Went into a bar today. Sat at the bar when a group of young fella, about 6 or 7, came in and sat beside me. I was considering moving as I expected them to be rowdy and loud. After a few minutes I had forgotten they were there as they were so quiet.. I looked behind me and saw all of them on their phones not saying a word. Two of them were even using earphones.

I just found it very sad.

Please tell me this is not normal.

Not in my local anyway, the young lads mix with the older, play darts, 25 etc. Rural setting

drunkmonkey

The young lads are just as daft as the auld lads, like Joe said probably a city thing.

Wheeliebin30

If they're happy and causing no harm what's the problem?

It's a sign of the times.

kerryjack

OneoOne1 wrote: »

Went into a bar today. Sat at the bar when a group of young fella, about 6 or 7, came in and sat behind me. I was considering moving as I expected them to be rowdy and loud. After a few minutes I had forgotten they were there as they were so quiet.. I looked behind me and saw all of them on their phones not saying a word. Two of them were even using earphones.

I just found it very sad.

Please tell me this is not normal.

What's normal, is a lad going in to a bar and horsing in to 10 pints like we did 20 ago normal, if you asked for a coffee you would be ran out of town, the whole industry is changing for the better some bars are slow to change and probably will close. Go with it.

eviltwin

It's not just lads who do this or young people either. I've been out with friends and they've spent the first twenty minutes or so updating facebook, posting photos of their pints etc. I know one lad who takes a photo of every location he is in and asks people to guess where he is. He's 40. I've been out with people who communicate through FB even though they are sitting at the same table. Bonkers stuff. It's attention seeking crap. But it seems to be the norm.

HandsomeBob

I'm 30 and have been guilty of it. I've always loathed the social media craze but at the same time it's quite difficult not to be swept up with it, as it's huge even with my own peers.

As I'm getting older I'm trying new things to actually leave the phone at home. Little things like buying a watch so I know the time.

But it is still quite difficult. The way society is with smartphones you're at the beck and call of people and family 24/7. So there's always the concern about missing an emergency or a request for help from someone should I leave it at home.

But I am going to plough on with using it less in 2018. It's something I need and want to do.

Wanderer78

HandsomeBob wrote:

But it is still quite difficult. The way society is with smartphones you're at the beck and call of people and family 24/7. So there's always the concern about missing an emergency or a request for help from someone should I leave it at home.

In the total amount of phone calls I have received throughout my life, I've only ever received a couple of true emergency calls, phones are not really that important, but we are being made to think and feel they are, and it's working.

I'm largely uncontactable, phone is regularly turned off, and no where in my company, my life is fine, and strangely I miss very little

irishman86

kerryjack wrote: »

What's normal, is a lad going in to a bar and horsing in to 10 pints like we did 20 ago normal, if you asked for a coffee you would be ran out of town, the whole industry is changing for the better some bars are slow to change and probably will close. Go with it.

I'd be delighted with the quiet lads rather than the bravado arent we great getting ****ed lads. Like you said the times are changing

People in general are hooked to their phones now. Sure, there are some people who rarely check their phones but most people are completely wired into checking their social media apps regularly. Get used to it. And it's not just these guys in the pub. You'll see it in restaurants, nightclubs, and even performances. While originally I thought women were more likely to behave like this, I'd guess its rather equal amongst the genders now.

On a side note, the bars in my hometown are mostly dead in the evenings. I can definitely see why a group of guys might turn to their phones when they hit the bar. Any real fun is happening at house parties in my area.

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jobless

Fcuk the phones, it's the no socks trend I'm confused as fcuk about... Where did this originate from

Dakota Dan

Young men nowadays are turning into pansies.

emeldc

My OH goes to China for work a few times a year. She was in an up market restaurant one night and noticed that the four people at the table beside her were on their phones for the entire night without hardly speaking a word to each other. When she asked one of her Chinese colleagues what was going on she told her that they were playing an online game with each other

xabi

emeldc wrote: »

My OH goes to China for work a few times a year. She was in an up market restaurant one night and noticed that the four people at the table beside her were on their phones for the entire night without hardly speaking a word to each other. When she asked one of her Chinese colleagues what was going on she told her that they were playing an online game with each other

That’s no different than a group of kids playing PlayStation together. We did that 20 years ago.

bob50

jobless wrote: »

Fcuk the phones, it's the no socks trend I'm confused as fcuk about... Where did this originate from

Yeah was wondering that too whats the story ? does anyone know ?

Dakota Dan

bob50 wrote: »

Yeah was wondering that too whats the story ? does anyone know ?

It's as strange as the undersized suits a few years back.

Goodshape

xabi wrote: »

That’s no different than a group of kids playing PlayStation together. We did that 20 years ago.

PlayStations while you ate? In a restaurant?

StupidLikeAFox

Dakota Dan wrote: »

Young men nowadays are turning into pansies.

Please describe your ideal man

Dakota Dan

StupidLikeAFox wrote: »

Please describe your ideal man

Women are more my taste.

Bullocks

jobless wrote: »

Fcuk the phones, it's the no socks trend I'm confused as fcuk about... Where did this originate from

Must be the most uncomfortable way to wear shoes

emeldc

emeldc wrote: »

My OH goes to China for work a few times a year. She was in an up market restaurant one night and noticed that the four people at the table beside her were on their phones for the entire night without hardly speaking a word to each other. When she asked one of her Chinese colleagues what was going on she told her that they were playing an online game with each other

It's very common to see a large group of 15-20 people at a table in a nightclub where everyone will be on their phones throughout the whole night. I used to go out with large groups and I was the only one to go dancing. The remainder would sit playing with their phones, checking wechat and qq, or seeking matches on the "lookaround" for dating.

Most of the modern dating is done through phone apps too. I know a girl who met her bf on a phone app, they spoke for almost three months on the phone without meeting (they're in the same city), met after that a few times, and now they're engaged.

China is nuts about social media and phone apps.

emeldc

xabi wrote: »

That’s no different than a group of kids playing PlayStation together. We did that 20 years ago.

At €100 a head?

kerryjack

Dakota Dan wrote: »

Young men nowadays are turning into pansies.

I think you might have watched too much of Rambo over the Christmas.

El_Duderino 09

Dakota Dan wrote:

Young men nowadays are turning into pansies.

Harsh. A poster told me that the current man hating culture makes him feel awful about himself. I presume he was blaming feminist but this sheds light on what he was talking about. It's sad really.

Your by your grandfather's standards, your probably don't measure up to much either. Things change. Leave the young lads alone if they're enjoying themselves and not causing any harm.

Dakota Dan

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Harsh. A poster told me that the current man hating culture makes him feel awful about himself. I presume he was blaming feminist but this sheds light on what he was talking about. It's sad really.

Your by your grandfather's standards, your probably don't measure up to much either. Things change. Leave the young lads alone if they're enjoying themselves and not causing any harm.

If there is ever a man made or natural disaster that will mean people will have to go back to basics the pansies will be the first to die out.

Jerichoholic

xabi wrote: »

That’s no different than a group of kids playing PlayStation together. We did that 20 years ago.

At a restaurant yeah?

kerryjack

Dakota Dan wrote: »

If there is ever a man made or natural disaster that will mean people will have to go back to basics the pansies will be the first to die out.

LOL your right there Dan the ****e would hit the fan

silverharp

Deleted User wrote: »

It's very common to see a large group of 15-20 people at a table in a nightclub where everyone will be on their phones throughout the whole night. I used to go out with large groups and I was the only one to go dancing. The remainder would sit playing with their phones, checking wechat and qq, or seeking matches on the "lookaround" for dating.

Most of the modern dating is done through phone apps too. I know a girl who met her bf on a phone app, they spoke for almost three months on the phone without meeting (they're in the same city), met after that a few times, and now they're engaged.

China is nuts about social media and phone apps.

puts on fuddy duddy hat , not in favour of young people using dating apps. You have to hone your dating skills at the coal face, feet to the fire and all that. came across it somewhere recently that young people are losing subtle skills like body language or even basic flirting skills.

King of Kings

kerryjack wrote: »

I think you might have watched too much of Rambo over the Christmas.

and rightly so.
too many low testosterone young lads knocking about.


One thing I notice in the gym is that their are young lads training together but wearing headphones...reasonable thing to do when you are on your own but training in pairs...wtf...

qwerty ui op

eviltwin wrote: »

It's not just lads who do this or young people either. I've been out with friends and they've spent the first twenty minutes or so updating facebook, posting photos of their pints etc.

You have a change in this first 20 mins in that this is what could happen but everybody could sit down and chat just like before and that wouldn't be unusual.

eviltwin wrote: »

I know one lad who takes a photo of every location he is in and asks people to guess where he is. He's 40. I've been out with people who communicate through FB even though they are sitting at the same table. Bonkers stuff. It's attention seeking crap. But it seems to be the norm.

This isn't the norm it's unusual

I think people born here in the 30's and 40's saw much greater changes than those born in the 80's 90's 00's.