Friend zone question

miss choc

So I went on a first date last night we had been texting and arranged to meet up chat flowed for about 3 hours no awkward silences and kinda thought hmm it went well I wasnt expecting a kiss as I know it doesnt happen but kinda got a bad feeling after second drink he was going to go and he was off for Christmas. We hugged and said he'd text me I didnt know if I liked him or not enough but would have gone on a second date to get to know him more as he was good craic. I got a text this morning that he wants to meet again for a drink as he enjoyed my company (but as a friend) I'm kinda confused now as in the past a guy would either want to see me again or just would say thanks for night and leave it at that. I would like to see him but it's a bit weird if I think he's a nice guy and I'm just having a coffee with him while he still looks around for someone else. I don't know what put him off last night I am tempted to ask if I did meet unfortunately it was tinder so I dont know if the intent was just casual or not looking for serious relationship but I got the impression he was looking for a girlfriend as he had been on a few dates. He texted at 12 today I havent replied as I don't know what to do I love having male friends all mine are not from sites but a male friend from a date seems weird. Should I reply or not?

I completely misread that. He specifically said as a friend? Nah thanks but no thanks

EndaHonesty

It's Christmas party time and asking a girl he just met through a dating site to meet again as a friend?!

It's weird for a few reasons...

Do you fancy him?

If no I would advise you to reply that you have enough friends and say goodbye.

If yes I would advise you to say you'd prefer a 2nd date to a friendly coffee.

If he maintains the friend angle after you putting it up to him just move on.

miss choc

Yeah like I didnt know if I fancied him enough not my type usually but I did enjoy his company and would have gone on a second date to test the water again but I don't go out of my way on a dating site all dressed up to meet a friend it would be a bit strange meeting on them circumstances again I'm chatty but I deffo would be stuck for stuff to talk about second time round a bit awks

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JackTaylorFan

A little odd perhaps. But I guess if both parties were open to it... a friendship could be worth pursuing...

Though it sounds like you are looking for more than friendship - and it seems clear that's all he wants from you. It sounds like you are in the friendzone alright. Do yourself a favour and drop it, OP - unless you want your head-wrecked.

I know I have met guys on dating sites who thought I was very interesting to talk to, and despite the fact the two of us had no romantic chemistry whatsoever for whatever reason, some wished to remain friends. I honestly can't understand the mentality, to be honest, but perhaps that's because I usually don't find them half as interesting as I am. And so I can't be bothered. I don't really go on dating sites looking for new friends. Although I wouldn't rule out the idea completely, I've just never met anyone worth investing that kind of energy into. And even if I did, I'd probably have it in the back of my mind that one of us will eventually want more.