Housemates who lliterally live in their rooms

DivingDuck

andekwarhola wrote: »

The wealth of amusingly touchy replies would definitely suggest a lot of room dwellers.

It's a thread on an internet forum at nearly midnight. Did you really expect anything else?

Pac1Man

greencap wrote: »

most people just want to have a ****, regret their life choices in private, and go asleep.

- Rosa Parks, 1936

_Dara_

When I first moved to Dublin as an 18 year old in 2001, I had starry-eyed notions of me and my housemates being best buds. I think Friends put that in my head. But you quickly realise that you're not going to be friends with most people. That's why friends are so precious because they're don't tend to be the people you happen to be with at that time, they're not friends of convenience like school friends often are. And that's why friendships often aren't forged between housemates. They're just a random collection of people. Very occasionally lightning strikes though. By the time I moved in with my now hubster, I'd had 50+ housemates. Of them, I am still in touch with three.

J. Marston

greencap wrote: »

Because they're renting a room, not buying a seat at your social event.

This isn't Friends, there is no canned laughter or hilarious plot, most people just want to have a ****, regret their life choices in private, and go asleep.

Not hear about how you ran the gas off the electricity and the electricity off the gas.

Have you been writing poetry long?

bodice ripper

Thinly veiled I'm Rich Enough to Share a Flat Where Everyone Has Their Own Room thread...

juneg

I'm beginning to think I missed out here...In college I lived for 4 years with friends/ acquaintances from my course. We were all good friends and socialised together.
That was pre internet !! Didnt even have a television, lol. Entertainment was drinking and playing cards. The next year I got a flat with my boyfriend who became my husband... and now we have teenagers who stay in their own rooms and only come down to raid the fridge ! At least I have a cat....

jamesbere

I'm lucky that I've had some decent house mates through the years. I think everyone wants their own personal space, but it's not easy in a houseshare so people spend time in their room.

If someone had a problem with me spending most of my time in my room I'd tell them where to shove it. Not their business.

Ursus Horribilis

Most people who house share do so for pragmatic reasons, not because they really like sharing with strangers.

DivingDuck

Another aspect of it is that if you remain cordial but distant with your housemates, you can continue living with them for a long time with incident. If you get too close and spend a lot of time together, you can end up falling out (as one sometimes does with friends), and then you have to endure either awkwardness or moving.

Good fences make good neighbours, as the saying goes.

_Dara_

DivingDuck wrote: »

Another aspect of it is that if you remain cordial but distant with your housemates, you can continue living with them for a long time with incident. If you get too close and spend a lot of time together, you can end up falling out (as one sometimes does with friends), and then you have to endure either awkwardness or moving.

Good fences make good neighbours, as the saying goes.

Good point!

SuperSean11

J. Marston wrote: »

Have you been writing poetry long?

Better than any of the Adrienne Rich “poetry” I had to study

Vela

I've lived in plenty of house-shares. Living alone now but I'm looking at moving into one again to save some moola.

To be honest, I either click with people or I don't. And in all aspects of my life, I generally don't waste energy on people I don't click with. Why would I? I find people exhausting a lot of the time and I really value my own space and time alone, so unless we're really good friends - I won't be giving up my time on my own to spend it with you.

In a house-share, there are compromises. You have to have a chat now and then, even if you don't like your housemates that much/have much in common. It's just polite. But there's no reason that you have to be BFFs or hang out in the living room 24/7. I'm not going to waste my eve watching some ****e on TV I don't want to watch, when I could be watching a Netflix show I'm into in my own room.

I'll tell you what I think is odd; people who literally cannot spend any time on their own.

Riddle101

I spend a good amount of time in my room. It's like my inner sanctuary. I read, I watch tv or play playstation. It's just easier for me to relax in a place i'm comfortable in. That being said I wouldn't be against socializing with housemates. But yeah, I prefer my room.

somefeen

I'm the least social housemate there is.
I even avoid cooking if there's other people around. I have many many reasons for this 'odd' behaviour. Here's just a few.

1) I want to just cook my fecking dinner. I don't want to talk about what spices I'm adding or where the vegetables were grown, because I don't care. I'm hungry it tastes nice.
I also don't want to have to feel like I have to explain why I'm just having a microwave meal from Aldi. "Oh I'm being lazy tonight aren't I" and all that to head off your silent judgements, Mr. ****ing homegrown Lentils and oak-smoked salmon.

2) I don't want to chill out where other people can interrupt me. I've usually got 100 things going on my head all at once and if I'm in the room with someone else I might as well not be there anyway. Some people finish work and then 'switch off' some of us switch on and some of us also enjoy spontaneous ****.

3) I have other **** to do. Some of us aren't finished work just because we've come home. Last time I had a house share I was trying to start a business. Getting cornered in the kitchen and trying to sound politely impressed by someone's many many drinking stories wasn't a good use of my time.

4) Once I've established a trend of staying in
my room you bastards make the odd time I am feeling sociable as painful as possible with remarks like,"Oh look who came out of his cave" Exactly what the **** am I supposed to say to that that doesn't make me sound weirder?
Then you'll ask questions as to why I'm not more sociable, and Ill say something polite but plausible like I'm very busy with this thing etc. But then you'll ask me questions about that fecking thing and if I was lying I now need to keep lying and if I was telling the truth I'm probably sick of thinking about it which is the whole reason I'm down here talking to you in first place!!

5) If I talk to anyone I might be asked to do some housework

SuperSean11

juneg wrote: »

I'm beginning to think I missed out here...In college I lived for 4 years with friends/ acquaintances from my course. We were all good friends and socialised together.
That was pre internet !! Didnt even have a television, lol. Entertainment was drinking and playing cards. The next year I got a flat with my boyfriend who became my husband... and now we have teenagers who stay in their own rooms and only come down to raid the fridge ! At least I have a cat....

Must regret moving into that flat now

the_syco

Meh. There's no sitting room in this place. Nice balcony, so can be sociable during the summer.

Current housemates aren't too bad; last one was a coke head which the landlord took 6 months to evict via sheriff as he stopped paying rent after moving in.

Canis Lupus

When I flat shared we all became a family I guess. It was very Friendsesque. We all socialised together etc.

honeybear

I was a Greta Garbo housemate.

frag420

Because my landlord thought he could squeeze more money from the house by turning the sitting room into a besroom and sticking a futon in the kitchen...and I hate trying to relax or watch tv while the washing machine is on, people are cooking etc etc etc

Besides I bought a new matress recemtly, I am going to get as much worth from it as I possibly can!

Your Face

frag420 wrote: »

Besides I bought a new matress recemtly, I am going to get as much worth from it as I possibly can!

Sephiroth_dude

Vela wrote: »

I'll tell you what I think is odd; people who literally cannot spend any time on their own.

^^^ This times a million

ChikiChiki

My housemate is a nice lad but his sole topic of conversation is digital currency and how much he has made/lost for the day. I do be wiped from a days work and look forward to my space and chill out time at the end of the day. Once I get in the door the laptop is out and he is at pains to tell me his progress. I have zero interest in it and by nature am very introverted and happy in my own company.

In my opinion worst housemates are the ones that think your "weird" for being in your room. They need to grow up a little and be respectful of different personalities.

OldMrBrennan83

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DeanAustin

What a depressing thread.

I like my own company as much as the next person but when I was house sharing, I always made the effort to talk to my housemates and they did the same with me. And I say that as someone who wasn’t always the best housemate.

Some of the replies and sentiments expressed here (“too much effort”,”they’re boring and I’m not”, “if you want to talk to me, text or email”) are a bit sad.

Optimalprimerib

Mongfinder General wrote: »

Because most people have nothing to say and I don't want to listen to it after a day's work. I'd hate to come home every day to some arsehole sitting on my couch talking ****. If you want to talk to me text me or email. Otherwise fcuk off

49 thanks for this??? Proof that the world is fcuked

OldMrBrennan83

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Mrcaramelchoc

weldoninhio wrote: »

I live at home, in the family house. I spend 99% of my time in my room. I get to watch what I want, when I want, with no stupid questions.

Its tough being in your 50 s id say.

Mongfinder General

Optimalprimerib wrote: »

49 thanks for this??? Proof that the world is fcuked

There is a reason why people are glued to their phones most of the day. It's because the phone is a better source of company. Almost anything is available at push of a button. Listening to some tool waffle on is obnoxious, especially in your own home.

Squeeonline

Living in shared places for about 10 years now and I'm done with it. Next place will be with my partner or on my own.

I'm tired after a long 12-14h day at work and dont want to talk shlte, I just want to relax before I have to start all over again.

Pelvis

By FAR the worst housemates are the ones who NEVER stay in their room.