Give her a seat or not

gifted

So I'm at swimming lessons now with the kids...there a woman standing because there's no seats left....now I come from a family where I was told to give up a seat for a woman...problem though now is there's so many feminists around that I'm half afraid to offer her the seat in case she calls me sexist....lol lol


What would the men of AH do??



Apart from ride her...lol.lol

OldMrBrennan83

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silverharp

look at her and slap your hands on your thighs a couple of times

SeaFields

If she is elderly then certainly offer, yes.

The Backwards Man

Whether it's a man or a woman, stand up and say, 'I'm tired sitting, there's a seat here if you want it'. If they take it grand, if they don't, grand.

Lol.

Wibbs

I figure my motives and manners are my own, so I would offer my seat. If she is one of the readily offended so what? I won't change my character just because someone else hasn't found theirs.

Sephiroth_dude

I'd offer it.

The_Valeyard

Elderly yes. Pregnant yes.

Otherwise no. You could be accused of demeaning her by giving her a seat implying a woman must sit and not stand.

The Backwards Man

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Elderly yes. Pregnant yes.

Otherwise no. You could be accused of demeaning her by giving her a seat implying a woman must sit and not stand.

If you're fit to stand for an oul wan you're fit to stand for a young wan.

Offer it or don't offer it, that's the only choice that has to be made.

Sephiroth_dude

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Elderly yes. Pregnant yes.

Otherwise no. You could be accused of demeaning her by giving her a seat implying a woman must sit and not stand.

Demeaning her how ?

The_Valeyard

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

Demeaning her how ?

Taking the piss dude, taking the piss.

McMurphy

Ask her to sit on your lap, you could talk about the first thing that pops up.

Sephiroth_dude

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Taking the piss dude, taking the piss.

I knew that





:pac:

GingerLily

Sephiroth_dude wrote: »

Demeaning her how ?

It's the patriarchy deciding when women should be offended and by what sexist gesture!

_Dara_

No need unless she’s elderly or you think she’s preggers. No need to mention the latter to her if unsure, she’ll just think it’s being offered because she’s a woman.

Gerrup Outta Dat!

Modern women want equality AND special treatment. Why should you give your seat to a woman? Let her stand. I despise women who think they’re entitled to a seat.

Oops69

After the pros and cons of making th offer are weighed up the session will be over so don’t worry about it

SuperSean11

Push her into the pool

Gerrup Outta Dat!

Oops69 wrote: »

After the pros and cons of making th offer are weighed up the session will be over so don’t worry about it

OP don’t offer your seat. If women want equality then they’ll get it. Let her stand. I despise women who think they have more entitlement.

_Dara_

Gerrup Outta Dat! wrote: »

Modern women want equality AND special treatment. Why should you give your seat to a woman? Let her stand. I despise women who think they’re entitled to a seat.

Many women don’t expect it now. Despise though? Social mores don’t necessarily make sense and we all buy into them to some extent.

Ash.J.Williams

Offer it, if she takes it fair enough, if she declines fair enough... If offended push her in the pool

Dr Turk Turkelton

Had sort of the same dilemma recently.Was sitting at a bus stop beside a "heavyset" lady and I innocently asked her when it was due.
She roared at me that she wasn't pregnant.
I said to her I meant the bus you fat cun7.

corner of hells

SuperSean11 wrote: »

Push her into the pool

Exactly, OP will be barred from poolside and won't have to worry about next week's seating arrangement.

Sue Pa Key Pa

I would offer my seat, to male or female, based on need. I have back problems but if anyone was in greater need then I would give it up

Kivaro

gifted wrote: »

What would the men of AH do??

Obviously ask her if she is married ................ no brainer.

Balmed Out

Would have thought sitting looking at kids in a pool with a camera phone out would be more objectionable then giving or not giving your seat up.

Jawgap

gifted wrote: »

So I'm at swimming lessons now with the kids...there a woman standing because there's no seats left....now I come from a family where I was told to give up a seat for a woman...problem though now is there's so many feminists around that I'm half afraid to offer her the seat in case she calls me sexist....lol lol


What would the men of AH do??



Apart from ride her...lol.lol

Check first if she self-identifies as a woman?

This hold gender thing used to be simple......now, not so much

But yes, regardless, I'd probably offer the seat......sometimes it's nice just to be nice.

EndaHonesty

Gerrup Outta Dat! wrote: »

Modern women want equality AND special treatment. Why should you give your seat to a woman? Let her stand. I despise women who think they’re entitled to a seat.

It's pretty obvious from your posts that you despise all women.

The pathetic qualification/excuse at the beginning of that post doesn't hide it.

anewme

Gerrup Outta Dat! wrote: »

Modern women want equality AND special treatment. Why should you give your seat to a woman? Let her stand. I despise women who think they’re entitled to a seat.

Gerrup Outta Dat! wrote: »

OP don’t offer your seat??? . If women want equality then they’ll get it. Let her stand. I despise women who think they have more entitlement.

So good you said it twice. I despise women, yeah we get it.

Bit over dramatic? Despise is a strong word to use, given the discussion is around seats at Saturday morning kids swimming. I hope no one at the kids swimming despises women, not a good msssge to send to the kids.

Where did the OP say the woman even noticed he was sitting and she was standing.

She probably couldn't give a flying Fck.

The best answer is the person who said swimming is over now, don't worry about it. Some people will make a drama out of nothing.

wakka12

I would never offer my seat to a healthy under 60 year old of either gender unless I was about to leave and they were right there

Heres Johnny

As a man, I feel that it women want equality it's not just in the areas that suit them.

Equal pay, fine.
Equal opportunities, fine.
Equal seating arrangements, fine.

Expecting to be treated like goddesses, not fine.

Not all women are like this, I know.

For what it's worth, if she's good looking then I'd offer.

Ficheall

Ash.J.Williams wrote: »

Offer it, if she takes it fair enough, if she declines fair enough... If offended push her in the pool

Or offer, and if she gets uppity about feminism etc., apologise and say you thought she was pregnant. It'll go down a treat.

Gerrup Outta Dat!

Ficheall wrote: »

Or offer, and if she gets uppity about feminism etc., apologise and say you thought she was pregnant. It'll go down a treat.

She’ll hit you then. And the white knights will jump in if you defend yourself. She’ll get away with assaulting you because it would be a woman hitting a man.

EndaHonesty

Gerrup Outta Dat! wrote: »

She’ll hit you then. And the white knights will jump in if you defend yourself. She’ll get away with assaulting you because it would be a woman hitting a man.

Jesus... do you live in some alternative universe where things like that actually happen?!

Because here in the real world, where adults live, that doesn't happen...

Seth Brundle

_Dara_ wrote: »

No need unless she’s elderly or you think she’s preggers. No need to mention the latter to her if unsure, she’ll just think it’s being offered because she’s a woman.

Woah be careful there.
Too many men have taken a hit for thinking a woman was preggers when in fact she just eats too many mars bars.

Omackeral

gifted wrote: »

So I'm at swimming lessons now with the kids...there a woman standing because there's no seats left....now I come from a family where I was told to give up a seat for a woman...problem though now is there's so many feminists around that I'm half afraid to offer her the seat in case she calls me sexist....lol lol


What would the men of AH do??



Apart from ride her...lol.lol

You can keep your seat with no issues whatsoever as long as you promise never to say lol lol ever again.

Estrellita

gifted wrote: »

I'm half afraid to offer her the seat in case she calls me sexist....

Or she might accept or decline graciously. Not every woman is as highly strung and defensive as that.

I find it hard to believe many women would take offense. For any woman that does go off on a sexist rant then I fully back another posters suggestion to introduce her to the pool. It's just a kind gesture, nothing more.

whoopsadoodles

Omackeral wrote: »

You can keep your seat with no issues whatsoever as long as you promise never to say lol lol ever again.

He says it in all his posts. Normally drives me mad when other people say it but I love when gifted says it. I've no idea why. I picture him like a real cute Dad figure that's always messing and in a good mood

Lol lol. Ha.

anewme

Kids must have swam the English Channel by now. Hope the woman was not wearing heels or her feet will be in bits standing there that long.

whoopsadoodles

Estrellita wrote: »

Or she might accept or decline graciously. Not every woman is as highly strung and defensive as that.

I find it hard to believe many women would take offense. For any woman that does go off on a sexist rant then I fully back another posters suggestion to introduce her to the pool. It's just a kind gesture, nothing more.

Yep. I often get offered a seat by the Dads at the side of a basketball court/hockey pitch (and no, I don't look preggers ). So far I've managed to contain my inner crazy and be grateful and gracious for the offer. You never know when I might crack though!

The_Valeyard

Omackeral wrote: »

You can keep your seat with no issues whatsoever as long as you promise never to say lol lol ever again.

9or10

I probably would simply because I'd feel uncomfortable sitting there.

If she had a problem with it then Fcuk her.

Rubberchikken

if it was a man would you have posted?

Sephiroth_dude

GingerLily wrote: »

It's the patriarchy deciding when women should be offended and by what sexist gesture!

Ahhh ok I understand now....




















:pac:

super_furry

If she's elderly, pregnant or looks like she needs it, I would. Otherwise I'm staying comfy.

gifted

I didn't offer.....I just sat there and read all your ermmm interesting replies.....













Besides she had a nice ass and I was enjoying the view too much......










Lol lol..

Outlaw Pete

I'd give my seat to anyone who appeared to need it more than I did.

LadyMacBeth_

I'd be delighted if someone gave up their seat for me. I'd never expect or demand it but I'd take it if I was tired or feeling unwell.

gifted

LadyMacBeth_ wrote: »

I'd be delighted if someone gave up their seat for me. I'd never expect or demand it but I'd take it if I was tired or feeling unwell.

Lady....you know I'd always give up my seat for you.....

The_Valeyard

gifted wrote: »

Lady....you know I'd always give up my seat for you.....

And down comes the cage!!!!

retro:electro

I would expect any man to give me his seat and if he didn't I would sit on his lap and fart on him.