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Scared of women.
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03-09-2017 10:35pm#1
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I can relate to your post K8. I was also pretty badly bullied by some girls when I was a child from about 9 to 15 so it went on for quite some time and tbh it was severe although i still find that hard to admit. I was lucky that I still had some really good friends too though and I always stuck up for myself so I never saw myself as being bullied at the time. My dad was a stay at home dad for a good few years too while my mam worked. I have a brother and my best friend growing up, grew up herself with a lot of brothers so I wasn't surrounded by women that much at all.
Thats not to say i havent had my fair share of negative experiences with men as well in later years. I was physically assaulted twice on different occasions in broad daylight by a stranger. Both happened in the same year when I was 21/22 but it didn't change my view of men in general.
At 23, I would have been in the same boat as yourself and like you I was and am still great friends with my husband's friends. Most of my current girl friends are those I met through college or work. Of all my husband's friends gf's, i only really click with two and it took a while to get to know them. I have made a few newer friends in the last few years where i live aswell but it takes a lot of time to build that especially as you get older. I do think it can be more difficult for a lot of women. I know with my friends, we have to arrange to meet up long in advance where it seems my husband can just give his friends a shout on the day.
You also have to try not to look at women as bitchy. Some really are and everyone can be a little bit at times. As far as I can see, men can be just as bitchy as women although they are not known for it or seem to often get away with it by playing it off as "banter".
Most people are nice though so try not to think the worst or let your previous experiences scare you or taint that. I think you just have to make an effort to meet people, relate to other women but be yourself and eventually you do end up clicking with some. Try to have a conscious open mind when making new friendships
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I've had similar issues too, I grew up with mainly men as friends. I've in my 30's now, and I have a handful of close female friends (about 3) , and still have a good few close male friends. I've ended up meeting my female friends through my male friends, or through boyfriends. I go off the fact that if I'm the kinda person they like hanging out with, then I'll probably like the other girls they hang out with. It's held true so far
I think once you find common ground with someone, and that one thing you bond over, it's much easier.0
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